i have never come across an ideal human who isn't devoid of flaws or selfishness. Are we asking too much for a loyal, faithful, sane woman? Does such a woman or man even exist? In an ideal world perhaps such a person exists but here in reality? I just dropped a girl who I loved very much because I could not put up with her lying, manipulating, conniving ways any more. Am I just cutting my nose off to spite my face or should I have put up with it and turned a blind eye? Let's face it, is there any woman or man out there who isn't manipulative or conniving?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Is a faithful, loyal person asking too much?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I'm not and have provided corroborative evidence of historical disagreements with Danger. Conversely, Confession shall set you free and I will rid you of your BPD immurement with what you have self-contrived as "love." Up to you.
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So you had a few 'disagreements' with Danger. Any conniving and manipulative person could have done that to 'prove' they were different entities.guru1000 said:
Let me enlighten you OP. No charge either, although I'm sure you already know the answer. We're alone. We came into this world alone and out of it alone you go. Take no heed of those 'happy families' you see on facebook that exist entirely to make you feel the way you feel right now. They turn a blind eye every day and behind the smiles you see lies a world of torment and divorces just waiting to happen.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
sylvester, right on point. The happy family does not exist but only in really rare situations. Would you rather bet your financial freedom on that rare case or would you rather just enjoy your life? Would you rather walk around in a lie or just admit the truth? I would rather be lonely than miserable. Unfortunately, I have made that mistake not once but twice and I'm sure I will pay for every single bit of it. I've had my eyes opened so much in the last 5 years and I wish every single day to be able to give that knowledge to my 18 year old self.
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Copied and pasted as we all know Smilie, I mean Sylvester, will remove content after posting.:-) said:
Smilie, so you have a conniving girl too, like Sylvester, are obsessed with BPD chat, like Sylvester, are the same age and weight, like Sylvester, always post within 5 minutes of Sylvester, but you are not Sylvester?
Ya Sylvester, I just love debating myself for five pages and redating the thread five years back via my super-moderator powers.
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Lol. Me, smilie and every one else on this site. Ha haguru1000 said:
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Interesting how you and alter ego (who btw are both obsessed with Danger and I) alternate logging in and out to post. Maybe buy another comp so you can login simultaneously? O ya, I forgot, no monies left for another computer as you have failed to persevere in your solicitation venture.
Tell you what. You can destroy yourself with your BPD over the next couple years--or--I can enfranchise you within one hour. That's the beauty of free will, isn't it? You get to choose.
Tell you what. You can destroy yourself with your BPD over the next couple years--or--I can enfranchise you within one hour. That's the beauty of free will, isn't it? You get to choose.
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Lol. Ahahahaha. You do make me laugh guru. You know the way you attempt to push buttons such as the 'financially inferior' button reminds me of my bpd ex and how she would use similar manipulation tactics. I'm off to bed now but you have a good night.guru1000 said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Yes, yes, I forgot, you and alter ego just happen to both live in the UK, go to sleep, and thus can't post, at the same time. Goodnight Smilie.sylvester the cat said:I'm off to bed now but you have a good night.
O btw, how is the "failed venture attempt" a push at your buttons; I would assume that would push only Smilie's buttons?
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Funny dudes!!!
If I get to be master I'll breed 15 alter~egos who'll post threads and comment on them,sounds like fun:cheer:
Anyway the world is selfish not because it wants to but because it has to...
If it wasn't for our good friend Mr.Testosterone, we would be probably be loyal to each other(chaste)till marriage and what have you..
But religion and motherly harpies who discourage you from screwing around can't and won't stop biology...
So my good friend smilie,try to live your best as honestly as possible and maybe the good loyal chick your looking for will come your way...
And when she does Smilie,marry her..if not,**** her anyway
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If I get to be master I'll breed 15 alter~egos who'll post threads and comment on them,sounds like fun:cheer:
Anyway the world is selfish not because it wants to but because it has to...
If it wasn't for our good friend Mr.Testosterone, we would be probably be loyal to each other(chaste)till marriage and what have you..
But religion and motherly harpies who discourage you from screwing around can't and won't stop biology...
So my good friend smilie,try to live your best as honestly as possible and maybe the good loyal chick your looking for will come your way...
And when she does Smilie,marry her..if not,**** her anyway
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I said 'push buttons'. I didn't say my buttons.guru1000 said:
And I have to say, considering you were Smilie's 'mentor', for you to now use his 'failed venture' against him is pretty callous. But then you did admit to being a sociopath, didn't you?
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Interesting how my "tactic" prompted very personal memories for you.
Why the need to continue responding if my contention were untrue; indifference is your best defense. O yes, I've been forgetful lately (must be the sociopathy): you are your alter-ego's protector.
Smilie, are you in there; come out and play.
Why the need to continue responding if my contention were untrue; indifference is your best defense. O yes, I've been forgetful lately (must be the sociopathy): you are your alter-ego's protector.
Smilie, are you in there; come out and play.
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Because this is a discussion forum and we are having a discussion. Indifference on a discussion forum would render it pretty pointless wouldn't you say?guru1000 said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Discussion is for the sane. Identity crisis is for the insane. Nothing inherently wrong with insanity as it just means you refuse to be conditioned by the norm, thus an "outlier" of free thought unfettered by social conventions. Herein is an advantage--a genius among the herd--not an abrogation of human law.
Why not just own it?
Why not just own it?
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You're very clever. I'll give you that. You know exactly which buttons to press to get others to give you what you want. You'd be great in advertising.guru1000 said:
At the very least my discussions with you broaden my vocabulary. Until the next time, Mr Guru1000.