"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Girls are a distraction

comic_relief

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Recently, I survived a major car accident that almost took my life. While in the hospital (I still am). I have been able to look over my life and reevaluate my decisions in my life.

I was recently looking at my single-minded focus of getting girls when I first started coming here. I realized it was such a waste of my time. Why would I put that much effort into it. Was it to have companionship? Was it just to get laid? I can barely remember.

I wish that I could have ignored girls and did something more exciting! I could have learned a foreign language, went whitewater rafting, learned and already completed a geology degree, made more friends, took more bicycle tours, went sky diving, did a missionary trips, became a black belt, or did more exciting things with my life.

If I said "my life is boring," then I would be a liar. I just look back on it and realize that I could have done more. I could have been more successful, smarter, powerful, learned, and any other positive adjective.

This post is not meant to be a woe is me. The point is simple. I never got a girl through some trick or tip. I got them in bed because I lead such an amazing life. Whenever there was a conversation, I had something to add on a wide variety of subjects from mineralogy to feminism to white water rafting. WOMEN ARE THE RESULT AND REWARD OF LIVING A SUCCESSFUL AND FUN LIFE. THEY SHOULD NEVER BE THE SOLE FOCUS. Women never want to be sleeping with the boring guy. This is why "bad boys" win girls while "nice guys" go home and jerk it. They exemplify living the life they want. They move forward.

The entirety of this site is exemplified in three lessons.
1.) Be confident
2.) Be adaptable
3.) Always have a goal

These three lessons will get you far, but a word of caution. If you are living an exciting life just to get girls, and not for yourself. Then, you will lose everything. You might get early successes, but you will fail the longer term game. People will see through your little dog and pony show.

If you do this for yourself, then the sky is the limit. Suddenly, you will be choosing and be the guy the nice guy envies. People will call you the bad boy and you won't care. Wanna know why? You will be too busy living your life to care about opinions that are not true. You will know the truth and that will be enough!

- comic_relief
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Alvafe

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nope, you can do all that and still go ofter woman, if you want, and woman are not a reward for anything, at most theya re there to help a little, but mostly they will just tag along.


btw geology is not true science :p
 

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comic_relief said:
Recently, I survived a major car accident that almost took my life. While in the hospital (I still am). I have been able to look over my life and reevaluate my decisions in my life.

I was recently looking at my single-minded focus of getting girls when I first started coming here. I realized it was such a waste of my time. Why would I put that much effort into it. Was it to have companionship? Was it just to get laid? I can barely remember.

I wish that I could have ignored girls and did something more exciting! I could have learned a foreign language, went whitewater rafting, learned and already completed a geology degree, made more friends, took more bicycle tours, went sky diving, did a missionary trips, became a black belt, or did more exciting things with my life.

If I said "my life is boring," then I would be a liar. I just look back on it and realize that I could have done more. I could have been more successful, smarter, powerful, learned, and any other positive adjective.

This post is not meant to be a woe is me. The point is simple. I never got a girl through some trick or tip. I got them in bed because I lead such an amazing life. Whenever there was a conversation, I had something to add on a wide variety of subjects from mineralogy to feminism to white water rafting. WOMEN ARE THE RESULT AND REWARD OF LIVING A SUCCESSFUL AND FUN LIFE. THEY SHOULD NEVER BE THE SOLE FOCUS. Women never want to be sleeping with the boring guy. This is why "bad boys" win girls while "nice guys" go home and jerk it. They exemplify living the life they want. They move forward.

The entirety of this site is exemplified in three lessons.
1.) Be confident
2.) Be adaptable
3.) Always have a goal

These three lessons will get you far, but a word of caution. If you are living an exciting life just to get girls, and not for yourself. Then, you will lose everything. You might get early successes, but you will fail the longer term game. People will see through your little dog and pony show.

If you do this for yourself, then the sky is the limit. Suddenly, you will be choosing and be the guy the nice guy envies. People will call you the bad boy and you won't care. Wanna know why? You will be too busy living your life to care about opinions that are not true. You will know the truth and that will be enough!

- comic_relief
People can disagree with you, but seeing as how you've literally experienced this "Near Death Experience", I believe that you can speak better than anyone.
 

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Excellent post cr.

Keep the faith and hang in there. I know the healing process is slow.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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We are same age. Same mindset. I'll progress in my goals day-by-day. Climbing hard or never being seen. If I get a rejection these days, I do not care because it REALLY becomes their loss. I am successful. Them? Probably not. I got things to do. Bills to pay. Weights to lift, etc.
 

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I've just started a summer course at college. I find this post to be extremely helpful. Thanks.
 
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