"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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There is particular something I want to talk about.

There is a time.. and it's the most important time for you int his matter, from when you were a total AFC utnil you have soared up the issues wtih your AFCness to the point where you are satisfied. This is the recovery period.

And it ****ing sucks ass. It sucks, beucase you now know what you think you need to know to be successful, but yet, you aren't successful beucase there is still work to be put in to get there.

When I first found this site i was 19. while it took me about.. honestly.5 years to really get the light switch on, I snapped out of my total AFC shell quite quickly. I got it. And I wanted to start going on dates and I wanted t go out and I wanted to do all this **** beucase now i know what i was doing wrong.

However there was a problem.. I was busy wtih my new business, broke, fat lol, i had no more clothes that fit.. i basically was in no position to be dating women. I wasn't even close to being in a position to dating women.

It's like being in jail. You can't do anything about it. the end is so far away at least for me it was. Going out and gaming women at that time was not a viable option and wouldn't be i wasn't putting ***** over my business.

That's not even what made it so bad. what made it bad was i had 2 best friends who were in college, as we were college aged, who were swimming in *****. They would make me get out the house once a week and we would go bowling and they would have their girls there and i would be the adwarked third wheel. They would chuckle at me and laugh beucase all i could put together was a business wardrobe. It was humbling. Seeing girls at the bowling alley who I knew that i could game if i were in a better position to, with what i was learning, seeing them eyeing guys that i knew weren't on my level. that hurt. that's the worst kinda hurt.


However, I never would have had the success I would go on to have with women, if it weren't for those times. I had to reach into depths of my mind that I did not even know I had. I had to figure out how to be content alone, or i was gonna go crazy. I had to be content on not worrying about what the next girl is goign to do beucase i can't control that. All these, ****ing avg ass girls would wouldn't give me the time of day, and it wasn't their fault, it was my fault because i made the Dennison to take the career path that I took


2 things I took from that entire ordeal that i would like to pass on

1. everyday, i focused solely on making myself happy. I couldn't rely on other people for my happiness beucase it would never happen.

2. time is going to lapse rather you have improved or not. patience and focus are unbeable combination. There will come a time if you do what you will do that you will get it and it will all fall together.

3. you will come out more grounded, stronger if you follow through and don't take short cuts. Dont' be bitter.. this is the way i see it. every girl that passes me up without getting to know me, further justifies my rationale to spin plates and to date whoever the **** i feel like dating with no moral stigmas worrying me about what i should do. you don't want to give me the time of day even though i am a hard working intelligent guy, okay but don't ***** when i am railing a 19 year old over the kitchen table.


smooth seas don't make for skillful sailors
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DJ Fingz or Senior Fingz went through something similar. Supposedly he ran out of ideas and just started freestyling his game to the senioritas. You can be a couple of years out of the game, but no one can take away your game.
 
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