Hey guys. This is my first post here, but I have lurked these boards for a while reading up on tips and I gotta say.. Very helpful! . Well anyways, I've been kickin it to this chick in my class at college. She's pretty cute in her own way which i like, not drop dead gorgeous but still cute and pretty cool on a personal level. We began talking one day after class, she initiated the conversation while we smoked cigs together. Just talked about class really.

Well this turned into a regular thing, just shooting the sh1t after class talking about anything on our minds for 10 minutes, then off to our next class. A week from when I originally met her i decided to go ahead and say "Yeah you seem pretty cool maybe we can hangout sometime this weekend.. you have a cell?" she texted me her number and I saved it. I haven't called/texted her since I got the number 3 weeks ago. (bad idea?) Didn't want to come off as desperate or anything since I had nothing to text her about.

Well the semester's about to end and I want to find some way to hangout with this girl soon. I invited her out last week to go party with friends, but she said she was going out with her friend that night and wouldn't be able to make it. Any thoughts or suggestions? Anything helps. Thanks guys

I've been taught that whenever you ask a girl out and she resuses, and she don't make a counter offer, then she's not into you. I say ask her out one more time on a date, and if she says no, then leave her alone. And please don't hang out with girls. DATE THEM. They need to know you ain't their friend right away!

Well by "hangout" I meant more like having some coffee together 1 on 1 or maybe checking out a bookstore together. Then if all goes well I'm sure she'd be down to spend some time at the apartment haha! And she had plans to hang our with her friend that night for real, pretty sure she mentioned it before I asked her to hangout a few days prior. I'm sure I'll work somethin out

Ask her out again... wtf are you waiting for? It could be a legitamate excuse or it could be that she hates your guts. You'll never know until you ask her again. You'll be a better judge of the situation than anyone.

ask her out again - she say no - her ass is nexted. Its that simple.

Don't get your hopes up with this woman though .

Also they clearly know what you mean by "hang out". Young chicks dont date - it sounds boring and too serious to them. I had one chick interpret it as a suggestion that we have sex. She is a hottie, but a dork/nerd on the inside.

RSanders219 said:

A week from when I originally met her i decided to go ahead and say "Yeah you seem pretty cool maybe we can hangout sometime this weekend.. you have a cell?" she texted me her number and I saved it. I haven't called/texted her since I got the number 3 weeks ago. (bad idea?) Didn't want to come off as desperate or anything since I had nothing to text her about.

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Wait a minute. So you got her number based on the premise that you would "hangout this weekend," but at the end you didn't even call her for 3 weeks?

You should have followed through on what you offered. Women like men of action. If you say to her you'll taker her to a place you do it. If you don't take your chances to be with her then some other more aggressive and opportunistic male will.

When it comes to waiting 3 weeks that's too long. Strike while the iron is hot. Don't be so strict on this rule. As long as you KISS (keep it simple stupid).

1. CALL THEM don't text them: Show some masculinity. Let them hear your voice over the phone and get that implanted in their head. It works for attraction purposes.
2. Wait a day or 2: No need to wait 3 weeks that's way too long brother.

Well the semester's about to end and I want to find some way to hangout with this girl soon. I invited her out last week to go party with friends, but she said she was going out with her friend that night and wouldn't be able to make it. Any thoughts or suggestions? Anything helps. Thanks guys

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Are you trying to be her friend or her lover? If you're trying to be her lover why are you inviting her to parties when you haven't even kissed her?

1. In order to seduce you have to ISOLATE: This is basic stuff. It's easier to seduce a woman and it can be done more efficiently when you two are alone together.

Not only that but she accepting to go out with you just the two of you is a signal from her that she sees you as a possible romantic partner.

You haven't even won her over yet and you're going to take her to a place with a bunch of guys. She is nothing to you still not a gf and you haven't even kissed her yet. She is fair game to any other male there. That's not smart. You want the woman to be focusing ON YOU and YOU ONLY!

Read the last link in my signature for a breakdown on this

1. Don't involve them in your life unless they're already involved IN YOURS!: This girl is nothing to you and you're trying to reward her already by bringing her to parties with your friends? You don't reward a woman by bringing her into your social circle when you haven't even kissed her yet! You bringing her into your social circle is a sign of you trusting her and showing she is worthy yet she hasn't even kissed you yet!

Don't be rewarding women who haven't done anything for you yet.

Read the third link in my sig for more info on this.

^^this^^

Just a friendly critique. I see two mistakes.

1. You waited three weeks to ask her out. That was too long.

2. You invited her to party with friends. You need to meet her one on one or it isn't a date.

Like the others said, inivite her out one more time. Make it one and one and be specific about where and when. If she hesitates or declines or has some creative excuse, next her

Word thanks for the info guys. Yeah I see what you mean about bringing her to a party, that's also a chance to get CB'd.. Didn't really think of that til you guys brought it up haha. Well I plan on seeing what she's up to tomorrow night and will ask her if she wants to spend some time together after class. If that doesn't work out i'll def next her.

Okay here:

Get her IM, **** text, replies take far too long unless you've got a BlackBerry.

Then, start talking to her normally, but eventually you want to get into a sexual conversation with her, I do this quite a lot actually, so I know what I'm talking about!

Definitely MSN or blackberry or it will take far too long...

There's LOTS of things you can use to get into that sort of talk, ANYTHING really. Here's an example conversation, you can use what I did if you want, it's totally real I just copied it from one of my old chat logs, her replies bolded:

"Bin daydreaming about me lately?"
"Of corse im thinking of u right now "
"Cool im afraid I only daydreamed about you twice today"
"O no *my name* you're slacking"
"yer but they were very nice daydreams if tht makes up for it"
"lool of corse they were nice they had me in them "
"hah wel sum of u actuali is quite nice il have u know lol"
"such as ?"
"1 or 2"
"huh?"
"1 or 2 things about u r quite sexy IMO"
"wt are those things then ? "
"hmm u got nice legs i spose "

... etc ... then later (it's long to post it all :L):

" so u wuld spank me if there wasnt any privacy :S "
"If there WAS lol xd"

...
...

"let me toss u off ? "

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So it's just basically like that... It has to be gradual, or smooth, either way, just not unnatural or weird or it might freak her out a tad. Just find a way to gradually lead the conversation that way.

You'll be fine...

Either that or here's something that I used that was written by... Some guy on here I forgot... Say your DVD player is broke can you come over to hers and watch some great DVD you have at hers. Then tell her she has to supply popcorn playfully or something.

Yeah she couldn't go out that night either cause she was busy again, I'm thinking this chick is nexted. lol

instadate her after class. I've done this! I got a instant date with a chick from class once while we were talking after class. This only works if she doesn't have anything important going on though. Use tricks like bring the conversation to talking about food, how hungry you are, then invite her out.

Why next a girl? Does it really tax you so much to speak to her once a week if only through text? Contrary to popular belief, girls CAN change their mind about being interested in you, you just have to take a step back and try a different approach. Same as if a fat chick went away and lost a few pounds you could think she was hot, if you rethink your approach and hit the right switches her mind can change.

In fact I was no more than friends with a certain girl until recently. She used to tell me she couldn't think of me in "that way" because I'm "me". But now she's a FWB... The only thing that changed was the way I acted around her.

MurdocNiccals said:

Okay here:

Get her IM, **** text, replies take far too long unless you've got a BlackBerry.

Then, start talking to her normally, but eventually you want to get into a sexual conversation with her, I do this quite a lot actually, so I know what I'm talking about!

Definitely MSN or blackberry or it will take far too long...

There's LOTS of things you can use to get into that sort of talk, ANYTHING really. Here's an example conversation, you can use what I did if you want, it's totally real I just copied it from one of my old chat logs, her replies bolded:



So it's just basically like that... It has to be gradual, or smooth, either way, just not unnatural or weird or it might freak her out a tad. Just find a way to gradually lead the conversation that way.

You'll be fine...

Either that or here's something that I used that was written by... Some guy on here I forgot... Say your DVD player is broke can you come over to hers and watch some great DVD you have at hers. Then tell her she has to supply popcorn playfully or something.

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Just out of curiosity....And this is more of a philosophical question...

He has the girl's number. And he sees her in person. Why does he now need to add Instant Messaging into the mix?

It just seems like an added hurdle. All that conversation, typing back and forth...I've set up dates with girls I had spoken to for only 20 minutes just by saying, "Hey it's Iceberg from Saturday night. It was great meeting you. Let's do drinks Thursday." All that back-and-forth electronic talk just feels like two people with too much time on their hands.

With me coming from that school of thought, I don't see how this ****y & funny via Instant Messenger helps anyone. I could envision it working if it were how he normally spoke to her...you know, if they were in a study group, they exchanged screen names, and they spend classes IMing each other. But now it's like, he met her, talked to her, and got her number. Going to Instant Messenger sounds like a downgrade.

Just my philosophy.

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Just out of curiosity....And this is more of a philosophical question...

He has the girl's number. And he sees her in person. Why does he now need to add Instant Messaging into the mix?

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It's probably just the way I go about things but it works for me.

The simple reasoning is that it's more comfortable for both you and the girl to flirt the way I did in that conversation through IM.

That's just my experience anyway, but you might differ. Either way the conversation I posted is a guideline of the sort of thing I suggest he does.