i feel that once you become an item with a girl that you shouldn't still be spinning plates as that's technically cheating even if you dont kiss/do anything with her.

im concerned that this girl thinks thats ok i see other women as long as i dont do anything basically so she can do the same thing. to me this seems like a walking time bomb.

am i looking at it wrong and i should just spin plates?

before in other threads people said i should not put demands on her cos we aren't even together or going out but her principles seem wrong to me and i can't communicate this to her without her throwing a strop. do i have threaten her with walking away and actually doing it?

You are NOT dating. You are both able to do whatever you want until then.

It is not wrong. This is just the morality crew hyping some more sh!t.

You said you want to call the shots right? This is how you do it.

You keep spinning plates and keep talking to girls. If something happens, then it happens. However, you don't talk about it or brag about it. The girl will find out, sooner or later. She may even bring it up, but just completely change the subject or shrug it off. The key here is to NOT give her a direct answer. This may cycle through about 3 times until it starts to become a problem for her and she will do something crazy. She is going to want you, and the fact you still continue to follow your natural male desires is going to raise her anxiety to the point where it explodes. She is going to try and tie you down. SHE will ask YOU out. It's up to you to accept or decline, however you must keep your confident male frame and set the guide lines from the start. This is where the shots are called and you let her know what is acceptable and what isn't. If she breaks the rules then you covertly let her know by drawing back your attention from her. She will be trained soon enough. Remember to always keep the dominate frame. Don't ever fall back into the "nice guy". What you were doing at the beginning of the relationship is how you should act always. Do not "soften up". Girls will test you.

technically me and her are, and cos i've been saying to her from day 1 that we cannot be friends and if she chooses not to want to be with me i'll carry on with my life seeing other girls and not talking to her anymore.

in my other 2 threads i explain what happened where i kissed her she said it was a mistake and stupid and then we wont be together then 1 hour later she texts me 'hey do u still wanna meet up tomorrow? i still wanna kiss u.'

how do i covertly let her know i'll be drawing back my attention from her?

isnt it still too early to tell her what the terms are?