"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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she contacted me...next move????

djinhell

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OK, So I met a chick through a mutual friend about a month back. Shes a year younger than me, and single. On our first meeting (with our mutual friends) there was flirting etc.

Our mutual friend gave me her number, so I texted her a friendly text a few days later to which she replied with basic chit chat.

I saw her out the following weekend with the same group, and i overheard her talking to her girl friend about how shes into this guy she works with...so I just kinda decided I cant be fvcked to get into some competition, so I cool off her, and leave early that night.

NOW, just over a week ago, out of the blue she sends me a message asking where I went that night, how I am etc. Of course I reply just a basic text and ask her how she is....she said shes happy college is nearly over (me and her are both students), and she says we should celebrate that our work is over, and she mentioned the day when she gets paid, if I fancied doing something.

I reply saying yeah it sounds good, and we'll figure something out. And left it at that.

A couple days later our mutual friend asked me if 'the girl' sent me a message, cos apparently she was contemplating contacting me for a couple of days about going to dinner or getting coffe or something.

NOW, the date she said she gets paid is in just over a weeks time. But I dont know what to do...I feel I should re-initiate contact a bit nearer the time, and take control about where we are going and when.

In the past I would over-obsess about these things, and probably have been in regular text contact with the girl...But I have learnt to keep a distance, unless its to plan actual dates etc.

I guess really, I'm just curious about your thoughts on the situation, I mean, its rare a chick makes the effort to contact me to go out, so its kinda new territory, but I guess it means Im doing something right lol.

How should I go about setting up the meet?

I know it was a long one, so thanks in advance,

DJ IN HELL
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DonJuan11

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djinhell said:
How should I go about setting up the meet?
"Are you available for an early dinner Friday after work? I know this great little Italian place around the corner we could go to."
 

Allurre

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Don't be surprised if chicks ask you out. It can happen in the most indirect manner also.

Just take control, take the lead.

Tell her what you'd like to do -- go for action dates -- and make it happen.
 
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