"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Assume they like you

War Against Betaism

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I see this site almost like an army base. People come here as wusses, are given these tricks and techniques to use on the field, and they come back to the base with questions and situations they weren't prepared for. They are loaded with even more weapons but they keep coming back and back as new scenarios and obstacles spring up. Well most people neglect the most important weapon of all...the mindset. When people do tell you to bulk up your mindset, they usually tell you "be confident, be non chalant about things," etc. Though honestly, that's not saying much.

How about this...assume they like you. Usually when you master something, the easy becomes easier. I walk around with this half grin half smile face on and make eye contact with women all the time and just assume they're into me. When I do get the opportunity to get to talk to them, somehow everything just flows naturally; all these gimmicky weapons I was taught to do before all of a sudden are being spurned out through my unconscious mind instead of the conscious. Assume they like you and your life will be that much easier without sosuave.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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asid76

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Nice post. I do this alot actually. I learned it from my car salesman friend. He says he "assumes the sale". He doesn't ask them if they want the CAR, he knows they want it. He asks them what COLOUR they want. He is one of the top salesmen there.

I assume every girl likes me in much the same way as you. I also picture them ramming a vibrator up inside them while thinking of me, but thats just to give me the devilish grin they love. Haha. Thanks for the post. I believe you are absolutely right.
 

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The first time I realized I was actually starting to see results with women was when I noticed myself doing this without even thinking about it. If you try and mentally train yourself to do anything differently in your game, this is definitely it.
 

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very very true stuff

asid76 said:
I assume every girl likes me in much the same way as you. I also picture them ramming a vibrator up inside them while thinking of me, but thats just to give me the devilish grin they love.
lol this is so cool.
 

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I totally agree with this statement dj bible material. When you equip yourself with this mindset you amaze yourself sometimes. I like the name Suaveplayer LOL
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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War Against Betaism said:
How about this...assume they like you.
There much social research which indicates your liking someone influences someone liking you. They think to themselves, "This person likes me. Hey, I must like them, too."
 

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I do this all the time. I am a strong believer in the power of positive thinking and when I see a girl at a party, bar, store, or wherever, I just frame my mindset like "she totally diggs you" Even if it she really doesnt it doesnt matter anyways, because Im going to run game anyways haha and that confidence and "she likes you mindset" is usually pretty successful
 

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The mindset helps you relax a little because you are not focused on making her like you (not that you should be anyways) but it takes the pressure off, and you can act more natural, like that seducer you were born to be.

It's quite possibly one of the best advice to a new afc, rather than all the confidence posts, and all the other outer game stuff.

but my question is, with this mindset you assume she likes you so that even when she starts showing those signs like no ioi's you still stick in for way too long. call it persistance or desperation, but no matter how much you "assume she likes you" you still gotta be realistic.
 

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Those instances I treat her differently like a bratty little sister.
 
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