"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I just got FZ'd!

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so...the Target Ive been working on friendzoned me today after asking her to be my valentines date. She said the typical "I see you as an older brother or cousin" and "Im sure there are lots of girls that would want to go with you" sh!t that are usually given as examples when you get friendzoned. OUCH. I can't say im devastated but more like disapointed like "ouch, that sucks" or "damn, thats gay". But anyways, ive been trying to think of reasons as to why I got FZ'd and I really can't see right now. She gave the IOI's, we flirted alot, she gave the IOI's, I didn't give her compliments she didnt deserve, she gave the fcukin IOI's...So yea, im pretty sure it was me as usual and im trying to find little situations as to where I might have screwed my attraction over...Looks like Valentines Day is once again Singles Awareness Day, or Time to Jack Off at Home Day again. =/
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Sorry. You should have told her that you were just asking her out as friends, so she wouldn't be lonely, anyways, and made her feel dumb.
 
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iqqi said:
Sorry. You should have told her that you were just asking her out as friends, so she wouldn't be lonely, anyways, and made her feel dumb.
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Thats all very true. In fact I had all kinds of scenarios of how to reverse the rejection but I didnt. Why? I was honestly getting sick and tired of waiting on this chick and just wanted to know if I really had a chance. So when she gave me that long ass friendzone reply, yes, I was disapointed, but at the same time relieved. More time and energy spent on this long delay would have probably screwed with my head alot harder. So I basically told her "Hey, its all good. I told you now to worry and that there was no pressure! Don't worry about it.". I dunno if that was exactly the best PUA/DJ response, but Id rather take the loss as it is and learn from it. Isnt that what DJ's are supposed to do?
 
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(I think it was written in the DJ Bible that) the essence of confidence in the game is that you are always sure you can take away something from the interaction. You may not succeed (like in this case, getting the girl to agree to be your Valentine) but you will still achieve something from it nevertheless. You managed to get it out of your system and felt relieved afterwards. I think that's good enough. :)

Try asking more girls out for any special occasion though (stacking dates). Many of them will be flakes or say no, but when you have a decent enough number of prospects, you're almost guaranteed to have a solid one. If you happen to have more than one, do what girls do (as they often get many offers from guys) and...flake! :D
 
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(I think it was written in the DJ Bible that) the essence of confidence in the game is that you are always sure you can take away something from the interaction. You may not succeed (like in this case, getting the girl to agree to be your Valentine) but you will still achieve something from it nevertheless. You managed to get it out of your system and felt relieved afterwards. I think that's good enough. :)

Try asking more girls out for any special occasion though (stacking dates). Many of them will be flakes or say no, but when you have a decent enough number of prospects, you're almost guaranteed to have a solid one. If you happen to have more than one, do what girls do (as they often get many offers from guys) and...flake! :D
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Yea, ive been having trouble getting new plates for about a year now. I mostly relied on school to meet new chicks but the problem is I havent been taking many classes because Im close to fullfilling all my pre-req's and taking extra courses means wasting time really. Also, I dont trust my night game very much either. Ive been clubbing every weekend for the past 6 months almost and I only managed to get one number and a punch to the back of my head(long story). Yea, Im a day game kind of guy. As for my, well, former target shes moving back to Texas soon so things can only get better I hope.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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