My gf has been extrememly negative lately. She hates her internship and dreads getting up every morning to go there. And i know chicks b*tch and complain, thats what they do. I dont mind listening to it here and there. But lately its just too much. The other night we met up for dinner, and from the instant i saw her she was upset and complaining bout her job. Which to me is annoying. Im only dating this girl 3 months, and shes already acting like im supposed to be her emotional tampon?

I mean after 3 months shouldnt u still be putting on a happy face for the person ur dating? Hell i think even if ur married 10 years you shoiuld try to do that, cuz your going out to dinner and it shouldnt be a negative b*tch fest, it's supposed to be having fun. It's one thing to make a whiny comment or two cuz lets face it we all do, but to start doin that sh*t from the second we meet up is ridiculous. Not to mention we talked bout how much she hates it the whole dinner.

What do u guys think? Is this normal? This happened with another girl i dated once who was obsessed with her weight and her grades and other bs and after we were dating a while, it was all negative with her too.

I hate being in a great mood, and then having to get her negative vibe rubbed off on me all the time, it seems like a lot of chicks are like that. It's annoying too, because then when i try and change the subject and talk about something fun, and she teases me sometimes for all my enthusiasm. Like as if im being a dork for being interested in something. I dunno, im starting to think i should change the way i treat her. I'm being way too nice and entering into her reality. I just wish i knew how to do it without being too much of a d*ck.

don't bring the **** from work home and don't bring the **** from home to work

not everybody, (sadly I was one of them), is completely adjusted to the real world and can separate their work/personal problems from their relationships. These people really have to whine/talk it out until they are over the stuff. If it gets too much for you, just encourage her and occasionally crack jokes about her situation could be worse (not a cancer patient/ BLIND/ has HIV/ broke/....) and to look on the bright side. (Always snaps me out of it.)

Have you tried changing the topic to something better? Usually when a woman is complaining about something, in a way she is unhappy possibly with the current relationship she's having with you and isn't getting enough love or whatever. I don't mind playing the therapist when it comes dealing with girls, but I do mind if they ain't giving me some of their honey cause that is why I and other men date women.

She should be able to vent some of her problems to you, that's just part of the package of being her bf... but enough is enough. If it's getting to the point that she is just complaining all the time and it's bringing you down, then you are going to have to put a stop to it.

Something like "I'm bored of that now, what else have you got to talk about?" and don't say it with a smile on your face.

In fact, instead of talking it out of her system, she should be fvcking it out of her system and using you for angry sex. Maybe you should suggest that.

Having a gf is supposed to be fun, remember?

Many people (including men) need to share their worries with the person they trust most (e.g. their partner). And all they want is an ear to listen to them.

But when the thing becomes a CONSTANT thing as to fill your life with negativity...then you have to take action. And you do that by offering advice or simply telling her that she needs to find a way to solve her issue either by adjusting her schedule, quitting, or whatever. Because bringing the SAME negativity all the time is not doing her nor YOU any good.

Or you can even tell her to simply stop *****ing about it because you don't want to hear it anymore, if it turns into a fight just let her you that you don't care what happens at her work.

I know I replied to this thread. What the hell....

Basically, leave work problems elsewhere when it is your time together. Tell her it either she shuts the hell up about work, or you're going home. Put her in her place.