"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dazz

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I know this is probablly gonna be long, but just hear me out and give me some advice.

Well, I am a freshman in highschool, and I have liked this girl since spring of last year. We have been in the same middle school for the last three years. I have never shared a class with her, and I have only spoken to her twice. In September I started slipping anonomous love notes into her locker. Smy friend told me she wanted to know who was the "fool in Love" ( my signed name in the letters). Well finally before Christmas I had had enough so right after school, I ran to her block and saw her walking to her house. I am 15 steps behind her and I am scared as ****. I force myself to say "Hey, Erica?" She turns and says "hi" back thinking I was just greeting her and not asking her a question. Well, she finally gets to her house and I say once again "Hey, Erica?" From her doorstep she turns and says "yes?" I look at her from the street and say "I am the fool in Love". Suddenly, she gets extremelly nervous. I then say "Would you like to go out with me?". She said nervously the killer words that girls abuse "Lets just be friends" I smile and say "Well, would you like to get to know eachother better?" She says "sure" I say "ok, bye" she says "bye" and goes inside. Now, I felt like ****(this was on December 22nd.) and that whole break was miserable because all I wanted was her. The day before school starts, my friend IMs me and tells me that her cousin who is a friend of mine told her all new years eve that se should go out with me.He also told me she likes this other kid. I kind of expected that, but when he told me who it was I was shocked. She liked this other kid that I comparing myself to, am a thousand times better. I am stronger and have a much more of a fit body than him. I am more attractive than him, and I am atleast three inches taller than him. He is almost 17 and is still a freshman, so he must have been left back, and I'm just alot more fun then him. He hangs out with the wrong crowd, many of who smoke weed.I know I couldn't let my cherished love be with him. I wondered why she like him, and then it hit me that I have to get to know her better before we start going out. Right now everytime I see her in the halls we both get nervous. My dillema is that her and I do not share any classes, but that other guy does. How can I ever get to know her better in school, and how can we ever talk?? Once again she does not share any classes with me. Please help, I don't want my love to die!!! Looking through the posts, i realised that i committed a Don Juan sin, I put her on a pedestal in all of my love letters sum1 pls help me fix that also!!!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The Shocker

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It's over man. You screwed up so many times there is no way to fix this. Just think of it as a mistake to learn from and move on.
 

kalash74

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You have made so many mistakes...just move on and try to find another girl. Having one-itis for so long for one girl is not a good idea...you went about it the wrong way and need to accept that your chances are over.
 

noodle

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Its alright man...you tried, you failed, you learned.

Now move on.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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