"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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FR: Great till it wasn't

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First day of college. Sittin' in the hall waiting for english class to start. Short hott hispanic girl walks in and sits on the bench opposite me. She catches me lookin' at her, I smile and laugh after she looks away. Then its time to go to class, so I get up, and I hear her get up and walk behind me. We get close to the class, and I turn around walking backwards and say "Are you in the same class as me??". She's like "I think so...". So we go in, I sit, and she sits behind me.

I spin around and say "Hey, have you eaten yet?". It was about noon. She says no. I say "Let's go to Chili's after class, k?". She makes a surprised look, and she's like "....uh.... yea sure!".

So basically, I got lunch with a girl without even knowing her for 2 minutes, or knowing her name. Great, right? Of course. We traded names and stuff after that, and went to eat once class was over.

This is where the "till it wasn't" part comes in. We're chatting at the table, and then she asks "So what are you doing after this?". I said something about heading back to my dorm, and I redirected the question at her. She says "Oh, I'm gonna go wait for my boyfriend". :eek:

So yea, all that for nothing, I suppose. I'm still gonna game her, just on a lesser scale. If they break up or whatever, then I guess I can move in. Someone will probably tell me that bf's don't matter or whatever, but its not like I don't have a whole college full of opportunities. I'd rather not get a bunch of drama going right at the beginning of school.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well, the best thing you can take away from this is a new twist in your game, even though you wasted a bit of time on her :)

Nothing wrong with trying something different to make things more interesting.
 

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haha! oh man that sucks! yeah i think you got it right...I'm not down for stealing gf's either.
 

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If you think you can get her why not move in now? If she likes you enough maybe she'll leave her boyfriend for you.

Maybe she just wants the chance to flirt though, why else would she go out to lunch with you; I'm sure she knew why you offered to take her to lunch.
 

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She may have ****-tested you man. Go for it anyways. Make her say no.

Alot of my number closes come from a girl that says she has a b/f. Just ask her when the wedding date is. When she laughs/says it's not like that just say "ok it must not be that serious then" and move for a number or date..whichever your going for.

Props to this site, where I got that tactic....many a number close due to that one!:cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Similar thing happened to me a while back.

At my college last year, we were obliged to choose some sort of "activity class" from a list of possible options, presumably to force some physical excercise to go along with the normal classwork/etc.

Anyway, the list was very grim I can tell you now....but in the end I chose some swimming thing. BAM, I walk into my first session and there's a stunning hot girl sitting by the pool, bikini-clad and all -- so i'm thinking, nice one there, you clearly made the right choice you utter genius (*laughs at loser friends off playing tennis*what a mistake-a to make-a). Anyway as I was saying, I see this hot girl (HB9 maybe) ... I was extremely nervous but pulled through eventually and started a conversation.

I cant remember many details about what I said to her (it was last year)..though I do recall a great joke about me being good at the "breastroke":cool: . We talked over a couple of sessions and I eventually got the nerve to ask her out for a coffee after class....[suspense]....she agreed! and seemed enthusiatic too, so I thought "great, i'm in there".

After swimming, we immediatey met up as arranged, and hit the town looking for somewhere to eat. And You'll never guess what happens next, yep...she gets a call...[ring ring]
Can't remember exactly what is said but it's something to the effect of "oh, its my boyfriend":rolleyes: ..and then she says "hey, do you wanna speak to him?" I MEAN WHAT? do I want to fvcking speak to him? jesus christ. Let's just say I didn't.

So yeah, we had coffee, it was dull, and things kind of went downhill from there on.

Why do they do it? why do they accept an obvious come-on and then rub their BF in your face? :crazy:
 
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The Juan and only said:
though I do recall a great joke about me being good at the "breastroke":cool:
lol...nice! but seriously, did you ever find out why she wanted you to talk to her boyfriend? wtf? That might have been and interesting conversation.
 

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Who paid for lunch?
 

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Ace of Flames, isn't it great to attend a new school and start fresh, especially with an understanding of how male and female interactions work? I love it.
 

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ValleyDJing said:
lol...nice! but seriously, did you ever find out why she wanted you to talk to her boyfriend? wtf? That might have been and interesting conversation.
Nope, not a clue:confused: Maybe she though it'd be funny/gets a kick out of that kinda thing.

Its pretty random though...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Fash said:
Who paid for lunch?
We paid individually.

Konjac: Yea, its an advantage for sure. Its fun to watch people squirm in social situations, and interesting to notice a pick-up that I probably never would have seen before.
 
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