"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Ganji games...

Guillain

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I've played Ganji games with this girl. It didn't work at all, when I went back to see her she was really rude and disrespectful because I stopped contact with her for 3 weeks. She always was a good friend of mine but now when I see her in the hallway she just looks at me without saying anything, she has the pissed attitude. It's really annoying me because we were great friends and I miss her a lot. Me stopping contact with her for 3 weeks made her go so pissed at me... but I don't want to send her e-mails to appologize cause SHE was disrespectful, but in another way, I really miss her, I don't want to be her boyfriend, I just want to gain back the friendship I had with her. Anything I can do? I mean, whenever I see her now she either look at me and don't say a word or just pretends she didn't see me. How can I turn things around? And please don't tell me stuff like "forget about that *****".. Thanks DJ's :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Keep playing tha ganji games.

It would also help if you could "forget about that *****"
 

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Yea but the more I stop seeing her, the more pissed she is. But yea, forgetting her would be the best solution.
 

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Since you don't wanna date her, perhaps you could try... talking to her? Let her get rude and disrespectful, find out exactly what she's pissed about, then BS your way out of it. If you want the friendship back, just talk to her and say whatever is necessary to accomplish that.

And why not apologize? Because SHE was disprectful? Man, you blew off for three weeks a girl you want as a friend. That's also slightly disrespectful if you ask me.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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im sorry but why are you so stupid?

why would you try this with a friend if you didnt think of the consequences

the best thing to probably go and is....

(trying to figure a solution)

not my personal favorite but id go with lying

tell her (im having ethical doubts with this) that your grandma/pa was in the hospital and almost died and that youve been really depressed all week

itll probably throw her in an akward direction b/c she cant be on the offensive anymore

i dont like lying but it is worth it to save a frienship, kapeesh?
 

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...YOU DON'T GANJI UNLESS THE FRIENDSHIP IS WORTH LOSING FOR A CHANCE TO BE WITH THIS GIRL!
 

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Which brings me back to my original response... Cut the sht, and talk your way out of it.

The alternative to lying is just striking up a conversation, calmin' her down after she gets all rude with you again, and telling her whatever she wants to hear to make up for it. There's a thousand different things you could say to get the results you want, just pick one. If you dated her at all before all the games you might just say that when you two were out you realized that you preferred having a friendship, and thought it would be a good idea to stay away for a little while. She'll say one of two things:
1) "I agree" - and now she's your friend again (almost, atleast).
2) "That was stupid" - and you'll respond with "Yeah, it was a mistake, but I'm fixing it now."

If you're gonna try to lie your way out of it, make the lie realistic and believable. Once you have a good story, stick to it and don't ruin it by changing it around. If you'd rather not lie to this girl you want as a friend, (my preference) just apologize and, again, tell her what she wants to hear. It can't hurt your situation.
 

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she's your friend and you ganji her? uh huh.

And you wanna be her friend and... wait... you havn't thought about talking to her yet? DUDE! WISEN UP. Go talk to her and get it done. How dare you post on this board when you can't even keep a fvcking friendship or can't even deal with such petty problems as this?!
 

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Criticism is fairly easy... have any suggestions, Likretsam? Or should we assume what you say is correct because you included some all-caps and exclamation points?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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yea it backfired on me too, but it was with a girl i hardly knew so i don't mind:)
 

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Originally posted by naluholo
Which brings me back to my original response... Cut the sht, and talk your way out of it.

The alternative to lying is just striking up a conversation, calmin' her down after she gets all rude with you again, and telling her whatever she wants to hear to make up for it. There's a thousand different things you could say to get the results you want, just pick one. If you dated her at all before all the games you might just say that when you two were out you realized that you preferred having a friendship, and thought it would be a good idea to stay away for a little while. She'll say one of two things:
1) "I agree" - and now she's your friend again (almost, atleast).
2) "That was stupid" - and you'll respond with "Yeah, it was a mistake, but I'm fixing it now."

If you're gonna try to lie your way out of it, make the lie realistic and believable. Once you have a good story, stick to it and don't ruin it by changing it around. If you'd rather not lie to this girl you want as a friend, (my preference) just apologize and, again, tell her what she wants to hear. It can't hurt your situation.
Thanks bro. Helped me out.
 
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