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subconsciously they're probably trying to recreate the image of the first person that abandoned them, ie their father, first bf etc...

Abandonment issues is at the core of their disorder. She would do the most disrespectful things that completely showed her lack of empathy for me, but whenever I would tell her to GTFO she would latch on to my leg and cry and beg until I gave in. This happened weekly for two years. Talk about...

Gs750, I hear ya man, since NC I've received calls from private numbers in the middle of the night where the person on the other end doesn't say anything, attempts to reset my gmail password (nobody but her knows my email) and have seen her walk past my work a couple times. It's sad really...

Thank you soulforge and theystaysameage. Stories like these are what keeps me motivated and moving on. I hear what you're saying about the greys, I've got my first grey and started losing some hair. It's amazing how stress affects you physically. But I'll just take your guy's advice and just...

42 days NC, 3.5 months sice breakup. Its gotten better, but this one Fvked me up pretty bad. I hope what ppl say about the 60 day mark is true because this is emotionally taxing. I really dont think I'll have an issue breaking NC, but the constant ruminating over everything is really stressful...

Seriously read my thread I started yesterday. My relationship with my ex started EXACTLY like this. I was 26 and she was 20, she was drop dead gorgeous and I had a great job and a dfferent girl every week. I caught her texting her ex bf very early on in the relationship and broke it off but she...

****o207, thanks for the advice bro, sorry you're going through the same hell, sucks doesn't it? I'll deff be taking some pointers including going on a social media blackout and blocking her number. How do you stop the ruminating thoughts? I've been keeping a list of the 50+ things she did...

BlueAlpha, I dont think I am going to have a problem with NC, as the worst is over because its been 3.5 months and I have learned my lesson from the first couple attempts to reach out early on (because i wanted closure) and she essentially destroyed me emotionally. She literally called me...

Dang ranger you should be proud of yourself, like onion said, kudos. Thats what sets men apart from weak people. A man knows how to make the best of any situation. Thats how I know that by being introspective and accepting responsibility for LETTING her treat me like that, then I can learn to...

Ranger, man im sorry to hear about what happened, especially with kids involved. Im sure thats not easy. I couldn't imagine what it would be like having children with one of these demonds. Funny thing is, she would literally yell at me for not finishing in her. She claimed she was on the pill...

Dang Between_the_lines, that's pretty much what I'm starting to understand. It's actually a relief assuming some responsibility for what happened because it brings the power back to me. I realized if I had any self respect I would have not let her back into my life after ever time she...

Thanks a lot guys, it's amazing how they have the ability to screw your head up soo bad. And I can't believe how similar all your stories are. I feel like men should have some kind of formal training on BPD before entering the dating world. I've dated and been broken up with and done the...

Onion, thanks man I really needed to hear that. It's nice knowing people have been through this and survived. I just don't know how long it will take to feel better. I got an apt set up with a t to talk it out. I'm thinking I might have some codependency issues. Thinking worst case scenario I...

PairPlus, I've realized that is one of my biggest obstacles. The fact that I've put her on that pedestal for her looks. I'm just having trouble taking her down.

Expos, thank you. I will pm you when I get home. I'm working right now.

First and foremost I would like to thank all the good dudes of SoSuave who have put out priceless information on here regarding the BPD madness that they've gone through. You guys are lifesavers. Literally. I'm about 3.5 months out of my 2yr relationship with a girl who I believe to be BPD...