"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Funny reddit post shows how rigged the ( app) game is nowadays...

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Interesting post on reddit r/ dating (most vanilla forum about dating where both men and women chime in).

The last message in the second picture...a woman saying she's a chubby middle-aged single mom and she has more than a THOUSAND likes or messages...so she just deletes the app . Meanwhile most dudes cant get a woman to like then if their life would depend on it LOL.




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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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JFC, I just broke of with my gf of two years. Seems like it got even worse during this time.
 

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The real problem here is that women like her seemingly lack the reasoning ability to understand what any of this means. They just see a lot of likes, right swipes, DMs, etc they never actually stop to consider any of the implications and make any inferences to inform their behavior going forward. Instead of stopping to think this through to its logical conclusion, her ego becomes inflated to catastrophically delusional levels and they she starts to literally think she has the SMV of a celebrity.

She may have 1000 guys who swiped right on her, but how many of those men are simps or fat? Probably 2/3 of them can be eliminated right off the bat. Then with the remainder, how many are attractive? How many of them are tall? How many make a good living? How many are charming, sensitive, masculine, whatever the fvck else? The actual number of high SMV men might be something like to 10-20. Then the next step is to ask: of those 10-20 men that meet her criteria, how many would actually be interested in her long term? That number is probably under 5, and may very well be zero; so in the end all that happens is she continually gets passed around by Chads that only want to pump and dump her. Maybe there's like 3 potential relationships out of those 1000+ that could actually work, but in her sea of delusion and entitlement, she will never see it.

The whole thing is just ludicrous. Women are seemingly ignorant all of this and they never seem to understand it.
 
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The real problem here is that women like her seemingly lack the reasoning ability to understand what any of this means. They just see a lot of likes, right swipes, DMs, etc they never actually stop to consider any of the implications and make any inferences to inform their behavior going forward. Instead of stopping to think this through to its logical conclusion, her ego becomes inflated to catastrophically delusional levels and they she starts to literally think she has the SMV of a celebrity.

She may have 1000 guys who swiped right on her, but how many of those men are simps or fat? Probably 2/3 of them can be eliminated right off the bat. Then with the remainder, how many are attractive? How many of them are tall? How many make a good living? How many are charming, sensitive, masculine, whatever the fvck else? The actual number of high SMV men might be something like to 10-20. Then the next step is to ask: of those 10-20 men that meet her criteria, how many would actually be interested in her long term? That number is probably under 5, and may very well be zero; so in the end all that happens is she continually gets passed around by Chads that only want to pump and dump her. Maybe there's like 3 potential relationships out of those 1000+ that could actually work, but in her sea of delusion and entitlement, she will never see it.

The whole thing is just ludicrous. Women are seemingly ignorant all of this and they never seem to understand it.
Very true. When I hear women brag about all of the guys that want them, I remind them that the only kind of guy that they should count is the one that was willing to have a serious long term relationship with them.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I've done many many posts on this topic of swipe app / online dating

fundamentally do not see how this problem will resolve itself , the only way to beat it is by doing IRL approaches or Social circle game

Unfortunatley men have created a massive problem for themselves by giving women far far far too much easy online admiration and attention

I mean I can remember even back in 2020 a chick would post a selfie on instagram and you'd have men falling over themselves to like , comment and message telling her how amazing and special she is

And this was happening at a global scale...... granted today it has started to cool off a bit and people in general are posting and being less active on social media but I still believe this behaviour is rife on the apps

Men absolutely desperate for fast n easy sex and women just there for entertainment

Now the issue is none of this is translating well into reality I mean you go on a night out these days and you barely see the opposite sexes having any kind of interaction

The women are done up like instagram models strutting around thinking they Sh1t gold and the men are sitting the corner having d1ck measuring contests against each other and w@nking over each others gym pictures.

The social dynamic is absolutely cooked
 

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No way.

That girl is a one and done. No man would want to hang out with her.
 

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No way.

That girl is a one and done. No man would want to hang out with her.
???

Thats a solid 6. She will also have a thousand DMs in days.

Its time that men AT LEAST understand the environment they're operate within. Do I like it ? That doesn't even matter. All that matter is facts and facts dont care about your feelings.
 

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???

Thats a solid 6. She will also have a thousand DMs in days.

Its time that men AT LEAST understand the environment they're operate within.
Agreed too many men living in la la land ( or their mothers basement) in many cases
 

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The real problem here is that women like her seemingly lack the reasoning ability to understand what any of this means. They just see a lot of likes, right swipes, DMs, etc they never actually stop to consider any of the implications and make any inferences to inform their behavior going forward. Instead of stopping to think this through to its logical conclusion, her ego becomes inflated to catastrophically delusional levels and they she starts to literally think she has the SMV of a celebrity.

She may have 1000 guys who swiped right on her, but how many of those men are simps or fat? Probably 2/3 of them can be eliminated right off the bat. Then with the remainder, how many are attractive? How many of them are tall? How many make a good living? How many are charming, sensitive, masculine, whatever the fvck else? The actual number of high SMV men might be something like to 10-20. Then the next step is to ask: of those 10-20 men that meet her criteria, how many would actually be interested in her long term? That number is probably under 5, and may very well be zero; so in the end all that happens is she continually gets passed around by Chads that only want to pump and dump her. Maybe there's like 3 potential relationships out of those 1000+ that could actually work, but in her sea of delusion and entitlement, she will never see it.

The whole thing is just ludicrous. Women are seemingly ignorant all of this and they never seem to understand it.
Thats the balance of nature. Nature will ALWAYS find a way to even shyte out. If a woman gets 1000 likes, there WILL be a catch to it.

First thing that comes to mind is the mere fact that toptier dudes ;
- are off the market
- will use /pump and dump them

I haven't been on the apps for years now ( dont need them nowadays). I consider myself a toptier dude in the making..but my (former ) incel homies bought themselves wife's from 3rd world shyteholes , because they knew they wouldn't get matches nor likes anyway..

All that's left are vanilla guys in the 3 to maybe sometimes 7 range, and some ballers that run through women like its a sport. A sad outlook really..
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Very true. When I hear women brag about all of the guys that want them, I remind them that the only kind of guy that they should count is the one that was willing to have a serious long term relationship with them.
They also seem to think that if a guy wants to fck her that means he wants to date/marry her which couldn't be further from the truth.
 

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When I hear women brag about all of the guys that want them, I remind them that the only kind of guy that they should count is the one that was willing to have a serious long term relationship with them.
And entirely too many gals have no comprehension of the varied ways in which we "want" women. There's an immense difference between wanting an InstaTHOT whom one can f-ck on a grease-stained mattress behind Tasaty Freeze Vs Someone who's a viable companion. My observation, especially from the mid-10s -today... Many young women who aren't actually professional p-rn stars or even models are either

-Hopping on OF(Even though most, intellectually, understand: This can't go on very long/won't translate into a career in mainstream entertainment), for the sake of snagging easy money

Or

-Not only accepting donations for posing in lingerie and swimwear on social media, but openly ENCOURAGING their viewers to toss them a few shekels, in exchange for not wearing much clothes on Instagram

Even though they all claim to want a solid husband and kids, in the very near future. Doing my part today to steer our youth onto the straight and narrow, by sharing with kids the story of Sasha Grey

Who really DID achieve mainstream celebrity for a time, and at 18 spoke of wanting a white picket fence life some day. By 28 though, she was(literally and figuratively)run through, and at 37 now seems headed towards being a relic of a bygone era. Who no reputable man has any desire to wife up
 
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