"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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three teachers described me the same way: i finally understand my natural personality

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Hey guys, it’s Jhonny here!

I’ve been working on my public speaking and improvisation skills, both for my personal life and my career.
Iam working hard everyday to improve.

Recently, I attended two different classes/courses at two different schools and worked with three different teachers. Interestingly, they all told me pretty much the same thing.

They said:

you’re a small man, but you have a very great physique. You’re very charismatic. When you walked into the room, you brought energy and happiness with you, it's like you lit up the room. You have the kind of face where, when you smile, you bring light to the people around you, but also, when you're serious, you've something magnetic in your gaze. You come across as honest and genuine, and your laughter feels authentic.

Basically, they told me that my presence gives people the impression that I’m a genuinely good and trustworthy person, the kind of stranger you could trust, even without knowing him.
They said I come across as someone who listens, someone empathetic and reliable. At the same time, I don’t come across as a pushover or someone who is fake, overly agreeable, or clingy, basically, not a “nice guy” in the negative sense of the word.

They told me that someone like me could really thrive around other people in a leadership role, because when I speak, people naturally become interested in what I have to say.
They said I could potentially be some kind of educator or leader, a public facing figure, or the person representing a company, a sports team, or a sales organization, basically, someone who puts himself out there and represents something or someone.
The face of some brand out there.

Honestly, guys, this was really revealing for me.
For the first time, it helped me understand myself better, my strengths, my weaknesses, and the kind of person I naturally am.

I’m naturally the kind of guy they described above. And that’s probably why some of my weaknesses come from trying too hard to act like a “bad boy.” When I force that side of myself, I actually become less authentic, and I feel like I lose some of what makes me attractive, and maybe, people could also sense that by being a bit fake, while when I'm authentic I have higher energy.

They also said that they felt that I lack of apparent malice.



And now, by being the kind of guy described above, I’m curious about your thoughts:

A) What kind of women do you think I attract?
B) What kind of relationships do you think I’m suited for?
C) What kinds of problems or challenges might I encounter in relationships?

One more thing: one teacher said that according to the book "The Art Of Seduction" I would be Natural → Charmer → Charismatic personality.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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