Does 'Familiarity' scrores you points?

[Maximummax]

If you frequent any place and you like a chic there, did you ask her out and scored a date?

people tend to feel more comfortable with, and slightly more positive toward, faces they see regularly (as long as the interactions stay pleasant). Being a consistent, polite, low-pressure regular can make you feel safer and more familiar than a complete stranger. That removes some of the “random guy approaching me” friction.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

At first glance I thought "Oh no! Not ANOTHER ONE!" lol

I actually think there is something here. A lot of ONS or STR of mine have come from this type of interaction. Not only can you DHV at this place and show that you're socially apt, but you can also show proof of consistency. You're likely going to dress, act, joke, or 'vibe' the same way at this place, giving her the 'comfort' factor instead of the 'ick' factor.

Plus, if she hangs out at the same spot and wasn't just hopping from guy to guy at said place, chances are she is your type of fun and there may be LTR potential there too.

 

[The Duke]

I used to do this. It took about 4 visits spread out over 6weeks or so. You need to go when they aren't as busy and have more time to talk. I only asked for the number if I was certain I was going to get it. You don't want to get labeled as the guy asking everyone out. And just don't single her out, talk to everyone.

 

[Travel memoir21]

A good example of this is what I Call ' Laptop, Coffee chilling' at Starbucks or a cafe. Keep being a regular and keep coming over there and chat up the baristas and let them know of your situation and how you're a bachelor looking to meet Ms. right and things will come naturally if you've got decent social skills and got a calm good vibe about you.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I think waitresses, tellers, and other customer service workers often show interest in you during the first 2–3 interactions. After that, if you continue returning, you become just another regular customer.

In the end, customer-service interactions are often fleeting, and that initial interest can quickly fade once you settle into the role of a regular customer.

 

[BaronOfHair]

@Maximummax "people tend to feel more comfortable with, and slightly more positive toward, faces they see regularly (as long as the interactions stay pleasant)"

Next, we'll learn that

-Our oceans are filled with salt water

-High school football is mistaken for the pinnacle of human achievement throughout rural Texas

-Prospects of getting mugged are far higher on the South Side of Chicago than they are on The Gold Coast

To your point though: Yeah, a fella's dating and mating and life is far more vibrant if one is out in public regulalry, and his public image is that of a bona fide mensch

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

A good example of this is what I Call ' Laptop, Coffee chilling' at Starbucks or a cafe. Keep being a regular and keep coming over there and chat up the baristas and let them know of your situation and how you're a bachelor looking to meet Ms. right and things will come naturally if you've got decent social skills and got a calm good vibe about you.

That worked incredibly well for me in the mid to late 2000s, but after 2012 or so, there was a decent shift in the type of people who did this sort of thing or responded to it.