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Thebestthereeveris

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Id like to consider myself definetly above average in terms of success with women. I get stares everywhere matches on hinge with hot girls and gotten laid off both day game cold approach and night game mutiple times and through social circle. Ive been going through a 3 month dry spell.. i couldve gotten laid but with not too hot chicks. Is this normal for even what you would call a player or do i just suck now lmao
 

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I've known some players who would take what they could get. They would take the hot girls if they could get them, but if not, they weren't above getting with some girls I would never touch. Sometimes if the girl was too nasty, they wouldn't go all the way, but just get some oral.
 

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@Thebestthereeveris it depends on where you are, in my opinion.

A bunch of my FWBs fell off so I have to go out and meet girls. I'm having some dry spells, but they've been short; 1 was for about a month, another for 3 weeks. For me, it's more about whether I see enough attractive girls when I approach to get a success.

I probably worded that poorly...if I go out and only find 3 attractive girls at the venue, and approach all 3, a lot of things outside of my control would have to align to come away with a 33% closing rate. That would be a better closing rate than the top salesman in the country.

Conversely, if I go out and find 20 attractive girls at the venue (literally never), and approach all 20, there's a much higher chance at least 1 of them would be interested.

Basically what I'm trying to say is it's much more understandable to be going through a dry spell if you live in suburban Wilmington, DE than if you live on Brickell in Miami, FL.
 

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No, the longest dry spell I had was 2 months, but it was completely voluntary to have a clean slate after a nasty breakup.
 

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Id like to consider myself definetly above average in terms of success with women. I get stares everywhere matches on hinge with hot girls and gotten laid off both day game cold approach and night game mutiple times and through social circle. Ive been going through a 3 month dry spell.. i couldve gotten laid but with not too hot chicks. Is this normal for even what you would call a player or do i just suck now lmao
"In times of war, any hole is a trench" - loosely translated famous Colombian saying.
 

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Basically what I'm trying to say is it's much more understandable to be going through a dry spell if you live in suburban Wilmington, DE than if you live on Brickell in Miami, FL.
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Quality seducers will go through dry spells though 3 months would be considered a longer one for someone actively trying.
 

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Id like to consider myself definetly above average in terms of success with women. I get stares everywhere matches on hinge with hot girls and gotten laid off both day game cold approach and night game mutiple times and through social circle. Ive been going through a 3 month dry spell.. i couldve gotten laid but with not too hot chicks. Is this normal for even what you would call a player or do i just suck now lmao
I think it's normal.

When you go through the dry spells, you wonder if you are losing your touch.

However, when you are batting .40, you are on top of the world and can't nothing stop you.

The important thing is, to stick with it.

Keep swinging.
 

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Quality seducers will go through dry spells though 3 months would be considered a longer one for someone actively trying.
ive just been using dating apps and gotten a girl but lay was mediocre
 

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Quality seducers will go through dry spells though 3 months would be considered a longer one for someone actively trying.
2 weeks makes sense because shvt happens but shouldn’t be that hard to rebound if you have experience
 

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ive just been using dating apps and gotten a girl but lay was mediocre
Plenty of men can get mediocre lays off of a swipe apps. Those mediocre lays are usually short term and no more than a few instances of sex.

2 weeks makes sense because shvt happens but shouldn’t be that hard to rebound if you have experience
A quality seducer might take a break from trying to get pussie for a bit. It's unknown how long a break would be. During their breaks, they wouldn't be trying at all. They wouldn't be app swiping or approaching strangers.

I think most quality seducers don't get too emotionally involved in their interactions. That makes it easier to rebound. They might do something like 2-4 weeks. I can envision a guy needing to have sex after 2-4 weeks of no sex and he starts trying again. Once he starts trying again, it could take him up to a month to get laid again depending on his effort level and overall SMV.
 
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