Recent content by SouthernGal

Az: We lived in two different states at that time. I did not come here seeking any kind of sympathy-don't need it. I came here wondering how to approach a male about a specific issue. My kids and I are MUCH better off without dad anyway.

Okay...answering more. 1. Ex-Husband still there but only calls an average of once per month. I was able to get supervised visitation for him which he has only taken advantage of once. 2. I cannot have anymore kids. I had a tubal ligation because of a medical condition (epilepsy). 3. I...

To clarify: 1. The 24 year old is only a friend-nothing more. 2. I know the circumstances around marrying bad boy were not good-learned from it. 3. Perhaps looking at younger men was an attempt for me to hold on to my youth (i.e. I still have it) whereas it typically IS older men that come on...

We only get 10 replies in a day so I am choosing carefully. She may not be cheating yet, but she is shopping. I know-I've done it. I never did cheat, but I was shopping. I shopped bc of the excitement of being pursued again. If I could have brought myself to cheat, I would have. I...

I may pay for this post, I may get some nasty responses, but the truth of the matter is, I can give some insight (very personal) that may help you. I was in a miserable marriage and on the verge of leaving but trying to find the courage. I was pregnant and considered an abortion because of...

This sounds good. I will keep on with new friend-he is amazing. I think I only mentioned the kids twice. I asked A LOT about him; he had so many interesting stories. I have an advanced education so finding someone with substance is great for conversation. Finding someone not after my money...

Nobody: SouthernGal is a VERY good mother. If you read my initial post, I simply asked for some advice and wanted that from a guy's perspective. I came here because I landed here during some personal research. I read some of the posts; everyone was honest with one another. Also, consider...

So it sounds like I am pretty much screwed. Im not single resulting from some kind of feminist movement crap. I like a guy to challenge me etc. I am a single mom bc I am divorced from a bad person (cheater, abusive). I don’t seek a relationship bc I know the majority of men don’t want the...

Is there an acronym dictionary somewhere? Okay I do get it. Do understand that my babysitter resources are limited (VERY) so that is the only reason (not excuse) I would have for not being able to come out and play. So it comes down to communicating the following to potential FB: 1. Not...

WOW! I NEVER thought of my message even being conveyed as using my kids a shield! Also I am guilty about NOT making time for myself. I guess when I tried in the past, I felt guilty, but if I don't find time for ME I could be cranky toward them. I said the part about time being rare bc I...

Max I don't think the bar would serve my 4 year old. My job is very stressful and sometimes I just wanna hang out and have a beer. I was trying to convey that if I wanted to screw I would call, but if I just wanted I beer I would call. Sorry wasn't clear. I have had bad luck with female...

<-divorced People ask me, "Why are you divorced?" My response: "I'm smart" followed by, "The number one cause of divorce in America is marriage...can you believe it?"

I can't help but smile at this one as I am woman and I agree...many of us are cruel. Most women just aren't honest upfront.

Wow. I have read some very interesting posts. I need some help and since most of you seem to be honest and not out to hurt anyone, here goes... The Facts: 29, Female, Divorced mom of two toddlers, works full time, working on building self-esteem, being happier. Not seeking permanent...

BLUF: Good enough is never good enough.