Recent content by Serenity

I see. You adopted the boundary, but you didn't express that "this guy" on an online forum told you so. It would have been weird if you did, lol.

I wasn't worried about her knowing about the forum or me for that matter, I'm still just some anonymous Norwegian guy anyways. Did you make that point to her though? That there's this anonymous online forum user who wouldn't tolerate some behavior and thus you're not going to either? I'm...

Wait, did you literally mention me to her and does she know about me on this forum? This is weird in some way I can't describe. In any case, I don't have that phrase from anywhere or anyone in particular. I reached that conclusion on my own, but I'm not at all surprised many others before me...

Your assumptions are amusing, I'll give you that. How did you get to know my wife so well? Nah, that's still stupid. Who cares about capacity if the conditions to bring it out are never met? Some women are far from the edge and some are standing on it, that's a difference that matters. Whether...

Well, do you REALLY believe things change if you get back together? Looking at it beyond your own upset with a calm mind. Don't make rash emotional decisions on this, really give yourself the time and think it through thoroughly. Of course she'll be upset by something like that, it's to be...

Strange, she should have left me in those years I made zero improvement and in fact got fatter and lazier. She didn't. Oh I know, she is indeed just a woman. There are more like her out there and I know how to find them if I had to, there are also women who are nothing like her. I do love my...

Why? Her presence was draining, you miss the negative influence in your life? Do you suffer from Stockholm Syndrome? You have no reason to feel bad, you have not lost something, you have gained by her being gone. Your logic here is like holding a piece of hot coal in your hand, you keep...

Keeping a girl is a whole different "game" compared to getting a girl. I disagree that relationships are a woman's job, that perspective is doomed to lead to the end of the relationship. She has to do her part for sure, but so do you as a man. The type of woman you're describing is unfit for...

Alright, since you summoned me I will comment on it. My personal opinion which may not reflect the opinions of other moderators, is that the member in question is attacking views moreso than personally attacking other members on this forum. Very obviously this member and most members on this...

Then it's not a serious boundary, but this is not the situation you initially illustrated. You had this in your first post. If this is the case then she's serious, even if she played it off jokingly/playfully in public as that's just to save face.

If they get excited by anger they are broken, that's not healthy.

Accurate. In fact I had to throw out a decent chunk of theory I learned on here because it didn't align with my experience. Knowledge is useless anyways if not put into the context of experience. I don't use knowledge to gain experience, it doesn't work like that. I use knowledge to help me...

By default, if she's serious then I will respect that. If her boundaries are too restrictive or too numerous for my liking and it starts affecting my enjoyment of the relationship, then I have to consider ending it. If it suddenly arises far into the relationship standing out from the...

That's kinda true, but there's a bit more to it than that. It's the case for women with low self-esteem and a need for control. She feels the good guy is too good for her, so she'll basically sabotage herself. The good guy will be somewhat intimidating to her, she can't control him or the...

I have no respect for people who deceive me and I do not expect others to have any respect for me if I deceive them. I guess you're of a different mind on that. I suppose you're fine with people lying to you since you're so fine with lying to others, if not you'd be a hypocrite. It's really odd...