Recent content by RecoveringNiceGuy

In the summer I go out to the sports park near campus. It has sand volley ball, which is where most of the women play. There's always pickup games, and if someone makes a good play give them a high-five, breaks the social ice. Bring a friend, laugh, have fun, goof off, wrestle in the sand. They...

I think it's a mistake to tell yourself you could never love a woman, but regardless, when the question comes up an indirect and playful answer is best. Emotional talk can be a huge turn off to women unless they REALLY want it, so better to be safe and make them pry it out of you so you know for...

I've never been able to grow a beard, very patchy. I've done multiple steroid cycles and I never saw any change in my facial hair. Steroids can increase facial hair in women, but for men it's pretty much set in stone after 25. You get what you get. I can grow a decent mustache so I stick with...

So long story short I had some medical\health related issues and I didn't go on any dates for a long time maybe like 10 months. Past few months I've been getting back in the gym, lifting, MMA training, and I've cut a ton of weight, so of course my interest in females is peaking again. There's...

You don't really give any context, pretty much always escalate. If you don't already have a date planned already, make one. If you do have one already scheduled, then respond back with something flirty but also ending the conversation by telling her you'll see her the day of your date. A...

OP, do you really want to spend your entire life being someone you're not? Of course not. Just be yourself. Some people will like you and some won't. If you want to improve your social skills that's great, but do it because it's what you want. If you do it because you think she wants you to she...

You escalate, and if she rejects your escalate then you move on. Sometimes you make mistakes, sometimes she's just not interested, sometimes she's hung up on an ex. Doesn't matter the reason, you move on. She doesn't need to be in your bed in 5 minutes, but if it's a date then she knows the...

I wouldn't worry about not getting the number if she's going to go out with you. If anything I'd think that it'd make her less likely to flake since she'll be more likely to feel guilty if she doesn't show and doesn't tell you. Either way, never ask more than once. Don't ask for her number...

Watch her body language, pay attention to how comfortable she is, is she having fun and laughing and asking you questions? If so, she's probably wants to kiss you, all you have to do is make it happen. Most women won't want to kiss in front of other people, so a crowded coffee shop or bar...

This. Tell her your busy and she should give you a call in a week or two when she figures out her schedule. Even if she has a legit excuse, like a relative was hospitalized, it's perfectly reasonable for you to want several days or even a week to schedule another date. I wouldn't go with the no...

Tell her she sounds like a fun person (or some other bland compliment) but that you need some proof she's not a 40 year old overweight man with an entire wardrobe full of Ed Hardy T-Shirts (or some other goofy stereotype). If she insists she can do that without meeting you tell her she can fax...

I agree. You should be leading and it is important to make her confident that you can and will lead in your first few dates, but at the same time you don't want to be a control freak either. Tell her things she can do. Tell her she's the DJ and let her play the music while you're driving...

I agree with your point, however you need to remember that society as a whole has done a very poor of teaching men how to be men so you can't just tell guys to go out there and "focus on your own thing". That's like telling someone who has little to no proper basketball experience to "focus on...

lol. What is there to be scared about? Sex is great, but there's a lot more to life than sex. If sex was all there was there wouldn't be so many unhappy marriages, they'd just have sex and magically be happy. Not interested in having sex with a woman until she can at least prove she's stable...

I don't regret not sleeping with her one bit. If I just wanted to sleep with someone not interested in anything but sex I could go sleep with the MILF at work who won't leave me alone. But we did have a great first date and I'm willing to give her another chance. Sure. Maybe she won't reply. So...