Recent content by fenix2021

I'm not sure why there is so much trash talk about an institution that was with us for millennia. As men, we forget that reality is as much a construct of something tangible as what we make it out to be. As such, to get a little philosophical here, the screen you are reading this on is real...

In a new space you are a tourist and approach life with a different mentality. You also give off a different aura about yourself. As a tourist you care less about perfection of places, objects or people and thus you accept more opportunities - women you would never sleep with, becoming your...

how old are you man? you sound a bit like mid-life crisis but then you say you live with your parents, so it's hard to gauge. [hint re living with parents: 1/4 of NYC apartments are rent controlled / stabilized so they are dirt cheap but most new-comers have no c,ue and go after marker-rate...

I film those sort of videos for living. They are marketing horse****. Don't believe anything they say. It's written by a bunch of marketing guys who can't get laid then given to the man in charge to read from a script. He inputs his 2 cents, while listening to what needs to be said to sell more...

It's only natural for her to want to get married and have kids. It's only natural for you not to. (though having kids IS the best thing that will ever happen to you) You are way too young to get married. Every man, and i mean EVERY man must go through period of sleeping around. You must get to...

I'm at the begging of my own amicable divorce so maybe i'm holding a live grande in my hand that's about to go off or... so basically you can take my advice up to this point. Marriage counseling with a good chancellor WORKS. It helps both parties realize that indeed divorce might be the best...

You kinda don't spell out what is it that YOU want. You don't want joint custody, then what? You want full custody? Why, is she a bad mom (very unlikely)? Kids need you and her and there is this thing called uncontested divorce. You split assets the way you both see as fair (she get the minivan...

Bottom line: run because she's unfixable. That said if you are curious, definitely positively read "The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma" by Bessel van der Kolk. If you are open, you will discover your own personal trauma that is masked by your willingness to...

5 month update. What what a journey it was! In essence, things went from bad to great then turned bad again. The first few months were fantastic. Her new apartment, though overpriced (paid from her salary), was nice and the neighborhood was great for kids too. I would be there every other day...

Around your age i had some health problems that made me jump to the same conclusion about finishing inside women. And i did with my wife (we are amicably separated right now) - one bullet is all it took to get her pregnant. So i kinda relate to your kink. If i was wealthy i probably would have...

So i entered a separation after my marriage of 8 years and started hanging out a lot. (So far i haven't slept with anyone by my wife - sex was never a problem - we still have it 2x/week). Yesterday, Saturday, my buddy and me ended up on Lower East Side and were surrounded by HORDES of attractive...

Wow, the swing of emotions was intense the past week or so. She's at her new place. The kid's transition was smooth - which was the most important aspect for me. We are amicable so for kids mom and dad have two different apartments and seeing us together they feel safe. We still have sex twice...

Admiration and respect on her part was definitely long gone. Now i'm happy my attraction to her is gone too to even out the field. I'm lighting designer/ dir. of photography on commercials and TV shows so like i'm partially responsible for creating that "Disney dream" in the public eye!

Your advice is invaluable but many of you concentrate too much on whether she has someone else or if she will soon enough. So let me make it clear: I KNOW she will sleep with someone soon enough just as i KNOW i will too. I accepted that almost the moment we made the decision about separation...

Definitely, her attitude towards the kids - blindly following her intuition believing she's doing what the best for them, is a huge RED flag that tells me i shall never full trust this woman.