Recent content by CodeOfAtlas

IMO Should have stopped forward progress her. Be polite but time wrap up the date. After she rejects you, she needs to be the one to reach out to you. In this case, you reached out to her; I'd be surprised if she enjoyed this hand holding move you made. It's her turn to prove why you should...

Nothing ventured, nothing gained

Experiencing one desperate woman is good, especially in OP's case where he asks for the definition of desperate. Every man should have their own well-formed idea of a desperate woman, and it will naturally become a higher standard through experience. You should be honest with her if you want to...

On a first date, a person should be a good version of themselves, but not the best version. The best version should be earned through good behavior, not offered just for showing up.

"I don't like other women"

If you can take or leave her, the next time she reaches out to you, don't think about what to say... just speak your mind without hesitation. The only reason there is any confusion is because you're getting in your own way. You'll probably sound like a total idiot, but this a very good skill to...

Terrible. Replace "someplace" with an actual place; she doesn't want to figure that out. This is the end of the conversation, you didn't spark her imagination.

I agree with everything Amante said. I just took it one step further and acknowledged the most realistic possibility, which is that OP isn't ready (at least at this time) to be the present father every child deserves. If he really did have what it takes, he wouldn't need to post on a forum...

A narcissist defending a narcissist, "ignoarant" indeed. The most obvious problem with what you've said here is "He isn't a narcissist for wanting to have kids while his wife doesn't." If kids were what he wanted, why marry a woman who doesn't want kids? :rolleyes: Only a narcissist (and...

Your child deserves a loving father role; you're obviously not going to be it. You're clearly a narcissist with deep seated issues. Stop being so selfish and give your daughter a small glimmer of hope that some man much better than yourself might come into her life and repair the hell hole...

The fact that you are monitoring who is following her on social media should be all you need. No confident man with a trustworthy woman does this.

"Personality disorder" in itself implies there is a correct way to think. People should learn to embrace the way their brains naturally flow and manipulate it in such a way that it is advantageous to them. Most "disorders" have a positive aspect to them. For example, anxiety stems from...

Emotional detachment is just another way of saying rational engagement. It's not about detaching emotionally, it's about focusing energy into rational objectives so that the emotional intensity isn't overwhelming and forward progress can still be made.

Emotions can't be shut off at will, but the practice of dimming them during negative events and brightening them during positive events will certainly be a worthwhile effort.

I've stalked this forum for a while, merely as an observer. This post was insightful enough to give me the 2 ****s it takes to actually sign up for this forum rife with narcissism -- though occasionally a precious jewel is yielded such as this one. The best part about it is the focus says very...