Recent content by ChuckNoRisk

Thanks for the great response. She's now come back with a willingness to go to the counselor. However, I'm standing with what most you have said...i.to assume this is it. Anything else is plan b

Thank you guys. I'm in dark place right now. It's painful to see her lack of willingness to do all it takes to save our marriage. And I'm the desperate one.Her parents are saying divorce is off limits, but she won't listen to anyone now. I know she's making a big mistake and even suggested we...

The things is, its just seems like there more to it but is not she's telling, She's even now all a suggesting I might be messing around on the phone app, WhatApps . That I might be cheating. Which I see as way give her story more credence. She also says I've become arrogant and I'm not the...

Hi guys. My wife just came back from her parents' today. She only mumbled a hi. Then, in the bedroom, I tried to sleep next to her and she rejected me and left for the couche. I follwed her there, and that when the bombshell was droped. She said I hurt her two much and she want out. Right now...

Thanks guys for all your responses and advice. I'm just wondering how, if things get sorted out, I should handle my mother in-law going forward. Her switching of positions from empathizing with me to a veiled support of her daughter has left me with a metallic taste in mouth. I used to treat her...

UPDATE: The standoff continues... Discussing the stalemate with my mother in-law has turned out to be my worst faux pas. Yesterday, she called me to find out when I was joining the family so that "we can discuss these issues in your presence". I told her it wasn't going to happen because of my...

With all due respect Scaramouche, I take umbrage at your assertion that I'm faking things. However, you also brought me delight by giving kudos to my writing. As someone currently stuck in the doldrums of anger and depression, due to my current issues with my wife, I'll choose to hold on to your...

Lol...of course, but they'll just retard my fat loss progress

As often said, assumption is the mother of all phuck-ups.

I think that will be a killer blow. I've always been weak to take a bait when she wants it...and I mean WANT it. She will do anything to make it happen. I've been in situations where we had to leave a drama theatre because she said she just couldn't wait, and I happily obliged. Being starved...

Thanks for all your responses guys.Each of your responses keeps feeding into my motivation to stay on the transformation path. It's really about rehabilitating me more than anything else. In fact I'm slowly drifting away from doing things as a reaction to her actions. Almost like detaching...

Gentlemen, thank you. I'm reading the "Dave from Hawaii" post now. Just want one thing from you. When she gets back, should I wait for her to make the first move (regarding talking to me) since she was the one dishing out the silent treatment? I feel I shouldn't be the one to make the first...

Lol...You're right. I think it's just the thought of having sex with another woman, but I probably will not even be able to execute because: 1) I'm so out of practise I'll embarrass myself with a quick pull of the trigger 2) because I still love my wife, I probably will fail to get it up...

Possibly, as it is always possible. However, the intell I've been gathering hasn't yielded any indications that's case. I planted a trojan horse on her macbook and successfully entered into her email account and FB. Nothing. The only incriminating message I found was to her unmarried friend...

I do respect myself. Just got caught up in the demands of balancing working and doing a master's degree in the last 2 years. I was in pretty good shape before( averaging 37 miles a week and working out at the boxing club). I'm done with the master's and I've restarted with my running and...