Life's a B1tch

[Chow Mein]

What do you think went wrong for her to do this?

You might not want to share with the forum, but self introspection could help after you’ve let off some steam.

 

[Ricky]

Look what he is going through has become absolutely rampant now. I work in healthcare with 80 percent of women. I'm an expert at getting women to open up to me.. i let out a secret of mine.. they give out 10 of theirs.

Almost all women are talking to other men behind their backs. Almost all of them. Its a reality we have to deal with in the smartphone era.

Either we evolve and develop strategies to deal with their hypergamous instincts or we don't.

This is not 1997 when i got my first cell phone but there was no text. This is not 2007 right before the first smart phone was released and all we had is texting. This is 2024 when the entire world of thirsty men and simps are available to waste a woman time and attention.

We need to regain our focus. I am going to make a post about improvements we can all make. We all need to evolve as the game changes.

 

[Gamisch]

Look what he is going through has become absolutely rampant now. I work in healthcare with 80 percent of women. I'm an expert at getting women to open up to me.. i let out a secret of mine.. they give out 10 of theirs.

Almost all women are talking to other men behind their backs. Almost all of them. Its a reality we have to deal with in the smartphone era.

Either we evolve and develop strategies to deal with their hypergamous instincts or we don't.

This is not 1997 when i got my first cell phone but there was no text. This is not 2007 right before the first smart phone was released and all we had is texting. This is 2024 when the entire world of thirsty men and simps are available to waste a woman time and attention.

We need to regain our focus. I am going to make a post about improvements we can all make. We all need to evolve as the game changes.

Oke in that case men should also lower their expectations . The outcome, or I'd say ,the final "product" from your description will be "the azzhole". You know, the type of man who doesn't care if she does whatever because he never trusted her to begin with.

I can tell you that then all of a sudden women will do ANYTHING to get some emotions put of you.

There's no excuse for such behavior when you have a covenant with a woman. I get what you're tryung to do, but simultaneously, despite all your good efforts your advice might be more harmful than you want. We're not talking Texting but Sexting my friend. That's a few levels beyond normal contact as the other dude basically already had her mind....

Regain focus? I agree with that part tho.

 

[BaronOfHair]

We had a kid last year, but he only lived 5 days. I haven't mentioned that yet. I'm a stoic motherfvcker, but some things hurt you

That's what makes this betrayal so bad. And she didn't fvck, just text him bad things about me, and eventually start talking about fvcking

Clearly, you all have been through some sh-t over the past year, and you both have a lot of emotional pain to work through. If you haven't acknowledged this to yourselves, it stands to reason that you both may be acting out in an attempt to soothe that agony, without being consciously aware of what you are doing

 

[BaronOfHair]

Almost all women are talking to other men behind their backs. Almost all of them. Its a reality we have to deal with in the smartphone era.

So long as women are human(A species that's not hardwired for monogamy), the chances that they'll stray is always significant. There's never been any period where this hasn't been the case: Modern technology has just made this tougher to hide

 

[Westminster]

So long as women are human(A species that's not hardwired for monogamy), the chances that they'll stray is always significant. There's never been any period where this hasn't been the case: Modern technology has just made this tougher to hide

I think modern technology has done more than make it harder to hide. It's made it easier to do as well.

The mobile phone can be a real weapon, perhaps especially in a woman's hands.

 

[Learning Curve]

My old lady is sexting an old boyfriend. From fvcking highschool lol

Or was, until I caught her

I found out recently that you could look up deleted texts on iPhones. Found texts over two months. Started small, but eventually got sexual

So it's definitely over in my mind. I expected it from her, but I can't help but feel apathy

The dude lives 2 states away, doesn't matter. I can never trust her again. Obviously not dumb enough to

Why are all women like this? Lmfao

So we live together. Not married.

She's acting like nothing happened, obviously, but I keep having to remind her that something did. This turns into fights, which ruins my chill

There's not really a point to this. Just wanted y'all to know that veterans get screwed over too

I'm all good. Like I said, I expected it.

But at the same time you always hope it won't go that way

I'm not mad, just apathetic

Welcome to the modern world of 2024.

You probably dumb her already but consinder the following:

Usually, two options are on the table, you dumb her, let her come back beg, plead, cry and then depending on your tolerance and if you love her you take her back.

Or you dumb her and move on.

When they argue after such thing, especially sexting other dudes considering "nothing happened" in their mind is usually because of lack of respect for a man.

That's where i would pull the cable and let her talk while i pack and leave.

Zero tolerance for this kind of bs.

 

[Vanderdonck]

So long as women are human(A species that's not hardwired for monogamy), the chances that they'll stray is always significant. There's never been any period where this hasn't been the case: Modern technology has just made this tougher to hide

Agreed.

 

[Gamisch]

Every man that lacks self love and self respect will eventually find himself I'm this exact situation.

Because women are like that wild animal you try to tame: no amount of study will predict how she'll react tomorrow. And eventually the wild animal will hurt you. When it does, you only got yourself to blame.

Beyond self respect is an entire world of goodness waiting for ya. You just gotta get through the bitter pill called loneliness. Once you get through that, much better thing waiting for you. But first you gotta tell life how to treat you. You say that it's okay to be disrespectful towards you. You'll reap what you sow.

Welcome to the modern world of 2024.

You probably dumb her already but consinder the following:

Usually, two options are on the table, you dumb her, let her come back beg, plead, cry and then depending on your tolerance and if you love her you take her back.

Or you dumb her and move on.

When they argue after such thing, especially sexting other dudes considering "nothing happened" in their mind is usually because of lack of respect for a man.

That's where i would pull the cable and let her talk while i pack and leave.

Zero tolerance for this kind of bs.

Dude loves her more than he loves himself.

Imagine him living om her house...he would've been kicked out like 5 times already for simply forgetting to close of the toothpaste or not closing the toilet seat.

This **** lets a cheating woman take from his resources while thinking he gets "leverage " over her

 

[Bokanovsky]

Wtf am I supposed to do, put her on the street?

Hell yeah!

The title of your thread is "Life is a b!tch". That's not true. Life is not a b!tch. Your future ex is a b!tch. You need to handle your business like a man, not like some sappy, sentimental pushover. I can guarantee that you will be embarrassed by some of the things you wrote in this thread when you read them a few months from now.

 

[Bokanovsky]

They're not, but you're dating low quality women.

This situation is a good warning not to have kids with low quality women.

Find yourself a high quality woman.

You are a divorced father, are you not? Judging from what you said about your ex, she is not exactly a "quality woman".

The problem is that there isn't necessarily a bright line test separating "high quality" women from "low quality" ones. It's not like the difference between an ugly woman and an attractive woman, which is obvious to see. A seemingly "high quality" woman is capable of "low quality" acts under the right circumstances, just like fresh fruit came become spoiled. In other words, getting yourself a "high quality" woman is hardly a guarantee of anything.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Well, maybe you shouldn't be judging.

Ironic for you to say this, as 90% of your posts on this forum (including your response to the OP in this very thread) involve judgment of others.

But speaking of your marriage, didn't you say that your wife dumped you when you became sick? Is that the conduct of a "quality woman"?

 

[BaronOfHair]

We CAN choose to adopt a perspective which dictates "Life is a b-tch". We can also get specific about what aspects of our existences we're not satisfied with, then begin addressing those which are amenable to remedy, and making peace with those things which aren't especially changeable

OP, it sounds like this broad isn't terribly into the common law(Or near common law)marriage you all have, and is at the very least contemplating infidelity. Your choices are thus pretty straightforward:

-Go to a shrink together, and try to work this out

-End things, then find other mates

-Stay in this union, knowing that she's regularly giving it up to guys other than yourself, and don't complain of it anymore

 

[Bokanovsky]

True, but unlike you, I'm not here to learn how to interact with women.

Nice try.

People change. We were together for sixteen years. We had eleven fantastic years together, but her unhappiness accumulated when she had difficulty with motherhood. And when I got sick she didn't know what to do and her evil girlfriends talked her into initiating divorce. Which resulted in her moving out of my house and her having to pay me alimony. She later admitted that she was in a bad mental situation when she divorced me, but she knows I'm not taking her back.

A person's true character is revealed when things are not going smoothly. You can blame her motherhood problems and "evil girlfriends" all you want but that won't change the fact that your princess was never the quality woman you once imagined her to be. I can see why you find this obvious conclusion irritating (it reflects poorly on your judgment) but facts are facts.

Now that we spoke of my sixteen year marriage, let's discuss yours.

We could but to what end? Unlike you, I'm not here to tell tales of woe.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

Every man that lacks self love and self respect will eventually find himself I'm this exact situation.

Because women are like that wild animal you try to tame: no amount of study will predict how she'll react tomorrow. And eventually the wild animal will hurt you. When it does, you only got yourself to blame.

Beyond self respect is an entire world of goodness waiting for ya. You just gotta get through the bitter pill called loneliness. Once you get through that, much better thing waiting for you. But first you gotta tell life how to treat you. You say that it's okay to be disrespectful towards you. You'll reap what you sow.


Dude loves her more than he loves himself.

Imagine him living om her house...he would've been kicked out like 5 times already for simply forgetting to close of the toothpaste or not closing the toilet seat.

This **** lets a cheating woman take from his resources while thinking he gets "leverage " over her

^^ Key tenets of red pill.

You can't teach a woman if you're not prepared to leave her at any moment. That's what's so difficult about beautiful women who know how to claw their nails in your back like demons when you are thrusting her dirty, damp and deep giving her the fear of god.

You have to genuinely from the bottom of your heart, not give a fvck, while at the same time love her enough to train her.

They require a lot of love too, so the the love for yourself has to be sky high, so that you still think you're better than her, after giving her so much, you have to love your appearance, love your brain, love your emotions
100%. No cap. Love what you bring to the world, the value, how others see you, how you are as a leader.

You have to basically think, and know, you're a bad ass motherfvcker that could have any girl in the world. Your purpose has to be challenging enough, that you think you deserve a beautiful, loyal woman.

You lose that frame, you lose the girl.

Game immunizes you against the depths of romantic failure (although I believe on the flip side it also immunizes you against the heights of romantic love).

I would think that's true for a lot of men. But not Obi Wan Kenobi-level game, where you manage to show to a woman or anyone, for that matter that losing something, in this case a quality woman, would be a loss, but that you understand that life is full of loss, and losing every thing is an eventuality. At times, the trust you give a woman will be the rope she hangs you with and it happens to the best of them everyday.
You nod where other men would sob. You haven't crushed down your emotions, you've merely prepared yourself by not living in a fantasy world better suited for women and children.

This can't be faked. It's an internalized belief and posture after having a certain volume of experience with women and, instead of coming out (only) bitter or guarded on the other side, coming out accepting of the circle of life.

 

[Gamisch]

^^ Key tenets of red pill.

You can't teach a woman if you're not prepared to leave her at any moment. That's what's so difficult about beautiful women who know how to claw their nails in your back like demons when you are thrusting her dirty, damp and deep giving her the fear of god.

You have to genuinely from the bottom of your heart, not give a fvck, while at the same time love her enough to train her.

They require a lot of love too, so the the love for yourself has to be sky high, so that you still think you're better than her, after giving her so much, you have to love your appearance, love your brain, love your emotions
100%. No cap. Love what you bring to the world, the value, how others see you, how you are as a leader.

You have to basically think, and know, you're a bad ass motherfvcker that could have any girl in the world. Your purpose has to be challenging enough, that you think you deserve a beautiful, loyal woman.

You lose that frame, you lose the girl.

Game immunizes you against the depths of romantic failure (although I believe on the flip side it also immunizes you against the heights of romantic love).

I would think that's true for a lot of men. But not Obi Wan Kenobi-level game, where you manage to show to a woman or anyone, for that matter that losing something, in this case a quality woman, would be a loss, but that you understand that life is full of loss, and losing every thing is an eventuality. At times, the trust you give a woman will be the rope she hangs you with and it happens to the best of them everyday.
You nod where other men would sob. You haven't crushed down your emotions, you've merely prepared yourself by not living in a fantasy world better suited for women and children.

This can't be faked. It's an internalized belief and posture after having a certain volume of experience with women and, instead of coming out (only) bitter or guarded on the other side, coming out accepting of the circle of life.

Great write up. OP should read it a couple of times to internalize the message.

To use the animal analogy: it's like having a lot expensive but possible dangerous dog. You train ,invest, make TONS of time, sacrifice you r freedom ect ect ect.

But the moment the dog acts up in a way that can be considered "unforgivable " the dog will be put down.

Despite all the effort . Women ain't much different from that and they KNOW.. that's why women are saying the "refuse " a simple low cost 1st date: what, you expect the wild animal to be tame at all times? Look at this shyte show: a grown man who willingly puts himself in such a weak position. There are just two flavors: sweet or shyte. OP tries to season a turd and use the baby as sugar to coat it.

She even lives in HIS house. That's how strong the urge for new penis is. She is willing to throw her safety away in order to get sexual attention from another man. Das frau = AUS

 

[DJ Novice]

Hedonic adaptation kills all relationships eventually and women tend to get bored faster than men.

Once a woman cheats on you (physically or emotionally) she has mentally checked out of the relationship by her actions.

Any respect or desire she once had for you is gone.

Either kick her to the curb now or stay, emotionally detach, use her for recreational purposes only and spin plates until she chooses to leave of her own accord or you eventually get sick of her and decide to end it yourself.

Don’t delude yourself into thinking things will get better like they were in the beginning. You can’t recreate the feelings of the past as things are now much different. Nostalgia is your worst enemy.

Good luck. It’s a tough situation to be in. Women can break you but only if you let them.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I believe humans place far too much expectation on relationships

They have a shelf life just like everything else on earth , you can't expect to be with someone over a period of 5,10,20,30,40 years and there not to be issues

I'm not sure I've ever come across a relationship between a man and a woman that doesn't have some sort of core issue bubbling under the surface it's almost like they need it too keep going.

Even the most "fairytale" relationship I've come across the guy absolutely hates his partners mother , and this causes drama in the relationship pretty much on a weekly basis

Another problem is that humans get bored and tempted very easily ....I don't care who you are you've been in a relationship for 3 years + the sexual desire is going to start waining for both man and woman

"cheating" is rife out there ......fundamentally men desire the feeling of the hunt and women desire the feeling of being hunted

You can't really get either of them core desires fulfilled from a long term relationship / marriage because theres nothing to hunt

Why do you think people get fat and out of shape in relationships !?! .......becuase of comfort and there literally being fvck all else to do lol

Always makes me chuckle when people say things like " I can't believe they would do that "

Anyone is capable of anything under the right circumstances .....

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Women negotiate with words, but men negotiate with their very presence alone.

Dont have a chat with her, don't fight with her just spend your time elsewhere, it's really simple.

If you let her stew and frolic in her own energy she tends to stop doing stuff like this, truth is you have probably positively reinforced her behavior in parallel to this at some point.

A very wise man once told me: If you can afford to treat people like **** you have wildly misplayed your hand.

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Hell yeah!

The title of your thread is "Life is a b!tch". That's not true. Life is not a b!tch. Your future ex is a b!tch. You need to handle your business like a man, not like some sappy, sentimental pushover. I can guarantee that you will be embarrassed by some of the things you wrote in this thread when you read them a few months from now.

There's a lot in play.

Her mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer shortly after we got together and died a few months into her pregnancy.

I mentioned that we lost a son after a few days, but I didn't mention that he was born premature because her liver burst and they had to perform an emergency C-section, to save her and him. She almost died.

I spent two weeks in the hospital with her. I watched my son die 5 days in, then had to worry about her dying for another week.

A few months later, she started drinking too much. Then I started drinking too much. It's been volatile ever since, but in a passionate way. We both assumed it was something that we would overcome, especially when we started trying to have a baby again.

Well, we did start trying again. And it turns out she was texting this dude during that time, which hurts pretty bad lol

I want mention that there were no signs. I've been with women that lost interest, and there were always signs.

She never acted any differently towards me. She kept begging me for marriage. She never lost sexual interest (though she was probably picturing him lol); she was giving me oral sex on a regular basis. She still went out of her way to make me happy etc

That's what makes it so weird to me.

She's been begging me. She tries to pretend nothing ever happened. I told her I can never forget, yet she's relentless in trying to be normal.

I'm in a tough fvcking spot, man. If I bring it up, she starts acting like a baby and makes my life hell. If I ignore it, I end up getting pissed because I have too much self-respect. It's a cycle

It isn't boring though