If a Woman Delays Sex, You're Not Her Top Priority. (Video)

[self_is_an_illusion]

If a Woman Delays Sex, You're Not Her Top Priority.

source: https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/23/wait-for-it/

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

2011? Diving into the archives?

 

[Manure Spherian]

If a man delays sex, is the woman not a top priority? I delayed sex with my wife after first meeting for three and a half months, even though I could have had it a lot sooner. My friend stalled it with his second wife for three months, purposefully.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

"Ladies, when men delay sex, he's not testing you; he's testing himself."

 

[CornbreadFed]

If a man delays sex, is the woman not a top priority? I delayed sex with my wife after first meeting for three and a half months, even though I could have had it a lot sooner. My friend stalled it with his second wife for three months, purposefully.

Men find sex more valuable than women, so a man withholding sex is not the same as a woman.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Men find sex more valuable than women, so a man withholding sex is not the same as a woman.

That's why I will have sex with them, but I withhold intimacy until V-Day.

 

[Dr.Suave]

I delayed sex with my wife after first meeting for three and a half months, even though I could have had it a lot sooner. My friend stalled it with his second wife for three months, purposefully.

Probably the first time I hear about these. Why did you delayed sex? You picked my interest.

 

[All_Kindz_Of_Gainz]

If a man delays sex, is the woman not a top priority? I delayed sex with my wife after first meeting for three and a half months, even though I could have had it a lot sooner. My friend stalled it with his second wife for three months, purposefully.

So you two purposefully gave yourselves blue balls. Great!

 

[NealIRC]

What about women who delay texts?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

I suppose this is a good mindset if all you're interested in are short term 304's who give it away like candy on Halloween...

 

[Manure Spherian]

Probably the first time I hear about these. Why did you delayed sex? You picked my interest.

I wanted to find a woman to start a family with. So I did not want this to immediately become my physical and get entangled with someone with whom it wouldn’t work out and for both to have to deal with the negative emotions that brings. I wanted to see if other important things were in order. Same deal with my friend.

That’s also around the time I took on a no-girlfriend stance.

 

[Manure Spherian]

So you two purposefully gave yourselves blue balls. Great!

See our reasons.

We lived.

 

[All_Kindz_Of_Gainz]

I wanted to find a woman to start a family with. So I did not want this to immediately become my physical and get entangled with someone with whom it wouldn’t work out and for both to have to deal with the negative emotions that brings. I wanted to see if other important things were in order. Same deal with my friend.

That’s also around the time I took on a no-girlfriend stance.

If it worked for you that's great, but that's a horrible advice for guys to do, cause men will think "I'm gonna wait for sex, cause she's the one I want as a mother my child, and I don't wanna throw dirt in the relationship with sex" This is the best example of the madonna/wh0re complex

That's like throwing an arrow, painting the target around it and call it a bullseye. Again, if it worked for you, that's great, but me personally I wouldn't follow that advice.

 

[Manure Spherian]

If it worked for you that's great, but that's a horrible advice for guys to do, cause men will think "I'm gonna wait for sex, cause she's the one I want as a mother my child, and I don't wanna throw dirt in the relationship with sex" This is the best example of the madonna/wh0re complex

That's like throwing an arrow, painting the target around it and call it a bullseye. Again, if it worked for you, that's great, but me personally I wouldn't follow that advice.

I don’t advise it.

How do you think it would backfire on other men considering the reasons I waited? This is a woman who wanted sex with me but kept quiet about it. There was no conversation in which one of us even mentioned. I believe it was a silently understood thing.

 

[All_Kindz_Of_Gainz]

I don’t advise it.

How do you think it would backfire on other men considering the reasons I waited? This is a woman who wanted sex with me but kept quiet about it. There was no conversation in which one of us even mentioned. I believe it was a silently understood thing.

Don't get me wrong I do understand where you're coming from, sex tends to cloud judgement in men. But its just that I think it can blur the line of betting vs investing time and money on dates in a women for an ideal that might not happen, at least sex you're getting something out of investing time and money.

But if you were okay of not getting that after investing money and time on dates, that was your frame and that's okay too.

 

[Dr.Suave]

I wanted to find a woman to start a family with. So I did not want this to immediately become my physical and get entangled with someone with whom it wouldn’t work out and for both to have to deal with the negative emotions that brings. I wanted to see if other important things were in order. Same deal with my friend.

I guess this is not for everyone but Im glad it worked for you. Thank you for your reply.

That’s also around the time I took on a no-girlfriend stance.

What does this mean? Straight from "getting to know each other" to "Lets get pregnant"?

 

[Manure Spherian]

I guess this is not for everyone but Im glad it worked for you. Thank you for your reply.

Hey, sorry for the late response.

Right, I don't advise this. I mean, as much as I dislike saying "it's current year," we are nevertheless living in 2024 in which there are no rules in dating and spinning plates, and we do not have courtship. But I wanted to practice something like we had in the past at that point in my life. That is, hold off on sex and see what my future wife and in-laws were all about.

You’re welcome.

What does this mean? Straight from "getting to know each other" to "Lets get pregnant"?

As I've said in other threads, I do not tell others what to do. I discuss ideas, thoughts, observation, and content related to what we speak about on here. I also do not express judgement upon others here.

So if some men want to have girlfriends, that's fine. I just don't see the point in having one past one's early twenties. And when I say use the terms boyfriend and girlfriend, I refer to what I see as relationships that involve hanging out or living with one another with no long-term life goals with one another, perhaps marriage, and no children. I don't see why a man would commit to a woman if there are no children. And the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship involves commitment, more or less. A man has to sacrifice his time and energy, have restrictions on his life and live with someone for what? Something that will likely end, and end relatively soon, with nothing to show for in the end besides heartache and trouble?

I choose to sacrifice those things for my children and wife because I love them, want to raise my children right, and both of our extended families bend over backwards for us. And I accept problems that arise because of these conditions.

Conflict, heartache, spent resources, for a girlfriend, with little else being done besides sex and hanging out? No thanks.

I am black-and-white on relationships and I've ranked different situations in particular order:
1. Family formation (I use this term to show that I am well aware of what family courts have done to the institution of marriage and why some guys might not want to get the government involved in this. I don’t recommend marriage even though in one.)
2. MGTOW.
3. Casual sex (interchangeable spot with MGTOW).
4. Legal escort.
5. Boyfriend

Again, I don't look down on men who are boyfriends. I simply wouldn't want to be one if I were a single man. And I can see why people who are divorced who already raised their own children would want to form some type of long term life-partnership in middle to older age. But that's not the typical boyfriend-girlfriend nightmare I read so many lament about.

And usually, as I've seen on here and elsewhere with regularity, is what the You Tuber Thinking Ape accurately described as the employee-employer situation that occurs in many boyfriend-girlfriend relationships. That is, one has the other one on eggshells, in a state of terror, and better be a good little boy or girl, "improve" oneself, "do something with his/her life", "keep up" with the other one, "get on the same level" as the other.... or get the axe! All sorts of dumb expectations arise because of the focus and obsession with one another.

In some cases, because the girlfriend's attention and energy is not poured into raising children, she will attempt to take over the boyfriend's life and mind, and expect him to be a source of entertainment, act as court jester and entertainer after a day's work. Some boyfriends do this too, because they have too much emotional room unfilled, and "get bored" of the woman if she is not Mrs. Exciting.

Again, this is my dim view on being a boyfriend. If others like being one, then good for them. I have no judgment on them and that's their business. I was also a boyfriend in the past too.

 

[MatureDJ]

If a man delays sex, is the woman not a top priority? I delayed sex with my wife after first meeting for three and a half months, even though I could have had it a lot sooner. My friend stalled it with his second wife for three months, purposefully.

I think I understand this. I would prefer waiting to see if a woman is not insane before exploring her feminine void - of course, since these opportunities are so rare, I typically go for it as soon as I can get it.

 

[Bokanovsky]

If a man delays sex, is the woman not a top priority? I delayed sex with my wife after first meeting for three and a half months, even though I could have had it a lot sooner. My friend stalled it with his second wife for three months, purposefully.

Don’t try this at home folks. Most women will lose interest very quickly if the guy is not pushing for sex.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Most women will lose interest very quickly if the guying is not pushing for sex.

That actually can happen. And that's why I don't advise it. But I could sense that she would not lose interest.

I actually acted slow with a woman once and she asked, "Why are we not having sex?" Another time after a first date from OLD, a woman told me on the phone that she wondered why I did not kiss her.