Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
And he gives her the type of relationship she can brag about on Facebook, probably.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
No, because YOU don't love yourself.
She's called me her soulmate and we've discussed buying a house together, we just haven't planned on marriage in the IMMEDIATE future (like the next year or so.)
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
A trashy profile? Really dude?
A) 2 kids by 2 men in her 20s
She called you her soulmate =blah blah bs bs
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That's how you see it?
If you read more carefully, she has 1 kid from 1 other man (I also have 1 kid from 1 other woman) and she is now pregnant with our kid.
that would be 1 kid from someone else and 1 kid from you == "multiple kids with multiple men"
I don't think that's what he was getting at. He said "has had" multiple kids with multiple men.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Listen @randalljohnson dont even know why you come here posting and asking questions (unless you are trolling for sport) as you are ALWAYS going to try to minimize, rationalize, and justify the responses you get, from your own perspective.
Why would he tell her that? If shes liking a lot of ex pics and contacting ex too then she clearly doesnt care about OP and if he will act jealous then she will enjoy it and manipulate him more.
I'm suggesting it b/c he clearly doesn't want the relationship to end yet he wont be real with her. I'm not saying he literally has to tell her he's jealous or insecure - but I do think it's time for him to have a conversation with her in which he communicates that he finds it disrespectful that she is with him, having his baby, that they are planning a future together, and she is still keeping in contact with her exe'es. And then ask her to focus on the family they are trying to create instead of spending time online looking at other men's social media. I also think he could approach it from a standpoint of how he is embarrassed and finds it disrespectful that his woman is paying attention other men, period.
Mate, you'd do best not to explain yourself to an emotional vindictive woman. Women will look to pull you into a neurotic exchange time
Shush now woman, you have no right to ask that of any man here.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.