starplayer
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Just kidding, of course you’re the prize.
But as harsh as the title of this thread sounds, there is a reason I say it. There seems to be a myth in the community that all you need is “game” to get and keep hot women. You somehow “deserve” to have a 10 no matter who you are.
I’m sure we’ve all come across some of the stuff pushed by pickup gurus trying to sell their products, “You can be a short, bald, fat, ugly, poor nobody and still get hot women! You’re entitled to date 9s and 10s!”
As great as this sounds, it’s simply not the truth. Why is this?
It’s because you’re not giving any value. Why should a man who has NOTHING to offer deserve a hot woman? Just because he believes he deserves her doesn’t mean sh!t. All of these tricks and techniques are about creating the ILLUSION of value. They basically teach guys how to be FAKE. It’s all smoke and mirrors.
The problem with faking value is sooner or later she’s gonna find out. Oh yes, she will. If you’re using game to try and KEEP a woman you will fail every time. There’s enough threads on the discussion forum proving that.
Remember, you may think that between you and her that YOU are the prize. But you also have to be the prize compared to other guys she meets. Not every guy she meets can be the prize.
That’s not to say game doesn’t have its place. Don’t get me wrong, when guys first come to the community I think they need to go through a phase of believing they’re the prize, mostly because they have massive self-esteem problems. It’s also important for men to have game so they don’t get taken advantage of by women. If you want a one night stand then game can be very effective, but anything else such as an LTR and even a FB is asking for trouble.
You can’t go on faking it like this forever. Once you’ve been in the community for so long you can’t go on relying on tricks and techniques and inner / outer game. You eventually have to stop faking value.
And here’s something else some guys might not realize. Women know how to fake having value all too well. Playing hard to get, anyone? All of their tricks and mind games in Cosmo. Ever heard of The Rules?
So you have a fat, ugly, lazy woman sitting around not answering the phone believing she deserves a high value man. The women’s dating advice tells her SHE is the prize. This low value woman believes she deserves a tall, handsome, rich, successful man and she doesn’t have to do sh!t.
Of course this is a lie.
But the problem for her is she believes this bullsh!t, so instead of getting on the fvcking treadmill and learning how to cook, she sits around playing mind games and b!tching about how all men are a$$holes.
All of this dating advice is very dangerous for guys too because it can make them lazy. “Why should I change who I am, I don’t have to change for any woman. All I need is game. I’m already the prize”. But this is the wrong view to have. And he’ll realize that soon enough.
If you want to get and keep hot women then you cannot rely on tricks and techniques forever. You cannot have no status, money, looks, etc and expect to get hot women because you have a few mind games up your sleeve.
If you want to get and keep hot women YOU MUST RAISE YOUR VALUE.
Yes, it requires actually doing something other than learning PUA seduction tricks. There is no magic pill. There are no shortcuts. Instead of focusing on being the prize and saying “I am the prize”, actually BECOME THE PRIZE.
So how can a man raise his value? Several ways actually:
- Looks
I don’t want another looks thread. All I will say is every man should look his best. Don’t compare to other guys, it’s pointless – just improve your looks. Get in the gym, have good hygiene, have some fashionable clothes, etc. Change what you can, don’t worry about the stuff you can’t change. We are luckier than women in that we don’t have to rely so much on looks, but they still matter to a degree.
- Status
If you’re young, get an education. If you’re unemployed, get a job. If you already have one, do everything you can to move up the ladder. Always move forward. Be ambitious. Get money. Get status. Get power. However long it takes.
- Social
If you’re shy push outside your comfort zone. Learn social skills. Make friends. If you’re already a social person then get a larger social circle. Become a popular guy that everyone wants to know.
- Get a life
That’s right, get out of your house and do something other than sitting in front of your computer. Get some hobbies and do stuff you’re interested in. Get a fvcking life.
IMPROVE YOURSELF AND THE WOMEN WILL COME.
This is a very basic list. There’s loads more detailed stuff on SoSuave about self-improvement. Search around, this place is a goldmine.
I know this has all been said before but it can't be stressed enough.
Depending on where you are in life, these things may take more time. But you should always be working on them. For most of us these things will take years, but the hard work will pay off in the end. I know I still have a long way to go to get where I want to be, but I work on it every single day.
And if you don’t wanna put the work in, then don’t come crying to the forums when your “Negs” and “Demonstrations of Higher Value” didn’t work and a man with REAL VALUE came along and stole your girl because HE is the prize.
But as harsh as the title of this thread sounds, there is a reason I say it. There seems to be a myth in the community that all you need is “game” to get and keep hot women. You somehow “deserve” to have a 10 no matter who you are.
I’m sure we’ve all come across some of the stuff pushed by pickup gurus trying to sell their products, “You can be a short, bald, fat, ugly, poor nobody and still get hot women! You’re entitled to date 9s and 10s!”
As great as this sounds, it’s simply not the truth. Why is this?
It’s because you’re not giving any value. Why should a man who has NOTHING to offer deserve a hot woman? Just because he believes he deserves her doesn’t mean sh!t. All of these tricks and techniques are about creating the ILLUSION of value. They basically teach guys how to be FAKE. It’s all smoke and mirrors.
The problem with faking value is sooner or later she’s gonna find out. Oh yes, she will. If you’re using game to try and KEEP a woman you will fail every time. There’s enough threads on the discussion forum proving that.
Remember, you may think that between you and her that YOU are the prize. But you also have to be the prize compared to other guys she meets. Not every guy she meets can be the prize.
That’s not to say game doesn’t have its place. Don’t get me wrong, when guys first come to the community I think they need to go through a phase of believing they’re the prize, mostly because they have massive self-esteem problems. It’s also important for men to have game so they don’t get taken advantage of by women. If you want a one night stand then game can be very effective, but anything else such as an LTR and even a FB is asking for trouble.
You can’t go on faking it like this forever. Once you’ve been in the community for so long you can’t go on relying on tricks and techniques and inner / outer game. You eventually have to stop faking value.
And here’s something else some guys might not realize. Women know how to fake having value all too well. Playing hard to get, anyone? All of their tricks and mind games in Cosmo. Ever heard of The Rules?
So you have a fat, ugly, lazy woman sitting around not answering the phone believing she deserves a high value man. The women’s dating advice tells her SHE is the prize. This low value woman believes she deserves a tall, handsome, rich, successful man and she doesn’t have to do sh!t.
Of course this is a lie.
But the problem for her is she believes this bullsh!t, so instead of getting on the fvcking treadmill and learning how to cook, she sits around playing mind games and b!tching about how all men are a$$holes.
All of this dating advice is very dangerous for guys too because it can make them lazy. “Why should I change who I am, I don’t have to change for any woman. All I need is game. I’m already the prize”. But this is the wrong view to have. And he’ll realize that soon enough.
If you want to get and keep hot women then you cannot rely on tricks and techniques forever. You cannot have no status, money, looks, etc and expect to get hot women because you have a few mind games up your sleeve.
If you want to get and keep hot women YOU MUST RAISE YOUR VALUE.
Yes, it requires actually doing something other than learning PUA seduction tricks. There is no magic pill. There are no shortcuts. Instead of focusing on being the prize and saying “I am the prize”, actually BECOME THE PRIZE.
So how can a man raise his value? Several ways actually:
- Looks
I don’t want another looks thread. All I will say is every man should look his best. Don’t compare to other guys, it’s pointless – just improve your looks. Get in the gym, have good hygiene, have some fashionable clothes, etc. Change what you can, don’t worry about the stuff you can’t change. We are luckier than women in that we don’t have to rely so much on looks, but they still matter to a degree.
- Status
If you’re young, get an education. If you’re unemployed, get a job. If you already have one, do everything you can to move up the ladder. Always move forward. Be ambitious. Get money. Get status. Get power. However long it takes.
- Social
If you’re shy push outside your comfort zone. Learn social skills. Make friends. If you’re already a social person then get a larger social circle. Become a popular guy that everyone wants to know.
- Get a life
That’s right, get out of your house and do something other than sitting in front of your computer. Get some hobbies and do stuff you’re interested in. Get a fvcking life.
IMPROVE YOURSELF AND THE WOMEN WILL COME.
This is a very basic list. There’s loads more detailed stuff on SoSuave about self-improvement. Search around, this place is a goldmine.
I know this has all been said before but it can't be stressed enough.
Depending on where you are in life, these things may take more time. But you should always be working on them. For most of us these things will take years, but the hard work will pay off in the end. I know I still have a long way to go to get where I want to be, but I work on it every single day.
And if you don’t wanna put the work in, then don’t come crying to the forums when your “Negs” and “Demonstrations of Higher Value” didn’t work and a man with REAL VALUE came along and stole your girl because HE is the prize.