Is the Don Juan the man who has NO comfort zones? Or is he the man who is constantly CHANGING his comfort zones?
I want you to think about that question as you read this.
Your zone of comfort, or your comfort zone, is the one thing that affects EVERYONE. Comfort Zones inhibit EVERYONE, from the Master Don Juans, to the PUAs, to the AFCs, to the AMOGs. Let me tell you why.
As soon as someone establishes a comfort zone they become OUTWADLY dependent on something. Their inner state becomes completely controlled by something outside of their control. In Sun Tzu's famous book "The Art of War", he describes "fluidity" as being the prime requisite for success on the battlefield. The same can be said for success in picking up women. If you remain fluid and ever-changing, you will be able to adapt to any woman you encounter. No in fact FORGET WOMEN, you'll be able to handle any SITUATION you encounter.
How the AFC is the victim of the Zone of Comfort:
You can become comfortable in NOT APPROACHING because you feel more comfortable chatting with their friends/hanging out on death row/doing it "later". This is a vicious perpetuating cycle that can only be broken by pushing yourself out of your comfort zones.
Going out is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
Sarging is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
Approaching a woman is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
Kino'ing a woman is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
Closing a woman is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
Dating a woman is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
Kissing a woman is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
Doing the horizontal foxtrot with a woman is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
This is why boot camps are so brilliant, they use a staggered system, which allows people to gradually force their way out of their comfort zones.
Mystery once said "You're either a Pickup Artist or an excuse artist". Those who are the latter are people who are scared to move out of their own zone of comfort. Those who "can't be bothered" or who "are tired" or "will do it later".
If you see a girl you like there should be NO REASON, and I mean NO REASON ON THIS PLANET why you cannot go over and talk to her. If there is a reason, YOU have made it up. YOU are being too scared to leave YOUR comfort zone.
So scare yourself sh!tless and give it a go.
How the AMOG is the victim of the Zone of Comfort:
AMOG's are simple creatures. They are big brawly AFCs who have made their own little friendship circle (their "kingdom") and are happy to rule over it. Anything outside of this kingdom they cannot handle. AMOG's are dependent on two things:
Challenge their ruler ship and they will become both scared and angry. Scared because you question their leadership, and angry because you have made them scared.
AMOGs are the enemy, if you are one do not despair. Just follow the advice for the AFC and use it on women you DO-NOT KNOW.
How the PUA is the victim of the Zone of Comfort:
A PUA can become comfortable in approaching in a SPECIFIC WAY. There may be routines he uses, tricks or props he likes to use in order to spark attraction/interest. He may always use Mystery Method style Lines, or Juggler style humour. He might always use David DeAngelo ****y Funny, or Ross Jeffries Speed Seduction. While this is all well and good, and will allow him to pick up girls, He is not escaping his comfort zones fully.
OH HECK NO
He's just re-establishing them. What was once a problem (getting women) becomes easy and he falls back into the same old trap of having a comfort zone he refuses to leave. The PUA "mid life crisis" is often caused by this. The mid-life crisis is where a PUA becomes very good at getting women and thinks "What is the point of this? Surely there's more to life than this?"
I'll give you a prime example of a PUA this applies to:
Mystery.
He is arguably one of the worlds best when it comes to picking up women. His method is rivalled only by one other person I know and have recently had the pleasure of meeting. But what...else does he do? To those who have read the game - Mystery seems to constantly dream about becoming a world-renowned illusionist - yet when the opportunity arises for him to chase this dream - he backs down. Mystery's comfort level is in picking up women - he refuses to take it to the next level.
Why do you think so many PUAs in "The Game" became interested in their spirituality? Why do you think so many PUAs/DJs become philosophers? It's because they became comfortable in their ability in being able to speak to women, breaking out of a zone of comfort that previously held them back. Spirituality is a very complicated thing, and those who are prepared to even contemplate that there is more to this world than meets the eye are going to go a long way. Why? because they're prepared to escape the Zone of Comfort of not knowing. Of being content in ignorance.
"Why look at the big picture? We'll never understand it in the same way a Dog will never understand quantum physics!"
Why would you say that? Are you an Excuse artist?
How the DJ is NOT the victim of the Zone of Comfort:
A Don Juan is only human, of course you have comfort zones. But you are confident in the fact that they are not absolute and that they are constantly changing. When you feel confident in a certain area of your life (let's say in terms of pickup) you move on to another area of life you are unconfident in. How do you succeed in this new area? By breaking out of your comfort zones. And in doing this, a Don Juan has no comfort zones - they all become linear and progressive to you.
So to answer the question at the start of this post:
"both"
I want you to think about that question as you read this.
Your zone of comfort, or your comfort zone, is the one thing that affects EVERYONE. Comfort Zones inhibit EVERYONE, from the Master Don Juans, to the PUAs, to the AFCs, to the AMOGs. Let me tell you why.
As soon as someone establishes a comfort zone they become OUTWADLY dependent on something. Their inner state becomes completely controlled by something outside of their control. In Sun Tzu's famous book "The Art of War", he describes "fluidity" as being the prime requisite for success on the battlefield. The same can be said for success in picking up women. If you remain fluid and ever-changing, you will be able to adapt to any woman you encounter. No in fact FORGET WOMEN, you'll be able to handle any SITUATION you encounter.
How the AFC is the victim of the Zone of Comfort:
You can become comfortable in NOT APPROACHING because you feel more comfortable chatting with their friends/hanging out on death row/doing it "later". This is a vicious perpetuating cycle that can only be broken by pushing yourself out of your comfort zones.
Going out is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
Sarging is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
Approaching a woman is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
Kino'ing a woman is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
Closing a woman is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
Dating a woman is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
Kissing a woman is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
Doing the horizontal foxtrot with a woman is a way to break out of a comfort zone.
This is why boot camps are so brilliant, they use a staggered system, which allows people to gradually force their way out of their comfort zones.
Mystery once said "You're either a Pickup Artist or an excuse artist". Those who are the latter are people who are scared to move out of their own zone of comfort. Those who "can't be bothered" or who "are tired" or "will do it later".
If you see a girl you like there should be NO REASON, and I mean NO REASON ON THIS PLANET why you cannot go over and talk to her. If there is a reason, YOU have made it up. YOU are being too scared to leave YOUR comfort zone.
So scare yourself sh!tless and give it a go.
How the AMOG is the victim of the Zone of Comfort:
AMOG's are simple creatures. They are big brawly AFCs who have made their own little friendship circle (their "kingdom") and are happy to rule over it. Anything outside of this kingdom they cannot handle. AMOG's are dependent on two things:
- Their ruler ship of their kingdom
- Their ability to scare people away from their kingdom
Challenge their ruler ship and they will become both scared and angry. Scared because you question their leadership, and angry because you have made them scared.
AMOGs are the enemy, if you are one do not despair. Just follow the advice for the AFC and use it on women you DO-NOT KNOW.
How the PUA is the victim of the Zone of Comfort:
A PUA can become comfortable in approaching in a SPECIFIC WAY. There may be routines he uses, tricks or props he likes to use in order to spark attraction/interest. He may always use Mystery Method style Lines, or Juggler style humour. He might always use David DeAngelo ****y Funny, or Ross Jeffries Speed Seduction. While this is all well and good, and will allow him to pick up girls, He is not escaping his comfort zones fully.
OH HECK NO
He's just re-establishing them. What was once a problem (getting women) becomes easy and he falls back into the same old trap of having a comfort zone he refuses to leave. The PUA "mid life crisis" is often caused by this. The mid-life crisis is where a PUA becomes very good at getting women and thinks "What is the point of this? Surely there's more to life than this?"
I'll give you a prime example of a PUA this applies to:
Mystery.
He is arguably one of the worlds best when it comes to picking up women. His method is rivalled only by one other person I know and have recently had the pleasure of meeting. But what...else does he do? To those who have read the game - Mystery seems to constantly dream about becoming a world-renowned illusionist - yet when the opportunity arises for him to chase this dream - he backs down. Mystery's comfort level is in picking up women - he refuses to take it to the next level.
Why do you think so many PUAs in "The Game" became interested in their spirituality? Why do you think so many PUAs/DJs become philosophers? It's because they became comfortable in their ability in being able to speak to women, breaking out of a zone of comfort that previously held them back. Spirituality is a very complicated thing, and those who are prepared to even contemplate that there is more to this world than meets the eye are going to go a long way. Why? because they're prepared to escape the Zone of Comfort of not knowing. Of being content in ignorance.
"Why look at the big picture? We'll never understand it in the same way a Dog will never understand quantum physics!"
Why would you say that? Are you an Excuse artist?
How the DJ is NOT the victim of the Zone of Comfort:
A Don Juan is only human, of course you have comfort zones. But you are confident in the fact that they are not absolute and that they are constantly changing. When you feel confident in a certain area of your life (let's say in terms of pickup) you move on to another area of life you are unconfident in. How do you succeed in this new area? By breaking out of your comfort zones. And in doing this, a Don Juan has no comfort zones - they all become linear and progressive to you.
So to answer the question at the start of this post:
"both"
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