For those who have girlfriends, how often do you guys actually tell your girl what she can and cant do?
For instance, I invited a girl a month ago to my graduation open house, and she said ok. I brought it up later, and she still said ok, but then later she sent me a text and said...my boyfriend wont let me go so.... I dont know.
I saw her two days later, and gave her the invitation, and said... Well, since you said your not coming, I guess this is of no use to you now huh? She was like... I might come.
Then she went back to the whole... I dont know, and I dont want to upset my boyfriend by showing up, cause he knows about you.
I told her... Look, do what YOU want to do. I invited you, and I want you to show up. If you want to go, go, and dont let HIM make your decisions for you.
I left it at that and said... If you need directions, call me after work on Sat.
It sucks cause she's caught in the middle here, and not sure what to do. Her boyfriend knows I like her, so that's not new.
And this is why he said... You cant go.
I mean as a guy I can see his point, but at the same time, it's not his decision. It's hers.
I just have the mentality about what ever, and first off, if it was my girl, I dont know why she would tell me, but its like this girl has to tell him everything she does, and needs approval.
It's not like were going to be locked in my room getting it on. It's a dang open house, and I wanted to invite her. I know I like her, but its not like she's the only woman I invited.
All I can do is wait and see if she calls Saturday after work.
My question is, would you as a guy really care, would you get all pissy, let her live her life, or what? Sure it's all about trust, but if he cant trust her, that's his fault. No harm in saying hi, and eating food, and chatting.
I guess he feels threatened.
For instance, I invited a girl a month ago to my graduation open house, and she said ok. I brought it up later, and she still said ok, but then later she sent me a text and said...my boyfriend wont let me go so.... I dont know.
I saw her two days later, and gave her the invitation, and said... Well, since you said your not coming, I guess this is of no use to you now huh? She was like... I might come.
Then she went back to the whole... I dont know, and I dont want to upset my boyfriend by showing up, cause he knows about you.
I told her... Look, do what YOU want to do. I invited you, and I want you to show up. If you want to go, go, and dont let HIM make your decisions for you.
I left it at that and said... If you need directions, call me after work on Sat.
It sucks cause she's caught in the middle here, and not sure what to do. Her boyfriend knows I like her, so that's not new.
And this is why he said... You cant go.
I mean as a guy I can see his point, but at the same time, it's not his decision. It's hers.
I just have the mentality about what ever, and first off, if it was my girl, I dont know why she would tell me, but its like this girl has to tell him everything she does, and needs approval.
It's not like were going to be locked in my room getting it on. It's a dang open house, and I wanted to invite her. I know I like her, but its not like she's the only woman I invited.
All I can do is wait and see if she calls Saturday after work.
My question is, would you as a guy really care, would you get all pissy, let her live her life, or what? Sure it's all about trust, but if he cant trust her, that's his fault. No harm in saying hi, and eating food, and chatting.
I guess he feels threatened.
