enkai
Senior Don Juan
I know a lot of guys have a hard time doing cold approaches, I do myself, well I more or less use to have a real hard time, something in me would just turn on and I would get this feeling in my gut and then something would just hold me back, but now I love doing cold approaches, they're my favorite, and when I succeed in them I am the more happy then when doing anything else because to me that's the greatest reward and they're real hard to do...K anyhow, I had this realization a while back while doing cardio at the gym, funny how things just click sometime randomly...Fear...When you are about to approach a chik, you get this feeling of fear, but in reality there is NOTHING to be afraid of, you are not going to get phsycally hurt, you're not going to loose anything, the fear doesn't make sense, I know it's much easier telling yourself this rather then actually feelin' it, so what I reccomend you do is take a week, goto a mall a that's a lil far from where you live in case you get rejected so it wont come back to hunt ya which I promise you it wont! and just bang out cold approaches one by one, take a buddy with you, that's what I did...I went to a mall and just did cold approaches, here is my first one after my friend failed to do it 3 times, it was kinda corny, but I got the digits and made the girl smile....
As I walk upto the girl she turns around and looks at me I go
Me - Whats up?
Her - Nothing Much
Me - What's your name?
Her - Megan
Me - I'm Alen
Me - Listen Megan, I really don't have much time to talk to you, but I'd love to get to know you, so do you have an e-mail or a phone number I can get in touch with you?
Her - Is already looking for paper
Me - I hand her my cell phone and tell her to punch it, then I ask her what her name is again and walk off.
Her - Turns around and tells me to give her a call some time
K that was it, see how easy that was? once you do it, you do it, and there is nothing to it, females are not some magical creature that takes some extra super strength, by the way...getting the phone number or the e-mail is just one tiny tiny step of the whole thing, but what it does man? It gives you confidence, you did something what 90% of the guys out there can't do, and guess what? You guys are armed with a ton of information that those 10% that are able to approah them have, so now what does this leave...O yeah, you're somewhere in 1% of the population that actually knows how to go through the whole proccess...It took me a year to get enough balls and just go out and do it, two weeks ago I couldn't have pulled this off, but some times when you just sit back and let your thoughts roam free you realize things such as that this fear of approaching females is very very illgocal because you have nothing to loose, only to gain.
Also on another note, you DJs that are pretty experienced in these matters, help out the new guys...I know when I was the new guy here and was just reading article after article, but then I realized..."Hey this stuff isn't worth a thing if I don't go out there and use it".
As I walk upto the girl she turns around and looks at me I go
Me - Whats up?
Her - Nothing Much
Me - What's your name?
Her - Megan
Me - I'm Alen
Me - Listen Megan, I really don't have much time to talk to you, but I'd love to get to know you, so do you have an e-mail or a phone number I can get in touch with you?
Her - Is already looking for paper
Me - I hand her my cell phone and tell her to punch it, then I ask her what her name is again and walk off.
Her - Turns around and tells me to give her a call some time
K that was it, see how easy that was? once you do it, you do it, and there is nothing to it, females are not some magical creature that takes some extra super strength, by the way...getting the phone number or the e-mail is just one tiny tiny step of the whole thing, but what it does man? It gives you confidence, you did something what 90% of the guys out there can't do, and guess what? You guys are armed with a ton of information that those 10% that are able to approah them have, so now what does this leave...O yeah, you're somewhere in 1% of the population that actually knows how to go through the whole proccess...It took me a year to get enough balls and just go out and do it, two weeks ago I couldn't have pulled this off, but some times when you just sit back and let your thoughts roam free you realize things such as that this fear of approaching females is very very illgocal because you have nothing to loose, only to gain.
Also on another note, you DJs that are pretty experienced in these matters, help out the new guys...I know when I was the new guy here and was just reading article after article, but then I realized..."Hey this stuff isn't worth a thing if I don't go out there and use it".