It depends on so many factors, especially how long it's been since you made your AFC impression. The longer it's been since then, the higher the probability you can make a different impression now.
I've been fortunate, and had the oppurtunity to move around a little in the last couple years, travel, meet lots and lots of differnet people, and try lots of new things. So when I come back to my hometown, or see people who I made a complete AFC impression on back in the day...now I present myself completely different than they could predict. I talk different, walk different, dress different, and have a much wider variety of interests. So they don't immediately associate the old me with the me they're talking to at the moment.
Again, there are a lot of different issues that can come up and affect your chances here. And if it's only been a couple months, or even a year...your best route is to not try and make a new impression yet. Don't go out of your way to talk to them, even avoid them, or if they're around, you need to appear preoccupied. But if you do run into the person you've wussed out on...be very polite, curteous, smile, act like you have other fun things you need to be doing, and cut off the conversation as quickly and smoothly as you can.
If it's been a while since you made your less than perfect impression, and you run into that old desire, here are a couple things to keep in mind:
- Smile a confident smile (practice this so it's not fake)
- Look as different as possible from when you messed up the 1st time (ie: different haircut, different style, taller shoes, etc.)
- Turn your head, but don't turn your BODY directly toward her when talking and listening. (It needs to appear that you're paying attention to her, but she hasn't won you over yet.) Angle your body so that it pointing toward some 'action' in your environment, whether it's a crowd of people, a fountain, a busy street, etc. Try to get her to subconsciously move in front of you as the conversation develops.
- Have good, confident posture. If you don't have this now...start studying how to get it.
- Pronounce your words clearly. If you're one that runs words together, gets in a hurry, or studders around chicks..just smile, pause, and take a deep breath while you're planning what to say. It makes you look less eager, more astute, and gives you time to come up with an insightful response.
- Add kino to whatever approach you take.
- Throw in any exciting interesting things you've done, but only when they fit into the conversation...or when it outdoes something she mentions. But be humble about big things you've done...don't over exaggerate something small to impress her. (This means you have to be doing big sh*t, but your a DJ, so you are, right? ;-)
And if things go well, and you want to hook up with her, you can go for a close. But most times, if I think I'll probably run into her again somewhere..I just cut of the conversation.."I got to go, it's been great talking to you!" Then real quickly give her a rhythmic hug, and a kiss on the cheek/upper neck (with slight sound effect) before she knows what's going on..and her built-in/off-guard response will be to kiss you back real quick.
So she'll be confused because she saw you out of nowhere, and you impressed the hell out of her, you seemed different than before, and she even kissed you! But now you're gone, and you didn't ask her for any contact info, and she can't call you. You completely threw her for a loop in a good way.
I know it's a long post, but it's something that's been happening to me a lot lately. Just be sure to seem completely different than you did before, if you honestly feel like you're a different person. If you make all these changes, but meet her wearing the same dirty hat, or old shoes you had on last time..it's not going to work as smooth.
Hope this helps. Good luck!
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Thanks for the info. It is exactly what I need for a particular situation I'll be working on in a few weeks. There's only one problem with it for my particular case. The "Add kino to whatever approach you take". Is that really essential? Because the woman I'm thinking about trying it on would probably be hostile to any type of kino (except maybe the hug at the end), because she'll likely be on her guard and defensive. If it is essential, how would you go about it in a way that she doesn't feel threatened?