Often on this forum I see people advocate the 2 strikes rule: If a girl flakes the first time you invite her out, give her one more chance and if she flakes again it's over. I'm in a situation like this right now and I wanted to get you guys' opinion.
A bit of background info: I work for the same company as this girl. I know this is generally advised against but we don't work together and I don't really have to ever see or interact with her if I don't want to.
I invited this girl out a week ish ago and she said yes. When I texted her some logistic info on the day we planned to meet up she confirmed but then called me and told me she couldn't make it about 10 minutes before we were supposed to meet. She said that she got a call from her dad or something and had completely forgotten that she was supposed to be at her parents house to see some family friends. This instance wasn't too bothersome to me because I got the impression that this was a legitimate mistake.
The second time I invited her out was this weekend. I stopped by her office and talked to her for a bit on Friday afternoon, which went well, and I invited her to go out Saturday night and she said yes. Then on Saturday when I texted her when to meet up she texted me back saying that she couldn't go but gave no reason. I was pretty annoyed to be honest and I just didn't respond.
Anyway, today when she arrives at work the first thing she does is come to my office and apologize for flaking. She explained why she couldn't come but to be honest, it was really early and I was very far from 100% mentally and somehow didn't grasp any of it. It was actually really weird, I only remember bits and pieces of the conversation, but I do remember her apologizing twice and then inviting me to lunch at the end. I don't know if that really means much though because we get lunch pretty often.
To be honest I really didn't want to have lunch with her. I invited a few other people to come with and I think I was unintentionally kind of cold towards her. She clearly made some attempts to joke around with me but I was just still annoyed and not in the greatest mood even though she apologized. I wasn't like being passive aggressive or anything but I probably came off as a bit less outgoing/friendly than usual.
As I'm writing this all out it seems like I shouldn't be as annoyed as I am but for some reason it's just bothering me a lot. I think it's the fact that she didn't give a reason, which implies to me that she found something that she decided would be better to do. It would be nice if I could remember the reason she gave me this morning -_-
A bit of background info: I work for the same company as this girl. I know this is generally advised against but we don't work together and I don't really have to ever see or interact with her if I don't want to.
I invited this girl out a week ish ago and she said yes. When I texted her some logistic info on the day we planned to meet up she confirmed but then called me and told me she couldn't make it about 10 minutes before we were supposed to meet. She said that she got a call from her dad or something and had completely forgotten that she was supposed to be at her parents house to see some family friends. This instance wasn't too bothersome to me because I got the impression that this was a legitimate mistake.
The second time I invited her out was this weekend. I stopped by her office and talked to her for a bit on Friday afternoon, which went well, and I invited her to go out Saturday night and she said yes. Then on Saturday when I texted her when to meet up she texted me back saying that she couldn't go but gave no reason. I was pretty annoyed to be honest and I just didn't respond.
Anyway, today when she arrives at work the first thing she does is come to my office and apologize for flaking. She explained why she couldn't come but to be honest, it was really early and I was very far from 100% mentally and somehow didn't grasp any of it. It was actually really weird, I only remember bits and pieces of the conversation, but I do remember her apologizing twice and then inviting me to lunch at the end. I don't know if that really means much though because we get lunch pretty often.
To be honest I really didn't want to have lunch with her. I invited a few other people to come with and I think I was unintentionally kind of cold towards her. She clearly made some attempts to joke around with me but I was just still annoyed and not in the greatest mood even though she apologized. I wasn't like being passive aggressive or anything but I probably came off as a bit less outgoing/friendly than usual.
As I'm writing this all out it seems like I shouldn't be as annoyed as I am but for some reason it's just bothering me a lot. I think it's the fact that she didn't give a reason, which implies to me that she found something that she decided would be better to do. It would be nice if I could remember the reason she gave me this morning -_-