Building up a strong, masculine frame is, in my opinion, the most important thing an ordinary guy should do if he wants to get laid more. I've seen guys with no game at all, who never approach women, get laid (not literally seen them) purely because of their looks.
They merely have to turn up and some girl somewhere, nearly always a very attractive one, will make some moves and all he has to do is just go with the flow and he's getting laid that night.
Read Pook's thread "What every skinny guy should know". Yes game is important but physical looks play a large part in attraction and if you're not doing as best as you can to look your physical best then you're making things a lot harder for yourself.
No one is saying you need to have a reasonable chance of winning a bodybuilding contest, merely that you should look like a man who can lift heavy things if required and won't break in half if the sex gets rough.
Skinny guys do get laid, especially if they have good game, but from what I've seen the guys getting laid the most are generally those who have good physiques for whatever reason (e.g. the university's rugby team); the skinny guys with game are the exception. I've never seen a built guy with game, probably because such things don't generally need to exist in order to get laid, but I'd imagine that is king.
thewarrior said:
Why is bulking up such a big deal in the game? That's all I hear on this forum. "Go to a gym"
Not everybody can be well defined and 200lbs. My genes want me to stay at a certain weight and build. I could possibly change this by overloading my body with calories and lifting tons of weight. But would I see huge gains? Would I be doing my body harm, draining my wallet, and wasting my time?
I'm trying to be happy with having a slender frame. And reading "go to the gym" all the time makes me want to leave these forums for good.
Just like there are chubby chasers with men, there are women that like guys built slim and defined.
thewarrior, I'm seeing a lot of negativity from your posts, which is a game killer. If you have poor genes for strength and muscle building, read some Stuart McRoberts stuff. He was the publisher of Hardgainer magazine, a magazine devoted to diet and training articles for the genetically less well endowed and average man as opposed to the crap in Flex about the pros' latest biceps blasting routine. Good stuff in there. Providing I eat enough and stick to lower reps I get gains which suggest at least average genetics, and there is a lot of stuff in there which even I found useful.
You have most likely never been exposed to the right information, which is why your results have always been poor. Or you might just have sky high expectations ... you're not going to bulk up to over 200lbs and still have abs showing by this time next year even, let alone in a few months time, if that was what you were expecting.
But you cannot conclude that you have sh!tty genetics until you do everything right consistently for a long time. So stop whining, read some Stuart McRoberts material and practice it. Unless you want the women that genuinely prefer smaller built men rather than just settle for them, which in my experiences are the fatties or those with issues (i.e. extreme insecurity - if you're not generally appealing to other women she can be sure that you won't cheat on her, etc.).
- The OP's post I thought was total rubbish save for the part where he suggested we get into a gym regularly to work out; this should however be to do with your own personal health, fitness and wellbeing. Women are just getting lucky bonus when you have an nice physique to go along with that awesome personality.