Originally posted by Datawolf
In my experience, I have found that lust and attraction appear similar, but there is a subtle, yet important difference between the two.
Lust is purely physical. You see that hottie and you want a piece. Lust comes and goes very quickly. Being hot does get your foot in the door, but you can screw it up very easily if the other person does not become attracted to you.
Attraction appears (to me, anyway) to be more... psychological for lack of a better term. In order to develop an attraction for someone, you have to spend some time in their company, figuring them out so to speak. If you can conclude that they are capable of offering you something few people/no one else can, your attraction to them will start to grow. Attraction tends to be longer lived than lust since it is built on the character and personality of the other person, two things that truly define them as an individual.
To make a long story short, if you just want to GET with them, it's lust. If you want to BE with them, it's attraction.
That being said, I am rather new at the study of human social dynamics and sexual attraction. If any of the more experienced gentlemen on this site believe that my conclusions are wrong, I'd be interested in reading your opinions.
In any event, your ability to shape and control your personality and fundamental character is greater than your ability to shape and control your physical body. Additionally, your body will deteriorate with age, whereas your personality and character will remain the same. So it pays to internally transform yourself into the man you wish to be.
