Truman181 said:
A few weeks went by and I caved....I texted her and told her how much I missed her. She said "I hate to tell you this but what I have now is even better than what we had.
They will ALWAYS say that. Don't take that personally. She's not going to tell you she made a bad decision...she will CONVINCE herself that she is "happier" with the new guy just so she can tell you that. Remember how much she was all over you? She was probably telling someone else the same thing about how much "better off" she was with you. In reality, she's just living out the same pattern over and over and over again.
And if she is genuinely "happier"...then good for her. If you REALLY care about her, you should want her to be happy. I know that sounds like cheese, but it's the truth. It's only ego that makes you want to feel like every women you've been with will always look to you as "the best she's ever had". It breaks my heart and makes me feel cheap every time a woman walks away from me after any kind of encounter...but you know, she's probably not "the right one" anyway, and she just recognized it before you did.
That was a year ago today. To tell you the truth part of me misses her and feels like I won't ever get over her. The other part of me hates her guts.
That's exactly what I'm talking about...that's the sign of an ego injury. Stop picking at it and let it heal.
A few months went by and I ended up dating this 'bigger girl' that I met through a friend of a friend. Though I felt I was shallow and that the girl was beneath my standards, she was nice and seemed to want me.
Yada yada yada my neediness got to me and I fell for her. But as soon as I had feelings for her, she smelled it and pushed me away. A few weeks ago she broke it off with me for the SECOND time.
Funny, those "bigger girls", how they work. They KNOW they're fatty-ding-dongs, thus they have no self-esteem. When you show affection for them, they take it as a sign of weakness because they KNOW no high-quality guy would want a fatty-fat-fat, so they kick you to the curb and keep looking.
You have to look past the veneer to see these kinds of things.
Today, I just banged a married chick. How did I meet her? I posted an ad on craigslist. After a few emails and a few IM's, we met and she sucked me off in my car, swallowed my ***. Then she looked up me and asked "is there any more?" (I just had to share THAT). Then she climbed on me and we fvcked.
This woman prides herself on being a slut. She told me she slept with 4 different guys on 4 different nights on a recent trip. She feels absolutely no guilt about swallowing my cvm then going home to her husband and 3 year old.
I feel absolutely no guilt either. The woman sleeps around. If it's not me, it's with other men. You can say I'm betraying my fellow man but really, she would sleep with any other man that came along so why not me.
This is what a lot of moralists seem to miss...they think they're saving a marriage by not cheating with a married woman. They're not...she WILL find someone who WILL f**k her. The marriage is already "over" at least at the physical level. For all you know, they have an "open" thing sexually and he's out banging some tramp right now.
Just make sure you use protection if you know that "she gets around".
And you know what? This is what I want. I want to have the good stuff with a woman and none of the bullsh1t. It's not even fvcken worth it to get attached emotionally to a woman because the second you do, they push you away.
Well, most women, yes. You need to understand your emotional attachments and make sure when one DOES happen, it happens for the right reasons, not just because you're emotionally needy and weak and your body chemistry gets the best of you after a romp.
You may think that I'm really negative or angry in this post. That is far from the case. It's almost a feeling of liberation. Finally, I think I've "toughened up" enough to see through bullsh1t and not be lured in by women's false promises.
What has been seen cannot be unseen. I'm not saying I'm flawless, but I know where my flaws are. I see people conspicuously unaware of how much of a mess they are, trying to "make relationships work", relationships they have no business being in. They think they're in control until they realize that they're not, then suddenly it's what you described...a mixture of anger and contrition rather than admit that they just DIDN'T SEE.
The man who can admit that he just failed to SEE and can move on from there is the one who will succeed in life.
You may judge me for sleeping with a married woman but don't be too quick to be harsh. Marriage is a sham. My so called "one" showed me that. Women will lie, cheat or manipulate in a heart beat and they won't feel the guilt that us men do.
Women don't behave like men. They feel an emotion, decide on a course of action, then try to fabricate a rational justification after the fact to try to explain themselves to a male-dominated society. If they can put together a justification that passes muster with the average idiot, they act on the original emotion. If they can't, sometimes they will not act, unless the emotion is overpowering. But NEVER think that the rational thought is the REASON for the action. Only the justification.
The reason men don't understand women is because they listen to what women SAY to them and try to reconcile it with what they DO. That is a waste of time. If I ever find a woman whose thoughts align with her actions, who speaks her true mind...I'd be off this forum and married.