Matrix: Revolutions
Don Juan
It is 8:43 AM, and it seems that insomnia is going to get the better of me (did not come home from the club until like 3:30 AM), so bare with me if what I am about to provide for you sounds a little incomprensible. To react to a situation is a habit that humans do far too much. Instead of being proactive in life (happening to life instead of life happening to you) oftentimes we as humans choose to be reactive (life happening to you, instead of you happening to life) simply because it is easier. Well... the interesting thing about life is that, the better the life you have... the harder it is to maintain. Bottom line: Life is not easy... and taking the easy way out in life gets you no where, very quickly.
It has been my observation that even the best of Don Juans are very reactive to one particular thing... women. I have attempted to study the game of interpersonal communcation between the sexes in an attempt to completely figure out women... I learned something very interesting. With women: do not react to the things that they do, say, or express through body language... but rather act to the things that they say, do or express through body language. Now I know what you are asking... well what's the difference? I will provide some examples:
I was supposed to take a female friend of mine to the club yesterday with me... now keep this in mind... she asked me to go. She called me the day before... she asked me what time we where going, and everything. Yesterday... I never get a call. I go to her house (like 5 minutes away) she's not even home. Now... there is two things that I could do:
1. Get mad (Reactive)
2. Handle the situation in the future (proactive)
Getting mad is not worth it, because I understand that women are prone to doing odd things such as this. When she calls me (is it not obvious that I am not going to call her?) she will give me some sob story and apologize and I will say no problem and remain completely calm thereby throwing her for a loop. I have the whole situation in control, even when it looks like I do not right now... this is the power of acting instead of reacting. Another example:
Whenever you are on a date or even just talking to girls... you always are on the constant look for various signals to show her interest. I want you to try something the next time that you engage in the game of interpersonal communcation: do not look for any signs that the girl is interested... only assume that she is before anything comes out of your mouth. Sounds crazy? I know. But think about this: ever notice how your conversation with a female changes when you find out vacariously from someone that she likes you? Even if you do not have much interest in her, your confidence goes up, and when you talk to her you probably sound a lot more upbeat... but most importantly... you sound a lot more confident.
I have noticed one thing about some of the masters of the game that I know: it seems like they never give any thought to the fact that someone may not like them. It seems like they know that if just had 5 minutes of any women's time... she will fall head over heels for him. He doesn't look for eye contact or touching... because it seems that he already knows that he is going to get it... this is the power of acting instead of reacting.
So... the thing to remember is this: you must become confident enough in yourself to act instead of reacting to the things that women do. If a women does something crazy or weird and you have no idea why... don't get unnerved. Just handle the situation and she will not realize what hit her. Also, do not worry about not getting any signs from women... realize that will not always get them because some women are insecure and although they probably will want to have your children... they will never give any signs whatsoever (i.e. my current girlfriend... that is until she got bold and just told me). So instead, of reacting to her signs... just assume she already has interest and then act accordingly. I hope you understand.
The Matrix: Revolutions
The rabbit hole goes deeper than you think...
It has been my observation that even the best of Don Juans are very reactive to one particular thing... women. I have attempted to study the game of interpersonal communcation between the sexes in an attempt to completely figure out women... I learned something very interesting. With women: do not react to the things that they do, say, or express through body language... but rather act to the things that they say, do or express through body language. Now I know what you are asking... well what's the difference? I will provide some examples:
I was supposed to take a female friend of mine to the club yesterday with me... now keep this in mind... she asked me to go. She called me the day before... she asked me what time we where going, and everything. Yesterday... I never get a call. I go to her house (like 5 minutes away) she's not even home. Now... there is two things that I could do:
1. Get mad (Reactive)
2. Handle the situation in the future (proactive)
Getting mad is not worth it, because I understand that women are prone to doing odd things such as this. When she calls me (is it not obvious that I am not going to call her?) she will give me some sob story and apologize and I will say no problem and remain completely calm thereby throwing her for a loop. I have the whole situation in control, even when it looks like I do not right now... this is the power of acting instead of reacting. Another example:
Whenever you are on a date or even just talking to girls... you always are on the constant look for various signals to show her interest. I want you to try something the next time that you engage in the game of interpersonal communcation: do not look for any signs that the girl is interested... only assume that she is before anything comes out of your mouth. Sounds crazy? I know. But think about this: ever notice how your conversation with a female changes when you find out vacariously from someone that she likes you? Even if you do not have much interest in her, your confidence goes up, and when you talk to her you probably sound a lot more upbeat... but most importantly... you sound a lot more confident.
I have noticed one thing about some of the masters of the game that I know: it seems like they never give any thought to the fact that someone may not like them. It seems like they know that if just had 5 minutes of any women's time... she will fall head over heels for him. He doesn't look for eye contact or touching... because it seems that he already knows that he is going to get it... this is the power of acting instead of reacting.
So... the thing to remember is this: you must become confident enough in yourself to act instead of reacting to the things that women do. If a women does something crazy or weird and you have no idea why... don't get unnerved. Just handle the situation and she will not realize what hit her. Also, do not worry about not getting any signs from women... realize that will not always get them because some women are insecure and although they probably will want to have your children... they will never give any signs whatsoever (i.e. my current girlfriend... that is until she got bold and just told me). So instead, of reacting to her signs... just assume she already has interest and then act accordingly. I hope you understand.
The Matrix: Revolutions
The rabbit hole goes deeper than you think...
