Well, it's been three weeks, and I'm in exactly the same boat as I was at the end of last week.
-Two to four approaches a day. Lately I've been trying to make stops on the street, in bookstores, malls, etc. All of them have failed, however (Last Saturday I went 0-13 on my non-train approaches. It seems the ONLY place I can run game is on the train, where it'd take a lot of effort for them to run away.
-Two to three dates a week. Ya know, it's great to have all these dates, and I never would have pictured myself seeing so many women at one time a year ago but....
-None of these dates have gone anywhere! Here's a description of each of my dates (including flakes) for Week(s) 7:
Date 1: Had a second date set up with a cute and perky HB7.5 (sells shoes in the mall, I asked her for directions and read a high IL). First date was kinda boring, and my nose was noticably running at the time, so I'm surprised she agreed to a second one. She ended up flaking that day, though (and not until after I sent a confirmation text, indicating she had forgotten/planned to stand me up). I texted her asking why, and she said 'I'm seeing my family.' (Why the hell didn't she tell me that when we were setting up the date?) I called her 2 minutes later, and she didn't answer. It was obvious she was available. Flake. Haven't contacted since.
Date 2: First date with HB6.5, chemistry student with no hobbies, not much interesting stuff to say. She wanted to be an artist but changed to chemistry to make her father happy (more money). I advised her to follow her dream, but whatever. We ate Korean barbecue and went to the jazz bar. She refused my arm crick, and sat across the table from me, even though every other couple there was sitting together to watch the band. I could tell she was cricking her neck, and insisted she sit by me. She did, so I got some kino in and some myspace-esque photos. I didn't think she was interested, but she texted me the next day wanting to go visit some castle/temple in the spring. Long ways away. I'll call her for a date between now and then.
Date 3: Second date with HB6 I went to coffee and bowling with last week. We had some coffee and pastries (during the day) and walked randomly around the neighborhood. She still refused my arm crick. I insisted we go exploring to the top of this tower that has been on my mind for months. I thought it would be cool to run down the up escalator, and she almost came with me but backed out at the last second, so I 'raced' her downstairs. She didn't bother playing with me though.
I bring her up to the top floor and she wants to go back down but I insist we continue. We eventually get to the top where there's a restaurant and observation deck. We're waiting for hte elevator to come up and I get in real close and give her the 'lets kiss' look. She goes "why are you looking at me like that?" with a smile, but I chicken out and make a joke out of it. Walk to station, end date. I would see her again though.
Date 4: HB6.5 third date with HB6.5, and the only girl I have met in Korea that I actually had 'like' emotions for (not anymore though). It was on Valentine's Day, but that wasn't the theme since neither of us believed in it. We meet at the station and hop on a bus to a pretty area of town I've been to before. We had some deep philosophical conversation on the train, and upon answering one of her questions, 'what makes you happy?' she said 'you have a good heart.' She also said she's been telling her friends about me, etc. and the want to meet me. Good sign. We walk around the park, arm in arm, for awhile and talk. I insist we play with the stepping stones on the nearby stream so it doesn't get boring. We're having a good talk, but I had a gut feeling that I have somehow gone backwards. Last time she wanted to hold my hand,but now she's just pinching my jacket sleeve. We get to a wall with some Chinese characters, and she asks me to identify which ones I know. I decided it would be cute to kiss her (remember, I kissed her at the end of date 2) when we get to the character for 'beautiful.' We finally get to the character and she gets C&F, saying "like me!" I just say "uh huh," and move closer, but she sees it coming and backs away. All downhill from here!! I start to feel discouraged and a litle pissed off that she was showing so much interest before, but now has suddenly turned cold *****. I "punish" her by withdrawing my hand and attention, and walk ahead of her instead of at her side. We head to a sushi restaurant near her home because she is "tired and wants to rest," and not because she's hungry. I'm not hungry either, so I suggest we just go back to her/my place and watch a DVD. "NO." Okay... When we get to the place, its gotten awkward, and she tells me that I'm childish. I say "is that a bad thing?" "To be honest, I don't like childish." I was gonna argue with her, but I figured silence was more appropriate. Fifteen minutes of silence. Was very awkward, but I didn't care. I felt like **** and wanted the date to end. Instead I sat there for 40 minutes and listened to her laundry list of things she doesn't like about me, or mistakes I made on previous dates.
-I am childish
-I am cynical
-I seem too aggressive to her
-I made her feel isolated by speaking Japanese to a guy I recognized on a previous date
She also lectured me like so, "I am meeting you to hang out and have fun, not to be courting you."
I countered with, "whenever I want to have fun, you criticize me."
yadda yadda yadda...
yak yak yak.... I wanted to leave, but there was food to be eaten, and I have a complex about wasting food, so I stayed. While I was in the bathroom, she paid (I expected her to. At least I got something for all this bull****). After dinner, things have cooled down a bit, and we went arm in arm to the subway station. I said to her, "You just spent the last hour painting me as the biggest ******* on the face of the Earth. What was your purpose in meeting me again tonight?" She couldn't come up with an answer. We take the subway, and when we get close to her stop, she starts ORDERING me to sit down, but I refuse. Her bossiness is starting to piss me off. I'm sure she wanted me to sit down because she was afraid I would try to kiss her again (the first time I kissed her, I jumped off the train right before the doors closed, a la Hollywood fashion). I just stood there and laughed at her.
Interestingly enough, she invited me to go to her graduation the next week, and, since I wanted to see a Korean graduation, and she promised to introduce me to her professor (who wrote the script for the famous Korean movie Silmido), I decided to come. Well, the professor wasn't there, but I was in awe at how many HOTTIES go to school at her college, and since I was the only foreigner, they were all looking at me and smiling. Oddly enough, HB6.5 still insists on walking arm in arm with me around the school. I point out that she's just showing me off to her friends, like a trophy. She doesn't deny it. We go eat dinner with her mom and part ways at the subway station. I felt like utter ass after that, but decided to go shopping approach 10 women that day. My # close record for that day was 0-13. Only 1 woman would even talk to me, and that's because we were on the subway and she had no choice. Later that night, I get a message from her saying "I just wanted to say 'GOOD NIGHT'"
Haven't responded. Not going to. She's cut off.