I religiously adhere to the doctrine of spinning multiple plates. One should always be working on multiple projects at once. However, some plates have the potential to be good LTRs while others are at best short flings or one night stands at worst.
What criteria do you use to distinguish between the keepers and the short term types? Now, I always try to keep an open mind. Maybe I will one day meet a girl who doesn't meet my criteria but she is someone I could grow old with. However, there are usually a few things that indicate that success is more likely:
-She should come from a traditional 2 parent household. This has become increasingly rare in the Western world. If a girl grew up in this kind of household, she has probably learned solid family values. She's at least grown up around a functional family, which is more than can be said for a lot of people these days.
-She should have a good relationship with her parents. If a girl's parents are involved in her life, chances are they've taken good care of her and have tried to keep her in line. Usually girls that have bad relationships with one or both parents have serious emotional baggage.
-She should be well educated and have a solid career. This might not apply as much to the older guys. But for girls born in my generation, it was expected that they do just as well in school and pursue careers just as much as guys. If she's got a good career, it indicates that she is intelligent and motivated.
-She should want kids. If a woman has no interest in kids, chances are she's got issues. No feminine woman that I've ever met hasn't wanted children. It's a basic biological drive of all women. If you are going to marry this broad, the most important thing is that she'll be a good mother for your children.
-She should be happy. You don't want a depressed woman. I've messed around with a few of these and they are nothing but trouble. If she isn't happy now, there's no guarantee she'll be happy later. Don't take the chance!
-She should not have been involved with a whole bunch of guys. Some might call me hypocritical on this, but so be it. I love slvts but I would never want to marry one. Now obviously, most girls will have had boyfriends starting in middle school and they've probably fvcked a few guys before they met you. They've probably done a few wild things in college. But if a girl is attractive and in her late 20s or early 30s but still fvcks guys like she's a sorority wh0re, it's a big time red flag.
I'm a bit old fashioned on the last one. I think that a keeper girl should not give it up easily. Now I don't want her to wait til marriage or to wait 6 months before giving it up. But if you fvck on the first date, it's not a good sign. You still want her to worry about being perceived as a slvt. Like it or not, it is still considered very wrong in our society for a woman to be promiscuous. If she has no shame about promiscuity, it makes you wonder about her character.
What criteria do you use to distinguish between the keepers and the short term types? Now, I always try to keep an open mind. Maybe I will one day meet a girl who doesn't meet my criteria but she is someone I could grow old with. However, there are usually a few things that indicate that success is more likely:
-She should come from a traditional 2 parent household. This has become increasingly rare in the Western world. If a girl grew up in this kind of household, she has probably learned solid family values. She's at least grown up around a functional family, which is more than can be said for a lot of people these days.
-She should have a good relationship with her parents. If a girl's parents are involved in her life, chances are they've taken good care of her and have tried to keep her in line. Usually girls that have bad relationships with one or both parents have serious emotional baggage.
-She should be well educated and have a solid career. This might not apply as much to the older guys. But for girls born in my generation, it was expected that they do just as well in school and pursue careers just as much as guys. If she's got a good career, it indicates that she is intelligent and motivated.
-She should want kids. If a woman has no interest in kids, chances are she's got issues. No feminine woman that I've ever met hasn't wanted children. It's a basic biological drive of all women. If you are going to marry this broad, the most important thing is that she'll be a good mother for your children.
-She should be happy. You don't want a depressed woman. I've messed around with a few of these and they are nothing but trouble. If she isn't happy now, there's no guarantee she'll be happy later. Don't take the chance!
-She should not have been involved with a whole bunch of guys. Some might call me hypocritical on this, but so be it. I love slvts but I would never want to marry one. Now obviously, most girls will have had boyfriends starting in middle school and they've probably fvcked a few guys before they met you. They've probably done a few wild things in college. But if a girl is attractive and in her late 20s or early 30s but still fvcks guys like she's a sorority wh0re, it's a big time red flag.
I'm a bit old fashioned on the last one. I think that a keeper girl should not give it up easily. Now I don't want her to wait til marriage or to wait 6 months before giving it up. But if you fvck on the first date, it's not a good sign. You still want her to worry about being perceived as a slvt. Like it or not, it is still considered very wrong in our society for a woman to be promiscuous. If she has no shame about promiscuity, it makes you wonder about her character.
