Yet despite this our divorce rate is 50% and majority of relationships end in a break-up?
How is someone who jumps from one monogamous relationship to another, leaving behind a string of broken and bitter hearts, any different or better of a person than a man/woman in a long-time relationship who has an affair behind their partners back?
Or take marriage for example. It was only until recently people started marrying for love and commitment......whereas before marriage was strictly sought to merge family assets and provide for proper transfer of family assets to a man and wife's offspring. If a man decided to have a mistress or concubine, it was generally tolerated, as long as he was properly providing for his wife and kids.
For over 10,000 years this was the norm, and miraculously the world didn't implode yet you would have thought otherwise watching the media hysteria that ensued when Anthony Weiner got caught merely texting his weiner to someone.
And, btw I am not condoning cheating.
I just happen to think that everyone, both sexes, need to think more broadly about love and possession, guilt and shame and the nature of commitment -
When all statistics point to the fact that we CAN'T seem to make the very commitment we hold as the ideal.
Has anyone ever thought for a second that maybe our ideal is wrong?
The definition of love and commitment needs to be questioned. You know what they say about crazy - doing the same thing over and over again the same way and yet, expecting different results. Obviously, we keep getting the same results from every generation - divorce and "broken homes," broken hearts, bitterness and hatred between the sexes, and yet here we are still perpetuating the same lie. We as a society spend so much time obsessing over the "pulse" of our romantic relationships, whether our SOs continually meet our ridiculously high standards, or if not in a desperate quest to find that person.
Have you ever asked yourselves in whose interest it is to keep people soo distracted and "tied up"?
How is someone who jumps from one monogamous relationship to another, leaving behind a string of broken and bitter hearts, any different or better of a person than a man/woman in a long-time relationship who has an affair behind their partners back?
Or take marriage for example. It was only until recently people started marrying for love and commitment......whereas before marriage was strictly sought to merge family assets and provide for proper transfer of family assets to a man and wife's offspring. If a man decided to have a mistress or concubine, it was generally tolerated, as long as he was properly providing for his wife and kids.
For over 10,000 years this was the norm, and miraculously the world didn't implode yet you would have thought otherwise watching the media hysteria that ensued when Anthony Weiner got caught merely texting his weiner to someone.
And, btw I am not condoning cheating.
I just happen to think that everyone, both sexes, need to think more broadly about love and possession, guilt and shame and the nature of commitment -
When all statistics point to the fact that we CAN'T seem to make the very commitment we hold as the ideal.
Has anyone ever thought for a second that maybe our ideal is wrong?
The definition of love and commitment needs to be questioned. You know what they say about crazy - doing the same thing over and over again the same way and yet, expecting different results. Obviously, we keep getting the same results from every generation - divorce and "broken homes," broken hearts, bitterness and hatred between the sexes, and yet here we are still perpetuating the same lie. We as a society spend so much time obsessing over the "pulse" of our romantic relationships, whether our SOs continually meet our ridiculously high standards, or if not in a desperate quest to find that person.
Have you ever asked yourselves in whose interest it is to keep people soo distracted and "tied up"?