Zarky said:
Not sure I'd recommend getting married just for sexual experience... ???
I was about to get married to my divorced ex-girlfriend last year to lose my virginity with her and have sexual experience. She was on anti-depressants so I'm not sure how that drug would effect her libido, from what I hear it depresses it.
She doesn't seem very naughty either, sounds like mostly only vanilla sex since I can't even stare at her bare a$$ without her looking back at me as though I'm violating her (i.e. hence I don't think she can do doggie-style properly).
If this is any indication of reverse cow-girl or doggie-style then again it may just be too degrading for her and only sex where we are looking at each other and enjoying each other probably would have worked.
With a prostitute it's different. You have no emotional connection, so if you are into oral (and your gf/wife is not), or doing them from behind while they say "yes sir" and look away from you while you get off on them, then I think a prostitute sounds like more fun sometimes. I don't know. I guess that's why men use them as they are so naughty and dirty.
Again, if you have an emotional base like another woman loving you then you have a bit of a buffer (i.e. although you'd be cheating and putting your partner at risk of STDs). If you have no-one, then there is no buffer (i.e. experience making love with someone to contrast), then maybe it won't feel as nice since you may want a real connection at that point and even a good social connection would be better than going with a hooker. That's why allot of guys may just use an escort to talk, cuddle, or do light stuff rather than anything that's penetrative since they want to connect with a beautiful woman without any games or agendas involved beyond the transaction.
I personally would never use a hooker period as long as I believe God is in control of my life because it's an expression of a lack of faith or trust in God that there is a right woman and that I'm not a hopeless case. If I have a woman that loves me, then I'll never use a hooker then either because God came through and I have to honour my end of the bargain.
When I was with my "ex", I was beginning to realize that if I were to have sex with her it would be making love and looking at each other. It's like she was sensitive if I got off on her. Maybe it's the anti-depressants. As soon as I broke up, within a month, I went with another uglier girl that would let me play with her from behind and she would keep her face away from me while I got off on her and that turned me on.
Lots of speculation without actually having any sex, so I don't think I need experience prior to a marriage. You can feel people out.
