djgirl said:
Why is it they all want you to send them "nudes" or "sexy pics" or expect you to fu*k them on first dates? They complain about not wanting shuts and they're after decent girls yet all I come across is this attitude on sites like pof and tinder.
I don't send out nudes and I won't sleep with them straight away it goes against my morals I don't care how hot they are. I do let them know this and it's like they dissappear off the face of the earth.
It's pretty annoying that a girl can't just come on to a dating site and meet up with a guy casually without something else being involved....pretty over it. Should just stick to being single
Most guys are just horny and want sex. Unless the guy is super super needy and ugly and has no game...in which case, he might ACTUALLY be looking to meet a nice girl to make his girlfriend. But most guys realize (even if just subconsciously) that most girls on those sites are low quality and aren't dating material. Guys are always pushing for sex....you should realize this by now.
As for nudes....as a guy it is constantly exciting to get nudes from a new girl. Men are extremely visual, and just one sexy picture allows us to become extremely turned on and have fantasies. Honestly, it's kind of about the conquest too. At this point i dont even really need nudes, but it's endlessly entertaining to game girls to the point where they're willing to send me nudes...especially if they don't live nearby. Sounds bad, but it's extremely satisfying for whatever reason to have a girl send you nudes and it's always gratifying.
As for tinder....that's a different animal. You can find half decent people on there depending on your area. However, the implication is that you are going to hookup very quickly after meeting each other. The best you can hope is for a polite coffee date at first, and then day two is probably going to be conducive to hooking up (watching netflix on the couch, getting drunk at the bars, etc.)
I mean it makes sense from a numbers perspective that theres so many horny, desperate dudes on there. For every one guy who even has the balls to go out to bars/parties regularly (let alone be able to approach girls consistantly), there's probably 10 or 20 lonely, shy, awkward, desperate dudes, sitting at home trying to score on these sites.
If you dont want to be pushed for sex, don't go on the sites. Sorry, but that's how it works.