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why can i only be c&f to some women but not all?

sharkbeat

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Why is that I can be c&f and playful to certain girls but not all?
For example, this is a convo I had with one girl:

Her: can I hit you?
Sb: I'm cute. You can't hit me.
Her: I had sushi with alcohol. I feel like punching somebody.
Sb: right. Blame it on the alcohol.
Her. Please please.
Sb: scary.
Her: scary??
Sb: sneaky.
Her: scary!? Sneaky??? Please..hug hug
Sb: ooo punch!
Her: hey!!

All of these happened without me thinking at all. But with other women I just approached, i can't pull this one off.
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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Well what do you find makes the difference? Describe situations where you might be able to be C&F vs. ones where you wouldn't be.
 

Jitterbug

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Don't treat C&F like a hammer, and every interaction you have with women like nails.
 

jophil28

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Jitterbug said:
Don't treat C&F like a hammer, and every interaction you have with women like nails.
Yes, most guys overuse C&F and try to make it their new conversational style. Consequently, they rapid fire.

****y/ funny was never designed to replace your natural convo style. It works best as a well placed addition - like salt and pepper on a good steak.
 

Kailex

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I've found that C&F is sensed as irritating when a woman has been drinking.

C&F is meant to break down the shield.
Alcohol already did that for you.
 

st_99

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it sounds like you just cant be yourself and completely relaxed around better looking girls. Thats kind of what it sounds like you're saying, its common.

If thats what it is, its just simply lack of experience dealing with
hot girls.
 

squirrels

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Self-confidence?

C&F is easy with:

- Girls you aren't trying to hook up with
- Girls that you feel you "deserve" to hook up with

If you try that stuff with a girl that you have on a pedestal above you somewhere in terms of value estimation, you're not going to be able to sell it. It'll look to her like what it is...a "cheap trick".

Stop using "C&F". Be c*cky. Be funny. And if the situation doesn't warrant it...don't.
 
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