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Why are women such f**king *****es

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Crank Scank said:
Please don't give me any tips and tell me to keep approaching or do some breathing or any other relaxation excerses because i have tried that **** before. **** all that pua nonsense,law of attraction, the secret, rsd, wanksystems,mystery,ross jeffreies faggot,etc. Don't wanna hear that ****. Please provide me with solution or the quickest or simpliest way to end my life so i don't have to deal with this pain anymore.

Translation: Please gimme a magic pill!!!! :cuss:

I don't want to do any hard work!!! omg please tell me a way in which I can pull without approaching and working on my personality (and buddy, you sound like a real party to be around)

Well, there are always escorts I guess.
 

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Dont know that to say more than what more experienced guys told you,however it seems you have problem in self-confidence (your mom did her best to screw your ego too).

I would suggest you to do something that would raise your self confidence unrelated to women,you said you're muscular so u're sued to work out,what about trying to do some bodybuilding competition? the discipline in the diet and the workout could help to leave some breath to your mind.
Or have a trip to south america,I've never been here but all the guys say that women there are not as unpolite and b1tchy as the usa.
 

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Thanks for all your comments guys, i have started reading some of the posts from this forum and am now reading the don juan bible, don't follow alot of what most pua's teach but alot of the things i have read from this forum so far does make sense and is starting to make me feel better. What i really want to work on is my self-esteem, it has taking quite a bad hit and is currently effecting my relationships with not just women but people in general.

I got to the gym regularly and have been working out for 8 years so i am happy that at the age of 31 i am in alot better shape than most guys.

I am actually a web/graphic designer and do alot of freelance work and i'm making a steady income so it can be a very lonely job sitting around on my computer most of the day and has caused me to feel stressed but what i would like more than anything is to be accepted for who i am, the reason for becoming so angry and frustrated was maybe that i do not go out as much as i should. So therefore my social skills died off a little and just made meeting women very difficult for me.

I was very angry writing this post last night and was in a desperate need for advice so was happy that you guys replied which put my mind at ease and made me think differently about things.

I am going to try stop focusing on women and focus more on my career and health and try build up my self-esteem in other areas of my life.

Hoping you guys will understand my situation and provide some usful advice for boosting my confidence and helping me see things in a better light.

Thanks
 

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Crank Scank said:
There was one time in my life that i actually enjoyed the company of women but since i realised they do not like me because i look intimidating or maybe i'm not presentable or boyfriend material. I ****ing hate ****ing women. They are such *****es, they do not ****ing want me. and i am speaking from the heart here. I am a nice guy and get along well with my friends but when i go out with my friends i cannot meet women. I have built up so much anger and fructraion over the years with women. Because i cannot attract them
Hmm. You say that you "hate ****ing women",that they are "b!tches",and that you have "SO MUCH anger and frustation" built up towards them.

Then after saying all that,you go "Because i cannot attract them".


Ya think?


If you're walking around all bitter,enraged,angry,mistrustful,all full of HATE and RESENTMENT,then what do you expect? What makes you think ANY WOMAN would want to be around a guy like that? Would YOU want to have a woman like that in your life?



I'd actually RESPECT a woman who hi-tailed it out of there after being in the presense of your hate and negativity for 5 minutes.



Crank Scank said:
i ask myself what they **** are they doing with loosers who are way below me in terms of looks, status,success in business?
Look dude,women are EMOTIONAL. They don't want a guy because he's "nice" or a good person. They ONLY CARE about how a man makes them FEEL,that's it.



They're EMOTIONAL,meaning that they are sensitive to emotion. So if YOU are giving off emotions of anger,HATE,rage,fear,hurt,or whatever,if you express it strong enough,then THEY WILL FEEL IT TOO. So if a girl is just out minding her own business,without a care in the world,then you approach her with that emotional hellstorm going on inside you,of course she's going to run.



You think she'd want her life to be infected by all that rage that's going on inside you?



You say that you wonder what girls are doing with "loosers" who are beneath you in terms of looks,status,and business. Well my guess would be that they don't scare the hell out of them like you do. If a woman worked in a conveniece store late at night by herself,then all of the sudden,a masked man with a gun burst into the store,the way she'd feel in that situation is somewhat how the HATE in you makes women feel.



No woman wants to be around that.



Crank Scank said:
I was abused and beating by my mother as a kid so i guess that is a part of the reason why i am still single and make it even more diffcult to talk to women or show any interest in them anymore. I feel so ****ing angry and i cannot help but poor my heart out to you guys and let you know how i feel about my situation with women.
Well you couldn't do anything about what happened to you as a child,but YOU CAN do something about your situation now.


You seem to have a mix of abuse issues which some people have,and the standard male/female dating problems which EVERYONE has.



The forum can help you with the dating problems,but the abuse issues are out of our domain. You need to get some help for those. Even if we do clear out the dating issues,the abuse ones can still trip you up.



Crank Scank said:
But i am not happy with my life until i start feeling good around women again.
This is WRONG.


Your life is YOU. It's not sex,it's not girl,it's YOU. What you're saying here is that until things start getting better with women,that you won't be happy in your life. That kind of thinking will keep you stuck.




What are you going to do,ask a women out,and if she says yes,then "magically" you're happy,and everything is right in the world,but if she says no,then continue to feel down in the dumps and depressed?




You can't let HOW YOU FEEL about YOUR LIFE be determined by on a yes or no response from some chick WHO YOU'VE KNOWN ALL OF 5 MINUTES.




And as far as what happened on that date of yours,it just seems like first date gitters. It didn't seem to have anything to do with your abuse history.
That kind of stuff can EASILY be fixed,but that anger and hate you spoke of will require some soul-searching.
 

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Igetit! said:
You can't let HOW YOU FEEL about YOUR LIFE be determined by on a yes or no response from some chick
Bingo. You beat me to the answer, the same one that would come out after a lot of therapy. You can't define your self-worth by your current success with women. Scoring a hot girl does not change your value, any more so than when she gets her period a few days later and doesn't like you any more. You're still the same person the whole time.
 

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Assuming the OP is real, he needs serious professional help, not opinions from random interweb folk. The only responsible thing anybody can do here is suggest he see a trained therapist.
 

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Ok thanks for telling use how it really is Zarky. So glad you came by to set us straight.

Any trained professional would agree that social support is a huge factor influencing mental health outcomes. You are basically making yourself look like an idiot for overlooking that fact.
 

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omkara said:
Any trained professional would agree that social support is a huge factor influencing mental health outcomes. You are basically making yourself look like an idiot for overlooking that fact.
Any time someone personally attacks me or anyone else, I know they have no argument and nothing of wisdom to say about the issue.

I'd like to see "any trained professional" who would suggest that asking random anonymous internet loons for advice on what is clearly a serious psychological problem is a good idea. That's just silly.
 

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I went to a therapist a few years ago and told her about my problems with women in that I felt insecure and didn't understand them. She gave me Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. She had the right intentions but didn't know how to really help me. That book was not the best advice.

Trained "professionals" love to treat the problems and not cure them. And what does a 50 year old woman know about younger women these days? Times have changed.
 

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Crank Scank said:
There was one time in my life that i actually enjoyed the company of women but since i realised they do not like me because i look intimidating or maybe i'm not presentable or boyfriend material. I ****ing hate ****ing women. They are such *****es, they do not ****ing want me. and i am speaking from the heart here. I am a nice guy and get along well with my friends but when i go out with my friends i cannot meet women. I have built up so much anger and fructraion over the years with women. Because i cannot attract them or they don't like bald muscular guys because it intimidates them, i ask myself what they **** are they doing with loosers who are way below me in terms of looks, status,success in business?

Whoa talk about not being able to sell yourself. I could just imagine if you were a used car salesman what you would say to the girl who didn't want to buy the car you were selling:

"You stupid bvtch! Why don't you want to buy the car? Don't you know THIS is the BEST car EVER? You HAVE TO buy this CAR now or you can go to hell!"

Not a turn on bro. THINK about it. For girls to LIKE you, you HAVE TO sell yourself. Getting angry and cursing them out because they aren't buying what you are selling is pitiful and makes them think something is wrong with your product.


I am going through i difficult period in my life that i almost feel suicideal, i am currently seeing a counsellor but even he cannot help me.

A counselor is a COACH. They are supposed to GUIDE you in the right direction, NOT supply you with hot 22 year old girls and a magnificent high paying job.

i have been out 3 nights in a row and got talking to a few women, i am genuinely a nice guy but when i do not get the attention or my friends get alot of attention from women i basically punish myself on the inside and start believing that no women would want to date me for whatever reason.

Wow, the answer is right in front of you and you come here thinking we have the answer to all your problems. If your friends getting alot of attention from women, they are doing SOMETHING right and you should be asking help from THEM.

I thinks it's because i look manly and agressive. So obviously they do not want to talk to a guy like that. So it's got to a stage that when i am in a bar and a women shows interest in me, maybe by touching off me in a club or playing with my chain. When this happens i tell her to get the **** out of my face or gently push her away from me. They usually push me back or give me a dirty look but it only makes me want to threat other women the same way. I know that i am having some serious mental issues with women but every other area in my life i feel completely sane.

What do you expect them to do when you swear at them and shove them away? Rip off their clothes and have sex with you? THINK ABOUT IT: If you are buying a car, and the car salesman shoves you and kicks you because the other 5 interested parties didn't buy, what would you do?

How can every other area be completely sane in your life when you just said you feel suicidal?


I was abused and beating by my mother as a kid so i guess that is a part of the reason why i am still single and make it even more diffcult to talk to women or show any interest in them anymore.

That's not a excuse. Lots of kids were beaten and abused and now they are going out with supermodels.


It is pure pain and i don't know what i can do to make myself feel better. My self esteem and confidence has hit rock bottom in this area of my life (Just Relationships). I am seriously hurt and don't believe any theraphy can help me. I feel that if this continues i will probably end up hurting somebody or myself. Even when they are nice to me i am a complete jerk and try to hurt their feelings because of how i feel towards them.

It appears you have mommy issues. But ask yourself: even if you are a COMPLETE JERK to them and want to HURT THEIR FEELINGS, what does it get you? It gives you a high for 4 seconds, and then you are back to being alone. Instead of thinking how can hurt women, think what you can OFFER them.


Any suggestions? I don't want to hear any pua bull**** that obviously doesn't make sense, that **** doesn't work anyway. tried it for years. If you are just new to this forum and have very little experience with women please don't try to give advice because you will just be wasting my time.
Bro you not only have mommy issues and self esteem issues, you have anger issues. No one OWES you ANYTHING. You have to THINK what you can offer a girl OTHER than you can GIVE her sex on a dime's notice. She can get sex from ANY GUY SHE WANTS, why should she give sex to you? Because you punch her? Because you kick her? Because you swear at her? Not a good trade. You have to GIVE girls SOMETHING VALUABLE if you WANT something from them.
 
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