finickywake
Don Juan
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So, these past few weeks I got a ton of girls numbers on Tinder & the like. Due to my circumstances online dating seems to be the easiest thing to do right now.
Here's the issue: girls are rapidly losing interest. Or, once a date/meetup is planned they go silent. I posted about this sort of before, but I thought the issue had resolved itself. Apparently not.
Now, one girl actually met up with me. She displayed high interest on the date and afterwards. She invited me over for dinner two days later and cooked me a meal. We hung out and eventually were making out. She was very aggressive about it. I said we should take it into her bedroom, because she was clearly grinding on me, telling me she liked it when I grabbed her ass, etc...This is the second time I'd hung out with her. She then said, word for word, "Aaah (like turned on sigh) I would love to, but...I can't. Come back in 4-5 days." I left shortly after and she kissed me on the way out.
So I waited a few days, sent a text saying I was gonna be in x location on saturday, we should hang out when I was done. She responded a day later. Said she was gonna be at x that night at this festival they are holding, & "raincheck?".
Seems to me she lost interest. So I'm just not gonna reply, because I don't know what else to do. And I thought she was gonna be my first plate/lay after the ex.
Another example. This girl sends me a message on POF. Then she sends me a message on Tinder. Then she just gives me her number without me asking, "because she doesn't log in to those often". She's 21.
We text back and forth a little, I say we should meet up this weekend, I'd get back to her with details. She says definitely, that sounds lovely, and smileys and such.
The next day I tell her the time and day. And she doesn't respond.
WTF. I think girl 1 lost interest because she smokes weed & drinks. I don't do either anymore, and made that pretty clear to her. Girl 2, I don't even know. It was like she exploded with interest then as soon as I expressed a desire to meet up she disappears into lala land.
Now I'm texting like 3 other girls. All want to meet up. RIGHT. So far every girl wants to meet, even if they bring it up themselves, and then when the time comes to actually set it up, poof they are ghost.
This is frustrating because when I was an unhealthy drunk and druggie I was at least always banging one girl, with maybe 2 week dry spells. And none of these chicks did drugs, and very few of them even drank. Now it's been a month since I've been laid.
I don't understand why the hell girls were attracted to me when I was boozing like Nicholas Cage in Leaving Las Vegas.
Is this common with online/tinder chicks? I'm new to this all (sober).
Here's the issue: girls are rapidly losing interest. Or, once a date/meetup is planned they go silent. I posted about this sort of before, but I thought the issue had resolved itself. Apparently not.
Now, one girl actually met up with me. She displayed high interest on the date and afterwards. She invited me over for dinner two days later and cooked me a meal. We hung out and eventually were making out. She was very aggressive about it. I said we should take it into her bedroom, because she was clearly grinding on me, telling me she liked it when I grabbed her ass, etc...This is the second time I'd hung out with her. She then said, word for word, "Aaah (like turned on sigh) I would love to, but...I can't. Come back in 4-5 days." I left shortly after and she kissed me on the way out.
So I waited a few days, sent a text saying I was gonna be in x location on saturday, we should hang out when I was done. She responded a day later. Said she was gonna be at x that night at this festival they are holding, & "raincheck?".
Seems to me she lost interest. So I'm just not gonna reply, because I don't know what else to do. And I thought she was gonna be my first plate/lay after the ex.
Another example. This girl sends me a message on POF. Then she sends me a message on Tinder. Then she just gives me her number without me asking, "because she doesn't log in to those often". She's 21.
We text back and forth a little, I say we should meet up this weekend, I'd get back to her with details. She says definitely, that sounds lovely, and smileys and such.
The next day I tell her the time and day. And she doesn't respond.
WTF. I think girl 1 lost interest because she smokes weed & drinks. I don't do either anymore, and made that pretty clear to her. Girl 2, I don't even know. It was like she exploded with interest then as soon as I expressed a desire to meet up she disappears into lala land.
Now I'm texting like 3 other girls. All want to meet up. RIGHT. So far every girl wants to meet, even if they bring it up themselves, and then when the time comes to actually set it up, poof they are ghost.
This is frustrating because when I was an unhealthy drunk and druggie I was at least always banging one girl, with maybe 2 week dry spells. And none of these chicks did drugs, and very few of them even drank. Now it's been a month since I've been laid.
I don't understand why the hell girls were attracted to me when I was boozing like Nicholas Cage in Leaving Las Vegas.
Is this common with online/tinder chicks? I'm new to this all (sober).