Here is the text version of the Vin DiCarlo escalation ladder in its entirety:-
The DiCarlo Escalation Ladder is a step-by step formula, followed
by a number of laws which govern it's use for maximum effect.
It is designed to provide a smooth escalation, containing no significant
jumps that may cause a woman to object. At the same time, the DEL
contains no extraneous steps which are non-essential to the seduction
process. This results in a FAST escalation sequence which is compatible
with a variety of verbal structures, and has been field tested and perfected
by myself, Vincent DiCarlo, in hundreds of trials.
Without further marketing, hype or other bull****, I present... the Di-
Carlo Escalation Ladder!
1. Eye Contact and Initial Conversation
Eye contact is the first step. It's use shows social awareness and always
improves your chances of starting a conversation. Start your conversational
game shortly after eye contact.
2. Incidental Class 1
The first class of incidental kino involves the arms and hands. Shaking
hands, tapping people on the shoulder and brushing arms are all very
common things that we do on a daily basis. Done in an incidental manner,
i.e. occurring merely by chance or without intention or calculation, it is extremely
effective at building initial comfort.
Incidental Class 1 Examples:
• Hand shaking
• Arm brushing
• Light touching on her arm to emphasize your points
• Anchoring her arm near elbow to hold her close as you talk
• Standing next to her with your arm touching hers
• High Fives
• Palm Reading
3. Overt Class 1
There is an unmistakable recurring pattern throughout the DEL: incidental
kino, followed by overt kino. Overt means open to view or knowledge;
not concealed or secret.
While incidental kino is usually done in a context which masks your
intention, overt kino is not. The incidental kino which precedes it creates
the familiarity necessary for the overt kino to be accepted.
Overt Class 1 Examples:
• Holding hands
• Arm in arm escorting
4. Incidental Class 2
Class 2 kino involves any contact which takes place on her torso or
legs. This is slightly more intimate than class 1, but does not include erogenous
zones such as her breasts, crotch or inner thighs. Those areas are not
paid any direct attention until the escalation ramp - to be defined later.
Incidental Class 2 Examples:
• Standing very close with your legs touching hers
• Sitting close together with your legs touching hers
• Lightly and incidentally brushing her abdomen with your hands
while talking
• Briefly touching her back with your palm while speaking as if you are
pulling her in to hear you better
5. Overt Class 2
Overt class 2 kino is usually done while sitting down. It's not necessary,
but definitely a smart place to make the transition to sitting down.
This class of kino should be done in a protective, almost romantic manner.
Overt Class 2 Examples:
• Frontal Hugging (done best as a positive reaction to her compliance)
• Escorting her through the bar with your hand on her lower back
• Sitting next to her and placing her leg over yours
• Holding her abdomen on the side while sitting down and talking
• Placing her hand on your thigh
6. Incidental Class 3
Her hair, face and neck are the regions included in class 3. Many
guys make the common mistake of touching these areas too soon, with a
girl they first met.
Girls are surprisingly protective of their hair, face and neck placing
these relatively high on the ladder. Another common mistake is that more
experienced guys will generally skip this step altogether, only to face last
minute resistance later on.
Incidental Class 3 Examples:
• Brushing (or pretending to brush) something off of her face
• Talking very closely with your face touching hers because the environment
is extremely loud
• Touching an interesting necklace she's wearing, meanwhile allowing
your fingers to lightly caress her neck
• Playfully pinching her cheeks
7. Overt Class 3
The manner in which kino is delivered in overt class 3, is very direct.
It is meant to prepare her for kissing, and is done in a very slow, gentle
and romantic way.
Most of the time you should be sitting down, relaxed and maintaining
a good sexual state and strong eye contact.
Overt Class 3 Examples:
• Placing her head to rest on your shoulder
• Moving your face into her neck and smelling her
• Lightly stroking her face with your finger, close in, looking into her
eyes
• Running your fingers through her hair, close in, looking into her eyes
• Holding her behind the neck with your palm to the side of her neck,
looking into her eyes
Escalation Ramp
While the above steps from 1-7 may take anywhere from 30 minutes
to 4 hours, the escalation ramp described on the following pages is very
rapid. The duration of the ramp should be about 5 - 15 minutes. Start the
ramp very quickly once you have complete isolation in a sex location.
8. Kissing
Start kissing from a very close proximity. Don't come diving in lips
first from three feet away. Ideally you should already be in a suitable position
for kissing before you try. If you have overt class 3 kino taken care of,
you're probably in the right spot.
A technique for building sexual tension - move closely in, slowly as if
you might kiss her, and then move away and start talking about something
else. This will build the tension and she will wonder when you're going to
actually kiss her.
A technique to initiate kissing - try placing your finger just underneath
her chin and pulling her mouth towards yours.
Kissing should be light and short at first. You should be the one to
pull away first. Don't use too much tongue at first, just use it to tease her,
and build anticipation.
9. Kissing Her Neck
Once you have kissed her for a bit, move down to her neck. Kiss it
gently, while holding her close to you.
Depending on how rough you want to set the mood, feel free to throw in
some gentle biting too.
10. Touching the Bare Skin of Her Back
Once you have established kissing both on her mouth and neck,
move your hands to her waist and underneath her shirt. Continue to hold
her close to you, now with your hands directly on her back.
11. Stomach to Stomach
Now that you have established touching her skin, below her shirt,
simply move your hand to the front, and lift her shirt, exposing only her
stomach. At the same time lift your shirt as well so that your abdomen is in
direct contact with hers.
It seems innocent, but will meanwhile trigger intense sexual feelings
inside of her. The only time she feels contact like that is usually when she's
naked and having sex.
12. Kissing her Body
Having her shirt pulled up affords the opportunity of moving downwards
to kiss and caress the bare flesh of her abdomen. Start kissing her
there, along the sides, and move upwards.
Touching and kissing the breasts is optional. It is not necessary, and
in some cases can be detrimental to your progress. There are some women
who have a negative anchor to their breasts.
Inch toward their breasts and feel her reaction. If she becomes increasingly
turned on, then go for it. If she starts to close down, skip the
breasts until you are already having sex.
13. Incidentally Stimulate Vagina
While you are kissing her body, you can position yourself between
her legs and use your midsection to rub against her vagina. If you are kissing
her mouth you can position your thigh to stimulate her vagina.
You can also be kissing her body and reach between her legs and
plant your hand on the bed below her. Then use your forearm to stimulate
her vagina. The key here is that because you aren't using your hand or fingers,
she has no basis for objection.
14. Direct Vaginal Stimulation from Behind (Inside Panties)
Once you have really amped her up by incidentally rubbing her vagina,
move your hand around to the back and slip it inside her panties and
touch her naked ass.
Next move your hand all the way down and reach her vagina. Start
first by touching the area around it. Then proceed to finger her from behind.
Women never expect to have it happen this way. Trying to reach your
hand down the front of her pants will often be resisted, but from the rear is
unexpected and effective.
If she is wearing a skirt or dress, you will instead move your hand
up the back of her leg, and reach her vagina that way. Finger her and then
proceed directly to step 16.
