Hey guys, just popping in with a quick tip, since I haven't posted in quite some time around here.
It's just downright pointless to ever avoid opening a girl. I mean, if she is standing in the general vicinity of you, why not go over and talk to her? What is the absolute worst that could happen?
Say you're at a party, and she is over on the other side of the room - if she has a group of friends with her, who cares, bring a wing if you feel you can't do it solo. When you get over there, just talk to your wing a little too loudly...say to your wing "Wow, I've never seen so many hot girls in one place before", or something equally stupid. Just put the fact out there that you're impressed at the attractiveness of the girls in the house tonight. Obviously, if you're near her at this point, she'll hear, and she'll take note - regardless if she says anything to you or not. Now you've got her attention, and you can open her easily. Don't even worry about neghits or anything silly like that - you've let her know that she's hot, so what? If this makes her ego go bonkers and she shuts you down, she's a tool. Otherwise, you've already got a solid in.
Keep in mind that's just an example, and a rather poor one at that - my point is that you don't need amazing game or skills to get in with girls, even HS girls. All you need is some balls - it's not like your life depends on picking up, so don't put that much stress on yourself over it.
More and more, I see guys just too damn scared to make their move on girls, or even open them. Let me tell you something - this just makes everything easier for us. By opening a girl yourself, you show that you're a confident guy, and you set yourself apart from all the other tools who just stare at her and wonder all night long. If you want to GET action, you have to TAKE action. (Damn, that's a good quote )
One last thing, guys: keep your damn eyes open. If you think us guys go on the prowl for girls, girls hunt for guys JUST AS MUCH AS WE HUNT FOR THEM. In other words, they look to pick us up, too. However, as has been pointed out so many times:
WOMEN WILL NOT USUALLY HIT ON YOU DIRECTLY.
(of course, there are exceptions: ugly girls, take-charge women, sometimes any woman will...but I digress.)
Women have this weird way of trying to pick you up: they will PUT YOU IN A VERY EASY POSITION TO PICK THEM UP. It sounds confusing, but it really isn't. If a girl is feeling you, she will definitely make herself much more accessible and available, and her presence around you will increase. I know this has been said before but I want to stress it again, because my buddies miss SO MANY OPPORTUNITIES. If she changes her routine to try to meet/talk to you, you're IN, buddy. You just need to capitalize.
A stupid little trick I usually pull here in university is, if I get the feeling a girl is into me, I'll sit in a different place than usual in class and watch what she does. This works even in a very large (i.e. 500+ students) lecture hall. Just sit in a different place than usual and see what she does - one lecture, a certain girl looked at my usual spot almost every minute when class started, expecting me to show up. She nearly stared a hole through my usual seat, I swear. She then looked to her right about halfway through class, and spotted me, and I caught some halfway glances the rest of class. In like Flynt, baby.
If a girl seems to be showing up near you a lot lately, or just always conveniently runs into you between classes, etc. etc., she's all about it.
Just watch what's going on - I got a TA interested in me by just telling her that her new haircut looked good during one of our class tutorials. She laughed it off, but after class, she came over to me, made some fluffy opener to talk to me, and chatted for a bit - and eventually asked me what I thought looked so good about her hair. Come on, it doesn't get much easier than this, guys. She opens me and sets me up, all because of a small little fluff compliment.
Time is running short, so the take-home points on this post are:
- Just open - it doesn't matter how hot she is or how 'impossible' you might think it is.
- How bad can it be? What do you REALLY have to lose?
- Keep on the lookout for women giving you the opportunities to pick up, because it happens way the hell more than anybody thinks.
- Don't be afraid to toss out a compliment, if used wisely (i.e. one in a while, not every time), they will get you in like crazy.
Take it easy, guys. I'll try to check replies, but no promises on that.
It's just downright pointless to ever avoid opening a girl. I mean, if she is standing in the general vicinity of you, why not go over and talk to her? What is the absolute worst that could happen?
Say you're at a party, and she is over on the other side of the room - if she has a group of friends with her, who cares, bring a wing if you feel you can't do it solo. When you get over there, just talk to your wing a little too loudly...say to your wing "Wow, I've never seen so many hot girls in one place before", or something equally stupid. Just put the fact out there that you're impressed at the attractiveness of the girls in the house tonight. Obviously, if you're near her at this point, she'll hear, and she'll take note - regardless if she says anything to you or not. Now you've got her attention, and you can open her easily. Don't even worry about neghits or anything silly like that - you've let her know that she's hot, so what? If this makes her ego go bonkers and she shuts you down, she's a tool. Otherwise, you've already got a solid in.
Keep in mind that's just an example, and a rather poor one at that - my point is that you don't need amazing game or skills to get in with girls, even HS girls. All you need is some balls - it's not like your life depends on picking up, so don't put that much stress on yourself over it.
More and more, I see guys just too damn scared to make their move on girls, or even open them. Let me tell you something - this just makes everything easier for us. By opening a girl yourself, you show that you're a confident guy, and you set yourself apart from all the other tools who just stare at her and wonder all night long. If you want to GET action, you have to TAKE action. (Damn, that's a good quote )
One last thing, guys: keep your damn eyes open. If you think us guys go on the prowl for girls, girls hunt for guys JUST AS MUCH AS WE HUNT FOR THEM. In other words, they look to pick us up, too. However, as has been pointed out so many times:
WOMEN WILL NOT USUALLY HIT ON YOU DIRECTLY.
(of course, there are exceptions: ugly girls, take-charge women, sometimes any woman will...but I digress.)
Women have this weird way of trying to pick you up: they will PUT YOU IN A VERY EASY POSITION TO PICK THEM UP. It sounds confusing, but it really isn't. If a girl is feeling you, she will definitely make herself much more accessible and available, and her presence around you will increase. I know this has been said before but I want to stress it again, because my buddies miss SO MANY OPPORTUNITIES. If she changes her routine to try to meet/talk to you, you're IN, buddy. You just need to capitalize.
A stupid little trick I usually pull here in university is, if I get the feeling a girl is into me, I'll sit in a different place than usual in class and watch what she does. This works even in a very large (i.e. 500+ students) lecture hall. Just sit in a different place than usual and see what she does - one lecture, a certain girl looked at my usual spot almost every minute when class started, expecting me to show up. She nearly stared a hole through my usual seat, I swear. She then looked to her right about halfway through class, and spotted me, and I caught some halfway glances the rest of class. In like Flynt, baby.
If a girl seems to be showing up near you a lot lately, or just always conveniently runs into you between classes, etc. etc., she's all about it.
Just watch what's going on - I got a TA interested in me by just telling her that her new haircut looked good during one of our class tutorials. She laughed it off, but after class, she came over to me, made some fluffy opener to talk to me, and chatted for a bit - and eventually asked me what I thought looked so good about her hair. Come on, it doesn't get much easier than this, guys. She opens me and sets me up, all because of a small little fluff compliment.
Time is running short, so the take-home points on this post are:
- Just open - it doesn't matter how hot she is or how 'impossible' you might think it is.
- How bad can it be? What do you REALLY have to lose?
- Keep on the lookout for women giving you the opportunities to pick up, because it happens way the hell more than anybody thinks.
- Don't be afraid to toss out a compliment, if used wisely (i.e. one in a while, not every time), they will get you in like crazy.
Take it easy, guys. I'll try to check replies, but no promises on that.