#1 - Maturity, objectively positive traits
- Doesn't treat other high quality people who give her their time like toys
- Takes responsibility for her own actions first and looks for reasons to not do so second
- Is able to see herself from a perspective other than her own and analyses the perspectives she takes
- Does not intently guilt trip, blackmail, shame, or do any other kind of emotional manipulation to other high quality people
- Understands that the reason anyone would
want anyone else in their life boils down to them making the person feel good, and because of that she isn't afraid to have fun with and support me
- Is aware of her own probably biological (I say probably because I don't want to say for sure without being an expert on the subject) drives and so has a conscious line of defense against f*cking the first guy who gropes her when she's drunk or leading someone on just because he gives her attention and beta security
* I consider #1 to be my "universal" high quality traits. #2 is completely dependent on the individual guy's taste but I listed it anyway just to give my complete picture whereas I think most can agree on #1 for a serious LTR. #1's traits blend into each other. I don't expect anyone to fulfill the whole list and because of that I basically have a "show signs of being able to learn this and don't be an irredeemable nutcase" minimum instead of looking for an already "perfect" girl. I filter every female I encounter according to this. I also didn't list the obvious things that would make me disqualify a female completely, like being BPD/psychopathic/gold digger/etc.
#2 - Physicality, subjectively positive traits
- I like big girls. I mean
really big girls
- Would still be pretty even if she was slim, ie. she's just femininely attractive in general, not just someone who is fat because she's a reject (the last part is what practically everyone assumes you mean when you say you like big girls, but funnily no one instantly assumes you're into the girl so ugly she couldn't be a hooker when you say you're into slim girls
)
- More pear than apple-shaped, but not to a deformed extreme when it looks like the halves of two different people or like someone just inflated one body part; it's got to be somewhat proportionate
- Comfortable in her own skin and takes care of herself like any slim girl would other than the being really big part (ie. no smoking or bad hygiene for example)
- Not short-legged
I know... "Hey buddy, if you find this girl let me be the one to call the guinnes book of world records". Just finding the stuff from #1 would be hard enough but then you add #2 to the mix... hoo boy is it gonna take me a while
but I guess that can be seen as a test of character.