What happened?

[Machine10033]

When I found this forum in 2002 I was 22 years old. I was fortunate enough to have an absolute blast in my 20’s and early 30’s. Vacations... hookups... great memories. During those years my goal was to get this out of my system and I believed in my 40’s-70’s the pace of my life should slow down and be more stable.

fast forward I’m 43 now... married and have that life. I have no desire to go out and live like I did in my 20’s. I am noticing it seems like I am in the minority.

My friends are always trying to book guys trips to locations where they can find females their age to hook up with. I go on one of these trips a year I enjoy being around them but am on a completely different schedule. I go... golf... workout...eat, have a few drinks then hit the hay. They go out until 2am hunting for married chicks. Usually I wake up and there are random Middle Aged females they are getting rid of before our tee times.

I see this all over now... groups of middle aged.. to actual geriatric aged groups running around acting like they are 20. What do you think caused this change... or was this always happening and I just never noticed when younger ?

 

[Dr.Suave]

Peter Pan Syndrome, maybe. I have friends who took forever to finish college, I finished my second post graduate degree before they finished college. I alway thought they felt like they wouldnt be "young" anymore if they ever finished college.

Or your friends never found and pulled a quality woman. They, like many posters here, will say stuff like "There are no unicorns", which is a good mentality to have when going through a bad break up, but its a cope or just kind of sad imho.

Or they feel they married too young. They feel they didnt play the field enough.

 

[Machine10033]

Have your buddies been in LTRs for the most part?

yep.... all of them married in their 20’s right after college.

 

[Machine10033]

I alway thought they felt like they wouldnt be "young" anymore if they ever finished college.

it does sort of feel like some type of midlife crisis for them. I honestly have had to start spending less time with them. When they do want to meet up it’s at an event where they can try and meet Middle Aged females.

I’m honestly considering opting out of our annual golf trip. I might as well go to a beach town on my own... relax... workout and get some r and r.... I feel bad but im no longer 20 and am grateful I no longer live like that

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

yep.... all of them married in their 20’s right after college.

so now they want to play the field, because they missed out on that.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

When I found this forum in 2002 I was 22 years old. I was fortunate enough to have an absolute blast in my 20’s and early 30’s. Vacations... hookups... great memories. During those years my goal was to get this out of my system and I believed in my 40’s-70’s the pace of my life should slow down and be more stable.

fast forward I’m 43 now... married and have that life. I have no desire to go out and live like I did in my 20’s. I am noticing it seems like I am in the minority.

My friends are always trying to book guys trips to locations where they can find females their age to hook up with. I go on one of these trips a year I enjoy being around them but am on a completely different schedule. I go... golf... workout...eat, have a few drinks then hit the hay. They go out until 2am hunting for married chicks. Usually I wake up and there are random Middle Aged females they are getting rid of before our tee times.

I see this all over now... groups of middle aged.. to actual geriatric aged groups running around acting like they are 20. What do you think caused this change... or was this always happening and I just never noticed when younger ?

I used to be at night clubs 5 days a week in my 20's. All that bs loses its appeal after a certain age. I tried skateboarding recently and thought "Why am I the only one wearing a helmet?"... I thought maybe there was some reasoning behind it but I came to find out young people see safety gear as 'uncool' now and would rather get a TBI or some other traumatic injury. That's when I realized that I'm too old for this sh1t. I no longer care what is cool... and I guess a lot of my hobbies involved that component when I was younger.

A lot of the guys who are still hung up on getting chicks in their 40s and going out 'partying' never had the balls to do it in their 20s. The 18+ nightclubs are just sausage fests and the 40 y/o's walking around raves are cr33py asf. I remember seeing the odd old guy walking around Candy Raver parties when I was in my 20s and thinking to myself "What a loser".

I used to be the bad kid, now I'm the principal.

 

[Machine10033]

lot of the guys who are still hung up on getting chicks in their 40s and going out 'partying' never had the balls to do it in their 20s. The 18+ nightclubs are just sausage fests and the 40 y/o's walking around raves are cr33py asf.

lol ! Exactly ! I remember even in my 20’s thinking man this scene is gross but I would pull chicks.... thankfully the only thing elseI pulled was pinkeye once and a few colds

I would wake up at some girls apartment hung over.. feeling awkward... and hoping I wouldn’t need a course of antibiotics or worse!

I also remember the old guys usually juiced out of their minds wearing affliction shirts or Ed hardy shirts.... and feeling sad. Thinking if this is me in my 40’s and 50’s.... I might lay down in traffic

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

lol ! Exactly ! I remember even in my 20’s thinking man this scene is gross but I would pull chicks.... thankfully the only thing elseI pulled was pinkeye once and a few colds

I would wake up at some girls apartment hung over.. feeling awkward... and hoping I wouldn’t need a course of antibiotics or worse!

I also remember the old guys usually juiced out of their minds wearing affliction shirts or Ed hardy shirts.... and feeling sad. Thinking if this is me in my 40’s and 50’s.... I might lay down in traffic

That's how Extinction Rebellion happened.

 

[Murk]

It's what happens when you don't get tied down and lay foundations with a sub 8.

It's always been happening, why would your 20-year-old self know or care what middle-aged men are doing? Enjoy your married family life, you made your bed, now lie in it, forever.

 

[Slowhandluke]

I see this all over now... groups of middle aged.. to actual geriatric aged groups running around acting like they are 20. What do you think caused this change... or was this always happening and I just never noticed when younger ?

it's called divorce and people not getting married. when I was longer, older people had kids and obligations. now adults have at most 1 kid to worry about if any, and more free time. times have changed.

 

[Plinco]

Peter Pan Syndrome, maybe.

That's a bs concept when you think about it. The issue is accountability, to whom and for what.

yep.... all of them married in their 20’s right after college.

Are they married now?