Do you think that a fat mom means their daughter will pretty much be fat someday.
I've met a couple hot skinny girls which is awesome but it seems they all have moms who are overweight later in life.
Now the most recent girl i've met is a five foot 3 or 4, beautiful blonde, 26 years old, great body real skinny, smart, funny, blah blah blah and she says she goes to the gym a few times a week.
Now you could say i'm pretty into health and fitness, i eat very healthy, lift for an hour and a half or so 5 days a week and maybe do an hour or two of cardio a week (used to run almost everyday but was getting too skinny and killing my gains so i stopped running so much)
So yeah i'm into fitness and being healthy and the thought of ending up with a girl who will stop taking care of herself and let herself get fat disgusts me. That's not the sort of partner i want later in life and i'm not gonna let my life be ruled by some girl. I work hard to take care of myself and i expect the same from any girl i'm going to be with. In addition i want to still be able to enjoy activities like biking and hiking and so on when i'm 60 and i would like to enjoy them with my wife, but you can't exactly do that with a fat obese wife.
I know i know i shouldn't be looking for a wife. Well i'm not really looking for a wife. I'm not interested in just hooking up though, i'm looking for a girl that has POTENTIAL. A girl that if i decided was cool and if i liked enough, i could see myself POSSIBLY being with. I look for a girl that has the qualities i would want in a long term partner but i don't go into it thinking of marriage, i don't start planning our life together, i just don't want to get involved with a girl that i know i wouldn't be compatible with, like a girl who was bisexual or a nudist or who lacked class.
That said, i come into a conflict with myself when trying to decide whether i should stay with a girl or not. Part of me hopes that if they just eat healthy most of the time and work out reasonably they should be able to avoid ending up like their mom, even after having kids. But the other part of me says "they are doomed, there's no chance, they are going to be fat you should just move on and hope to eventually meet that awesome hot skinny girl who also has a skinny mom."
So the recent girl although she says she doesn't eat totally healthy, she also doesn't eat a lot. She weighs less than 100 pounds i think(can't donate blood). We went for mexican on our first date and she had enchiladas and she only ate one and touched nothing else on her plate so she doesn't seem to have a huge appetite. SHe also doesn't seem to hate healthy food she just doesn't usually eat all that healthy i guess. So part of me thinks there is hope there.
But there is still the other part of me that thinks i'm just wasting time and she'll end up fat. I don't want to waste time that i could be using to meet other people to date a girl i can't see myself being with longterm. Last girl i dated i broke up with because she was stubborn and she ate horribly unhealthy (never once saw her eat healthy) and had a fat mom. SHe was the type of girl who wouldn't listen to me or wouldn't care about anything i said about health and so i could tell she would end up fat someday and not care at all. As a result of this most of my relationships tend to hover around the 3 month mark with me being the one who breaks up with them.
So is this something you guys would stop seeing a girl for? I tend to be quite picky, and while some say it's shallow i disagree with that because no matter how hot they are i won't stay with them or date them for long if they are stupid or immature and annoying. SO i expect more than just being hot.
On one hand i want to give them a chance and i hope that some of my healthiness and interest in fitness eventually rubs off on her, i hope that my healthy eating habits and the healthy food i cook would rub off on her but on the other hand i wonder if i should bother or even waste my time with it.
For now i plan on continuing to date her, i just started seeing her last weekend and i don't have any other girls i'm currently interested in here at UNI so i figure at the least i might as well date her and see how it goes until i meet someone else, can't hurt right?
BUt still i can't help but be dissappointed when i meet a girl who's hot and then find out her mom is fat. If it matters her sisters are heavier though her sisters have always been slightly heavier i think she said, they didn't just suddenly balloon up and she says her sisters take after her moms side while she takes after her dads side.
Is this just being too picky though? Or do i have a legitimate reason to be concerned.
Does anyone have any experience with this? anyone here had girls that they got more into health and how did that work out?
If you read this far, wow, thanks for reading and thanks for any input.
I've met a couple hot skinny girls which is awesome but it seems they all have moms who are overweight later in life.
Now the most recent girl i've met is a five foot 3 or 4, beautiful blonde, 26 years old, great body real skinny, smart, funny, blah blah blah and she says she goes to the gym a few times a week.
Now you could say i'm pretty into health and fitness, i eat very healthy, lift for an hour and a half or so 5 days a week and maybe do an hour or two of cardio a week (used to run almost everyday but was getting too skinny and killing my gains so i stopped running so much)
So yeah i'm into fitness and being healthy and the thought of ending up with a girl who will stop taking care of herself and let herself get fat disgusts me. That's not the sort of partner i want later in life and i'm not gonna let my life be ruled by some girl. I work hard to take care of myself and i expect the same from any girl i'm going to be with. In addition i want to still be able to enjoy activities like biking and hiking and so on when i'm 60 and i would like to enjoy them with my wife, but you can't exactly do that with a fat obese wife.
I know i know i shouldn't be looking for a wife. Well i'm not really looking for a wife. I'm not interested in just hooking up though, i'm looking for a girl that has POTENTIAL. A girl that if i decided was cool and if i liked enough, i could see myself POSSIBLY being with. I look for a girl that has the qualities i would want in a long term partner but i don't go into it thinking of marriage, i don't start planning our life together, i just don't want to get involved with a girl that i know i wouldn't be compatible with, like a girl who was bisexual or a nudist or who lacked class.
That said, i come into a conflict with myself when trying to decide whether i should stay with a girl or not. Part of me hopes that if they just eat healthy most of the time and work out reasonably they should be able to avoid ending up like their mom, even after having kids. But the other part of me says "they are doomed, there's no chance, they are going to be fat you should just move on and hope to eventually meet that awesome hot skinny girl who also has a skinny mom."
So the recent girl although she says she doesn't eat totally healthy, she also doesn't eat a lot. She weighs less than 100 pounds i think(can't donate blood). We went for mexican on our first date and she had enchiladas and she only ate one and touched nothing else on her plate so she doesn't seem to have a huge appetite. SHe also doesn't seem to hate healthy food she just doesn't usually eat all that healthy i guess. So part of me thinks there is hope there.
But there is still the other part of me that thinks i'm just wasting time and she'll end up fat. I don't want to waste time that i could be using to meet other people to date a girl i can't see myself being with longterm. Last girl i dated i broke up with because she was stubborn and she ate horribly unhealthy (never once saw her eat healthy) and had a fat mom. SHe was the type of girl who wouldn't listen to me or wouldn't care about anything i said about health and so i could tell she would end up fat someday and not care at all. As a result of this most of my relationships tend to hover around the 3 month mark with me being the one who breaks up with them.
So is this something you guys would stop seeing a girl for? I tend to be quite picky, and while some say it's shallow i disagree with that because no matter how hot they are i won't stay with them or date them for long if they are stupid or immature and annoying. SO i expect more than just being hot.
On one hand i want to give them a chance and i hope that some of my healthiness and interest in fitness eventually rubs off on her, i hope that my healthy eating habits and the healthy food i cook would rub off on her but on the other hand i wonder if i should bother or even waste my time with it.
For now i plan on continuing to date her, i just started seeing her last weekend and i don't have any other girls i'm currently interested in here at UNI so i figure at the least i might as well date her and see how it goes until i meet someone else, can't hurt right?
BUt still i can't help but be dissappointed when i meet a girl who's hot and then find out her mom is fat. If it matters her sisters are heavier though her sisters have always been slightly heavier i think she said, they didn't just suddenly balloon up and she says her sisters take after her moms side while she takes after her dads side.
Is this just being too picky though? Or do i have a legitimate reason to be concerned.
Does anyone have any experience with this? anyone here had girls that they got more into health and how did that work out?
If you read this far, wow, thanks for reading and thanks for any input.