What are you guys thinking of Monk mode?

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Probably you saw me in a topic and probably I was saying how to treat a girl.
So I saw monk mode and I thought I should try it.
I am a med student, I will be a doctor in 4-5 years bla bla but I'm 105kg(I lost 30 kg), I don't know much about girls, and the most important one we(with my friends) doesn't have a good social environment.
We can't meet with new people so I'm bad at sociality.
So I decided not to chase women, I should improve myself

BUT
Should I try monk mode? What do you think about it?
I saw a pua mentor and he said It is bull****, you should keep talking, keep meeting with women.
 

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Probably you saw me in a topic and probably I was saying how to treat a girl.
So I saw monk mode and I thought I should try it.
I am a med student, I will be a doctor in 4-5 years bla bla but I'm 105kg(I lost 30 kg), I don't know much about girls, and the most important one we(with my friends) doesn't have a good social environment.
We can't meet with new people so I'm bad at sociality.
So I decided not to chase women, I should improve myself

BUT
Should I try monk mode? What do you think about it?
I saw a pua mentor and he said It is bull****, you should keep talking, keep meeting with women.
I agree with the PUA mentor.
 

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Drop the title of Monk mode and just spend time focusing on yourself and working internally. It isn't BS to set aside time to prioritize yourself, your career, your mental health and your fitness. Disregard anyone laying claim to being a "pua Mentor".

Never chase women.

Should you still gain experience with them? Yes, but if you are falling short in others aspects of your life then women should be the bottom of the priority totem poll in most cases. You do not chase after them though, not ever. You can still meet and interact with women while prioritizing your pursuit of success. The issue is a lot of young guys suck at the balancing act and fall into a woman and lose themselves in the process.
 

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I successfully went through a rigorous post-graduate program at a top university. Yet. I always had some girl around. I think its neccassary for ones mental health.
 

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I successfully went through a rigorous post-graduate program at a top university. Yet. I always had some girl around. I think its neccassary for ones mental health.
I accept with you but I can't make it. I live in a small town and can't find new people to meet
 

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Drop the title of Monk mode and just spend time focusing on yourself and working internally. It isn't BS to set aside time to prioritize yourself, your career, your mental health and your fitness. Disregard anyone laying claim to being a "pua Mentor".

Never chase women.

Should you still gain experience with them? Yes, but if you are falling short in others aspects of your life then women should be the bottom of the priority totem poll in most cases. You do not chase after them though, not ever. You can still meet and interact with women while prioritizing your pursuit of success. The issue is a lot of young guys suck at the balancing act and fall into a woman and lose themselves in the process.
Actually not that big. I just feeling lonely and sometimes masturbate tooooo much(and sometimes really have erection problems).
Actually I don't want a girl. I chase a woman for weeks or months and she rejected me but I noticed that If she comes to me tomorrow I won't be happy with that.
I didn't have a relationship for 20 years and I just feel lonely. But as i say if you give me that woman I feel bored with her.
One day I talked with a woman from Instagram. We decided to go out for a date and my attention is finished. I thought not to go date. But after 2 hours she said me I'm younger than her so she didn't want me. My attention became maximum.
I don't know why. I want someone but I escape.
 

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I’m basically monk mode but I still pursue women. That way, if I don’t get one, I don’t care
Man I will be honest.
I live in a small town and can't meet with new people.
Also I don't know what to do with women because I'm not experienced.
I spent my life with studying, Working and my computer(some virtual things)
So now I'm a med student, I know a little bit coding, photoshop, making music etc.
I was the guy that good at pc and math but bad at women :D
Now I'm reading but just reading..
 

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Man I will be honest.
I live in a small town and can't meet with new people.
Also I don't know what to do with women because I'm not experienced.
I spent my life with studying, Working and my computer(some virtual things)
So now I'm a med student, I know a little bit coding, photoshop, making music etc.
I was the guy that good at pc and math but bad at women :D
Now I'm reading but just reading..
A virgin too I reckon? I was a virgin till I was 28. I tried pua but never got laid. It wasn’t till I went my own way and started being true to myself that things began clicking. I’ve since had more women than I can recall although the last couple years have been slow.

I know I’m not a Chad nor will I ever be. I don’t try to be something I’m not.
 

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A virgin too I reckon? I was a virgin till I was 28. I tried pua but never got laid. It wasn’t till I went my own way and started being true to myself that things began clicking. I’ve since had more women than I can recall although the last couple years have been slow.

I know I’m not a Chad nor will I ever be. I don’t try to be something I’m not.
Yess still virgin.
Actually I have this problem. You was virgin till 28 but that wasn't a problem for you.
I'm still 21 but I feel like I'm late for everything. I saw a beautiful physique, I wanted to make it but It feels like I'm late for it because We are in same age but he has a good physique.
I'm making music but Ppople get famous in their 20s so I feel like I'm late.
I should get more social experience and I'm still 21 but I feel I'm late.
I can't get over this problem
 

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It's good for extreme cases, the average guy will be better off learning to manage their time better and do multiple things at once. Nobody needs 16 hours a day 7 days a week to work out and focus on financial gains.
 

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Yess still virgin.
Actually I have this problem. You was virgin till 28 but that wasn't a problem for you.
I'm still 21 but I feel like I'm late for everything. I saw a beautiful physique, I wanted to make it but It feels like I'm late for it because We are in same age but he has a good physique.
I'm making music but Ppople get famous in their 20s so I feel like I'm late.
I should get more social experience and I'm still 21 but I feel I'm late.
I can't get over this problem
You can’t be your own man if you use other people are your measuring stick
 

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I am a med student, I will be a doctor in 4-5 years...
We can't meet with new people so I'm bad at sociality.
So I decided not to chase women, I should improve myself
Should I try monk mode? What do you think about it?
...you should keep talking, keep meeting with women.
Do it. I'm doing the same -> 1L law school.

I don't think you need to completely shut yourself off. In a working environment it's a golden opportunity to network and practice socializing. You can always practice socializing and always practice talking to girls.

BUT I do get where you're coming from -> your school probably is a small community -> everyone knows everyone and gossip spreads like wildfire.

I really think it's worth it to practice socializing. We lose these kinds of social opportunities as we get older and go out of our way to form new communities and social engagements. At school, we automatically have a reason to be in said community, and people gauge you overtime based on your skill, status, and etc. Meaning even if you lack a little social skills, they're still willing to interact w/ you.

I sincerely believe the winning plan is to LAY LOW. Perhaps the initial year or for some time there is a big dedication to your work/career. But plan your time ahead where there WILL be a window of opportunity to date a little and stretch your wings.

And yes, if Monk mode is what I think it is, I'm also abstaining from porn and trying not to jerk off. I don't believe in the powers hype but porn is a huge time waster. You also feel some self respect for not being a slave to your **** or women.
 

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